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WearingRed · April 2010

I just wanted to say hi And introduce myself to the board.

My name is WearingRed, I had my daughter Emily (formally BabyRed) on April 3 after 15 hours of labor. I am a dork, geek, and stay at home mom. I like have people around me who have been through what I have. We lost our first child (we named "him" Adam) 9 weeks found out at 11 weeks. I had a D&C the next day, and only had one cycle between the D&C and get pregnant with Emily. I am happy to be here!

Now for my question-
I love my daughter very much and would do anything for her, but I still don't really feel like a mom. Anyone else have this feeling? And if so how long before you felt like a mom?

lkstor · April 2010

Welcome!

Congrats on BabyRed

It definitely took a while for me to "get it" with the mom thing. Couple of weeks?

tiffanylaw06 · April 2010

Welcome and congratulations!! I agree with Ikstor, it took a few weeks, maybe a month or so. For me, I think it took that long because I was guarded and cautious my whole pregnancy. I kept saying, "hopefully the baby sticks" and things like that throughout the whole journey. I was so guarded that when they handed him to me it almost felt like it was a dream. It took a bit to really know it was real and to really feel like his mom. It will eventually click.

eas15905 · April 2010

Congrat's on BabyRed and welcome! I agree, don't feel bad if it takes a little while to feel like a "mom".

lovesinthehouse · April 2010

Congratulations Red!!!!!!!!!!!! We need pics of baby Emily!

I don't know if I really "feel like a mom." I love my son with all my heart and have just kind morphed into taking care of him. What is it supposed to feel like as a mom? I don't feel any different.

jen-dale · April 2010

So glad you're here!

aoverlock · April 2010

hi red! i'm with loves, we need to see a pic!

being a mom still feels pretty surreal to me, is that how it feels with you?

Babs022 · April 2010

congrats and welcome mommy!

kristinem17 · April 2010

Hello

I recognize your screen name from PAL. Welcome and Congrats! I know what you mean about not feeling like a Mom. It takes a while. DS is nearly 3 months old and the feeling still hasn't sunk in 100% with me. Everyday the feeling gets stronger though.

PurpleK26 · April 2010

Hey Red!

Well, if it helps, you're not alone. This week, actually yesterday, was the first time I felt 'all consuming make me tear up' feelings. I've loved my DD since day one and am crazy about her, but yesterday was the first time I felt that rush of emotions that I thought I'd feel right when she was born.

I still don't feel like a mom sometimes. It's weird. But, I've actually found that I feel more like a mom to her after I leave her with my mom for an hour or two. When I go to pick her up for the first time after my little 'break' and she smiles at me and rests her face in my neck, THEN I really feel like her mom. I think it just takes some time to get used to the fact!

lovemymaddy · April 2010

Glad to see you on here Red!

I think it's all still kinda surreal for me. I have moments where I look at her and it all doesn't seem real! Not to mention how fast time is just flying by! I think it's normal!

Hugs and welcome!

mrshutch · April 2010

Congrats and welcome! I remember having that feeling w/ DD. I knew that I had an innate love for her, but didn't really feel like a mom and was a bit frustrated that I didn't have the lovey dovey mommy thing going, like I saw w/ my friends who had babies a few months older. That kicked in at more like 3/4 months. I think the first couple/few months were a blur and I desperately wanted my old routine back. It was so great when I finally felt like we all had a routine down as a little family

AmysMelody · April 2010

Hey Red! Congrats on Baby Emily and it's so good to see you here! I didn't start feeling like a mom until I started getting out of the house and toting around the diaper bag, stroller, car seat, etc. It'll come - just give it some time. I also just love my snuggle time with her. I have to go back to work in 2 weeks, so I'm trying to fit in as much together time as I possibly can right now when she's still really tiny.

BeckyS1211 · April 2010

Congrats Red, and welcome baby Emily!!!

Davesbride07 · April 2010

Welcome and Congrats on baby Emily

I felt the same way until around 2 weeks. I think I was just so overwhelmed and sleep deprived. OnceI got into the swing of things things were better. Then all he!! broke loose, but that's a completely differant story!

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