s/o DC's Godparents - are you happy with them?

TXAggieBride06 · April 2010

Are you happy with the role your child's Godparents have played in your child's life thus far? Is it what you expected or is it more (or less)?

I ask because I am slightly disappointed in Claire's Godmother. At the time I chose her we were very close, despite her living in NYC. We met in college so we've known each other a long time. She flew in for DD's baptism, when she was 4 months PG with her first baby, which I thought was awesome. On Claire's 1st birthday, she sent a sweet gift but couldn't make her party due to distance and I wouldn't have expected her to. But things have gone downhill since she had her baby, who is now 17 months old. It is very hard to get a hold of her, despite the fact that she doesn't work, has a part-time nanny, a housecleaner, and a gardener. She is always stressed about her DS...and "jokes" about wanting to give him away. She always acts like she has the toughest life ever.

Anyway, the primary role of DD's Godparents is not to send her gifts. However, a card, at least on her birthday, is not asking too much I don't think. Her Godmother didn't do anything for her for Christmas and didn't do anything for her 2nd birthday either. I got a text a few days after her birthday that said, "Sorry I didn't text sooner but I hope Claire had a happy birthday."

Luckily Claire's Godfather has exceeded our expectations. He will likely marry his current girlfriend and I actually wish we could replace DD's Godmother with her because she is AWESOME with DD.

ali-1411 · April 2010

Not really. Jakob's godfather is my cousin, and he hasn't seen him in years and has almost died twice from a herion overdose. He's doing better (I think?) nobody really knows for sure.

Layna hasn't been baptized.

mlf625 · April 2010

I'm sorry, that would bug me too. I definitely hope/expect my children's Godparents to recognize their birthdays - at least with a call or card.

I'm happy with DS's, it's my cousin/bff and her husband. She's awesome and always calling to check on the "Godbaby".

My sister is/will be DD's (not baptised yet) and she's already really great and so proud of her new role.

mcgee · April 2010

Eh. We chose DH's sister and BIL because we love them. I had hoped that choosing them might also help out my relationship with my ILs. It didn't. SIL/BIL said some things during our pregnancy that led us to change our minds about them being guardians if something happened to us. Then they blew a bunch of $ and PTO on a spur of the moment Caribbean vacation right before the christening, resulting in them asking us if they could just skip the whole thing. We said they needed to be there, FIL got pissed at us and blamed it all on me. SIL came, BIL didn't. Less than a year later, we had a huge blow up with the ILs and then SIL/BIL took their side over ours, and we didn't have any contact with any of them for a year. None of them saw Meredith for a year and a half, which at the time was half of her life.

If we could go back and do it again, I'd probably have chosen my sister and DH's best friend, who was single at the time. This time around, my sister and her fiance are the godparents.

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