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Annoyed with my sister. Venting, ignore me.

OctoberBrideNYCOctoberBrideNYC member
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I cannot tell you how often my sister and BIL come over for dinner.  Over the years, we have cooked for them A MILLION times.  My mother sends us both an email about this wake we have to go to tomorrow night and I see that she was replying to my sister about another thread and just cc'd me to confirm how we're all going together.  I start reading and see that my sister and her DH are having my parents over for dinner on saturday.  Gee, do you think they would even think to invite us?  I have been to their house for dinner twice.  Once was Thanksgiving in which I had to cook the turkey and stuffing myself, and one other time where they ordered a pizza.  Honestly, we live 5 minutes away from each other in the same town.  Just annoying.  And then my mom is clueless enough to include me in on the email when she knows we weren't invited. She, of course is allowed to have my parents over without us - that's not the issue. It's just annoying. I could easily call her on it in a joking way - we are very close. But I need to stop being steamed before I do, otherwise it'll come out passive aggressive. Ugh, ignore me.

 

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  • EliseB0323EliseB0323
    I understand where you are coming from. My sister and BIL have been to our house for dinner/brunch, etc. countless times. I always have to do all the holidays because my mom isn't up to it, and my sister claims they don't have enough room. But they invite my parents over for dinner all the time.
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    imageEliseB0323:
    I understand where you are coming from. My sister and BIL have been to our house for dinner/brunch, etc. countless times. I always have to do all the holidays because my mom isn't up to it, and my sister claims they don't have enough room. But they invite my parents over for dinner all the time.

     Doesn't this drive you mad??  My sister has no excuse at all.  I FORCED her to do thanksgiving last year because I was doing thanksgiving and xmas for years and I had a newborn and she had a new house and I told her to pick a holiday because I wasn't doing both.  I wound up going to her house at 7AM to start the turkey for her.  I mean, give me a break!

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  • xbrooklyngrlxbrooklyngrl

    Do they have kids? Could it be she just feels its easier at your house since you have the kids and all their things are there to keep them occupied?

    I'm so bad, I never have my parents over for dinner. lol

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  • OctoberBrideNYCOctoberBrideNYC member
    imagexbrooklyngrl:

    Do they have kids? Could it be she just feels its easier at your house since you have the kids and all their things are there to keep them occupied?

    I'm so bad, I never have my parents over for dinner. lol

    They don't have kids, but she knows how easy my kids are.  When we have been over to their house (like thanksgiving), I brought a few things for Ava and she was fine - she's totally polite and not wild in the least.  It's ridiculous.  She has no excuse.  And how clueless of my mom to just forward the email? Oy.

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  • EliseB0323EliseB0323
    imageOctoberBrideNYC:

    imageEliseB0323:
    I understand where you are coming from. My sister and BIL have been to our house for dinner/brunch, etc. countless times. I always have to do all the holidays because my mom isn't up to it, and my sister claims they don't have enough room. But they invite my parents over for dinner all the time.

     Doesn't this drive you mad??  My sister has no excuse at all.  I FORCED her to do thanksgiving last year because I was doing thanksgiving and xmas for years and I had a newborn and she had a new house and I told her to pick a holiday because I wasn't doing both.  I wound up going to her house at 7AM to start the turkey for her.  I mean, give me a break!

    Yep, it does drive me mad. I wouldn't have cooked a turkey at anyone's home but mine.  What bugs the crap out of me is that my sister goes on and on about how she doesn't want to work so she can be a mother to her baby. Meanwhile, they have no money to buy a house and live in a small rented place, so of course they can't have people over for dinner because they have no room or money. So they freeload off of everyone else.

    Don't get me started...

    Honestly, I am looking at it like this: My mom is not in good health and we probably won't have too many more years of family dinners. So I suck it up and try to make the ones we have now enjoyable for everyone.

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  • AggieCoupleAggieCouple member
    Are you maybe a better cook?  I bum meals off my two older sisters all the time and rarely reciprocate because I don't think they like my food.  They've made comments about my cooking for the in-laws but not them, but the in-laws rave about my cooking, even if it sucks IMO.  My sisters, on the other hand, are gourmet cooks and super critical.  One time, when I did cook for them, one of them turned to her husband at the table and just flat out said, "Don't eat that, it's not good."
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  • AggieCoupleAggieCouple member
    Are you maybe a better cook?  I bum meals off my two older sisters all the time and rarely reciprocate because I don't think they like my food.  They've made comments about my cooking for the in-laws but not them, but the in-laws rave about my cooking, even if it sucks IMO.  My sisters, on the other hand, are gourmet cooks and super critical.  One time, one of them turned to her husband at the table and just flat out said, "Don't eat that, it's not good."
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  • xbrooklyngrlxbrooklyngrl
    that is pretty sucky then. You should send over a bottle of wine on the day they are having dinner :)
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  • OctoberBrideNYCOctoberBrideNYC member

    imageAggieCouple:
    Are you maybe a better cook?  I bum meals off my two older sisters all the time and rarely reciprocate because I don't think they like my food.  They've made comments about my cooking for the in-laws but not them, but the in-laws rave about my cooking, even if it sucks IMO.  My sisters, on the other hand, are gourmet cooks and super critical.  One time, when I did cook for them, one of them turned to her husband at the table and just flat out said, "Don't eat that, it's not good."

     I wouldn't say she's the world's greatest cook, but who cares?  I'm a stressed out mom, anywhere you invite me, I'll be happy, you know?  Anything she ever makes, I make a big deal over.  We are very close - and I would NEVER belittle her like your sister did to you!  That's awful!  I don't blame you for not having them over!

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  • xbrooklyngrlxbrooklyngrl

    OMG look at that happy baby! She's beautiful!

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  • OctoberBrideNYCOctoberBrideNYC member

    imagexbrooklyngrl:
    that is pretty sucky then. You should send over a bottle of wine on the day they are having dinner :)

     

    I thought about replying all to the email and saying, "Oh, what time should we be over?  I didn't realize you were having us over on Saturday.  Thanks for the invite, I'm sure you just forgot."  But that's just snotty.  I'm definitely not letting it slide, but I have chill out otherwise I'll just be b1tchy about the whole thing. 

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  • OctoberBrideNYCOctoberBrideNYC member
    imagexbrooklyngrl:

    OMG look at that happy baby! She's beautiful!

     Aww!  Thank you!

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  • *Amy**Amy*

    That is frustrating-you have a right to be a bit peeved.  Once you calm down just mention it to her.  I am sure it will make you feel better to get it off your chest. 

     

    On a side note!  Love the new pic of Charlotte!

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