stepmom wants to take DD to another state for 3 days

PrincessFiona9 · April 2010

Next Thursday night through Sunday night...I know she'll be in good hands but I'm just apprehensive for DD to be away from me that long.

WannaBAmama · April 2010

I would say hellno!

alybookgirl · April 2010

Why does she want to take her? There is no way I would be without my baby for more than a few hours!!

Lesley0228 · April 2010

There is no way that anyone would take my child away from me for that long. I'm super paranoid and would have thoughts of horrible things happening the whole she was gone. I am going away from DD for 2 nights next month and leaving DD with my parents (who watch her M-F anyways) and am totally freaking out about it.

PrincessFiona9 · April 2010

We have family in Indiana and she's going to visit them...aunts, grandmother, sister etc. She was already planning to go, and they asked if I would let her bring DD so they could see her too.

PrincessFiona9 · April 2010

Like I said I know she would be in great hands, I have no doubts about that. I just would miss her so much and I would also feel really guilty if something bad happened like the plane crashes or any kind of freak accident.

pharmacygirl · April 2010

My sister asked me to take LO with her and her boyfriend to Texas and of course my answer is NO WAY!!! Not that I don't trust her. She is great with kids and has babysat for me many many time and she is a doctor. So technically her and her boyfriend would know what to do in case of emergency but I cannot be without my baby for too long. The longest was 48 hours for DH and I to celebrate our anniversary. We were about 45 min away. I missed my baby like crazy. I can leave my 2yo longer just not the baby. Even when I have had to travel without DH, I always take the baby with me.

alybookgirl · April 2010

Say no!

leahraewku · April 2010

Could you go too? That would be ideal. I just left DD for five days for our honeymoon and I wanted to return home on day 2. It was very, very hard being away from her.

PrincessFiona9 · April 2010

I have to work Friday so I wouldnt be able to go. But yeah, I just had this idea sprung on me and I didnt know what to say. The longest time I've ever been without DD is maybe 18 hours so I dont think I'm gonna be able to let her go.

Squishycheeks · April 2010

I would think that even if you trust her 100% it still might be hard on your DD. She's so little yet, I would wait until she's older before letting her go for that long.

sarahsteve · April 2010

Nope. Wouldn't happen for us! I don't plan to be away from DD overnight for a long time.

b.heather · April 2010

It really is not developmentally appropriate for your LO to be away from her primary caregivers for that long. The rule of thumb is that a baby/child should not be away from their primary caregiver(s) for more nights than they are years old (thus, 3 years old, 3 nights). If your family memeber was your daycare provider, for example, it might be eaiser for your LO to handle this type of absense from you, but if it were me I would not allow it.

I work with divorcing parents doing mediation and helping them create parenting plans, and this is the standard our state uses for parenting plans.

mechanicsgirl · April 2010

I second the hell no. DD hasn't even been away from me for one night with my mother who lives a mile away (that needs to change this summer because DD will be with my mom when DS is born). Right now, her eating is so off when she's not with me, it's not worth it to me to risk it. We're gradually just letting my mom watch her longer and longer and see how she does with feeding.

BeanieWeanie · April 2010

I wouldn't let her go either. The longest DS has been away from me is about 3 hours though - I would miss him and worry way too much, even if I knew he was in good hands.

NewMrs52106 · April 2010

I would say no way; out of state for 3 whole days? For me, that would be a definitie no! Then again...we haven't left DD overnight at all yet. If you are comfortable, go for it, and enjoy a few days to do some fun grown up activities

~Soleil~ · April 2010

My answer would be no.

MrsTeague · April 2010

I couldn't do it.

outnumbered · April 2010

Has your daughter been away from you for that long before? I think that would be a very overwhelming and stressful trip for her (and you). I would say no.

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