am I the only one

hmkoller · April 2010

not doing a birth plan??

I asked my OB about it when I was probably like 16 weeks and she said don't even worry about it because we (as patients) are able to labor however we want up until delivery. and in her opinion and experience (she's been an OB for over 20 years) that doing a birth plan is jinxing yourself for everything to NOT go your way.. - she told me if I wanted something done my way to just express that, or make sure SO knows to tell in case I can't for some reason..

I just feel so outta the loop by not doing one! lol.

AMYfromKY · April 2010

Honestly, you can plan all you want, but you have no control over the situation. I guess if there are specific things you want (like not clamping the cord, no pitocin after the birth, etc) it's good to let them know, but other than that I don't see a need.

WildcatPrincess · April 2010

Our hypnobirthing instructor put together one for us with the basic points of hypnobirthing on it. I'm going to give it to the MWs as kind of a guideline, but most of them are really familiar with the hypno method anyway, so I don't think it's a big deal.

close2it · April 2010

My friend told me that it was so annoying to have the nurses in her face asking questions all the time when she was trying to be calm and stay focused. This made my decision to make one.

I am worried about DH giving all the details the way I'd hope. He's not a detail oriented person and it drives me crazy. Haha!

Ultimately, it's whatever you feel comfortable with in your own situation.

ETA: I'm also going in with a very open mind knowing that some things (maybe nothing) will go in my favor. The only thing I'm really particular about is that I am given the opp. to BF within the 1st hour.

cookieinva · April 2010

Nope, you're not the only one not doing a birth plan. I'm not either - unless you consider just wanting to get the baby out with everybody healthy a "birth plan"!

RitaT22 · April 2010

I don't have a full on plan, but I have an idea of how I'd things to play out, in terms of who will be in the room, how long DH and I have with LO after birth, etc. In terms of detailed, like down to lighting, no way! I trust my OB and know DH will be there to ask questions if need be.

emilysmommy2010 · April 2010

I don't really have a plan. I just told the doctor who I wanted in the room. He didn't even bring up the topic of a birth plan, we did. So I think not many people have one these days.

Now_a_Swearingen · April 2010

I agree with pp about its a "plan" and usually goes out the window. If there are certain things you want/don't want just let them know. No need in stressing over not having a "birth plan" I havn't been told it's necessary by my OB nor has he brought it up.

CarolinaKatie · April 2010

It is true. You don't have any control and you will not know how you will feel or how you will tolerate the pain till you are in labor. I suggest just making sure they know the basics - if you want pain relief and what kind; who you want in the room; if you DH is going to cut the cord; if you want baby on your belly after birth; if you want a mirror to see birth; etc.

heatouel85 · April 2010

hmkoller:
not doing a birth plan??

no you're not! i didn't for DD, and i won't for DS either. I made my preferences known, and DH and i discussed the things we hoped for ahead of time, and that was it. we were induced, and almost had an emergency c-section, but were able to avoid it. my OB and the nurses were hapy and willing to go along with any requests we had

heatouel85 · April 2010

close2it:
ETA: I'm also going in with a very open mind knowing that some things (maybe nothing) will go in my favor. The only thing I'm really particular about is that I am given the opp. to BF within the 1st hour.

I asked to BF asap, and in our case, that was no problem hope it works out for you too!

DynoMight · April 2010

I wrote one up mostly for DH so he knows what I am comfortable with and what I don't want. The biggies were alone time with DH and LO after the birth, that I don't want LO to be given a pacifier, and to please don't offer pain meds, if I want them I will ask.

bakedlaurabean · April 2010

I'm not writing one out. It doesn't seem necessary to write out the few things that I want. I'll just talk to my Dr about it and tell the nurses that are there. No biggie.

hmkoller · April 2010

yayyy.. i definitely don't feel alone now!

and yeah, I really don't have very many requests.. just simple things like delayed clamping/cutting, SO will cut, I want her on my chest ASAP, and will want to BF as soon as possible.. and that's about it! As long as SO and my mom are in the room with me I could care less about what else goes on!

BelhurstBride · April 2010

I didn't have a ton of wants and was open to it needing to change, but it was nice to have what I did want written out. Once labor really got rolling I didn't have had the energy/focus to answer questions.

vrwester · April 2010

I started filling out the birth plan that I downloaded from the Bump and realized that so much of it either doesn't apply to me or I really just don't need to worry about that I threw it away. I mean, personally, I don't think I need to have it down on paper that I would prefer my husband in the room, or would like an epidural at some point... I feel perfectly capable of just saying those things and/or I've already discussed them with the people that need to know like my Dr (and its noted on my chart already) and hubby etc. Also while I can say now that it sounds nice to have the lights dimmed etc when the time comes I may feel completely differently - extreme pain and lots of medications will do that to you... So, no, you aren't the only person not having a birth plan

Chickpea2010 · April 2010

Anything that I feel strongly about (mainly, I want to go med-free and EBF if possible) has already been discussed with my MW and noted in my patient chart. Anything else is either not a huge concern to me, or I don't know enough to request it - ie never would have thought about lighting until I got to this thread!.

Addicted2thenot · April 2010

IMO if you are dead set on a birth plan you are setting yourself up to be disappointed because when it comes o labor things just don't go as planned.

sacey21 · April 2010

I'm not. I just plan to go with the flow. If I'm not liking something, I plan to be vocal about it!!

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