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I'm feeling weepy & super depressed - long

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it might be because I haven't had any good sleep in 3 nights. ? My hips and lower back just kill me at night. ?It's really bad. ?It's been going on for a couple weeks now. ?It really wasn't fun sleeping in a tent on Friday and Saturday night during our camping trip. ?I thought it would get better once I was in my own bed last night but it didn't. ?I woke up in extreme pain at 4am and couldn't go back to sleep. ?I see my OB on Thursday and will ask about it then. ?Ugh.?

I'm also kinda pissed at DH. ?I feel that his life hasn't really changed since I got pregnant. ?He still gets to do what he wants whenever he wants. ?He still hasn't found a job - it's been 6 months now and I'm really starting to resent it. ?

He's also meet a new girl friend and I don't have anything in common with her. ?I had to sit in the desert yesterday and watch them climb all my favorite routes together and he just kept saying what a great day he had and I was like yeah, glad YOU had a great day. ?I just got to sit on my ass and play photographer for your new friend. ?

I'm in such a foul mood. ?Thanks for reading if you made it this far.?

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  • Mrs.Mclstar48Mrs.Mclstar48 member
    i am sorry your dh is a bonehead. i felt the same way too and still do even now. it always seems that things have changed drastically for me (for a 2nd time now that hailey is born) and he's going on like nothing is different. i screamed at him for it the other day!! hope your day gets better.
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  • damissusdamissus

    Feel free to vent here any time... I hope those feelings are only temporary.  I know my DH is trying to fit in a lot before the baby comes so maybe men just want to get the adventure out of their system...?

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  • Melissa0703Melissa0703
    sorry to hear that.  I think men are def boneheads sometimes.  It will be ok!
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  • SkatcatSkatcat

    That would piss me off even if I was sleeping well and NOT pregnant and hormonal. Can you tell him how that made you feel?

    I'm sorry to hear about your hip and back pain! I'm starting to get to the point where physical exertion really hurts my lower back too, and I also had a tough time sleeping last night. You have my greatest emphathy. 

     ((Hug))

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  • Gregsbride22Gregsbride22 member
    I'm sorry you're having a rough day.  I don't know a lot of your background recently, but have you talked to him about getting a job?  Hope you feel better, hugs. 
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  • bear2115bear2115 member
    Sorry you feel crappy, your husband seems to be being a little insensitive, but have you told him how you feel?  I get angry at my husband sometimes too when he goes out or does stuff that I can't do anymore, but I feel bad asking him not to do those things so I end up being mad and he has no clue why which isn't really fair either I suppose.  I hope you feel better soon.  Ice cream never hurts! :)
    Baby H #1 born in January '09 after a M/C January '08 Baby H #2 born in May '11 Baby H #3 due April 17th 2013
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  • cloud9climbercloud9climber

    thanks girls for responding. ?Gregsbride, he's really been trying very, very hard to find a job. ?He's at a temp agency right now as I type this. ?He works in Pharma/bio medical and it's just really tough out there right now. ?No one hires at the end of the year which is quickly approaching ya know? ?Ummmm... the baby will be here in February which will be here before we know it. ?

    Skat - he knows how I feel about this new friend and he just told me that I was being insecure. ?:/ ?This sucks. ?He just doesn't understand a pregnant lady and her emotions. ?I'm trying but I guess we need to have another talk. ?Ho hum.?

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  • Sueball1Sueball1 member

    Oh, cloud...first of all, I pink puffy heart love you and hate that you are feeling sad.

    I know what you mean about your hubby's life not really changing. It's hard not to feel resentful when we need to go though so much and they can just go on as usual. If its any consolation, the later in the pregnancy I get, the more DH seems to appreciate this fact. Not all the time, but more than before.

     I def. think you should tell DH how you are feeling. It's not irrational, and even if it were, you are pregnant and entitled to weird emotions. But these are NOT weird emotions; its frustrating that you are working hard while pg and he is not working at all; it's annoying that you had to watch him having fun all wknd while you sat it out; and frankly, I think you are a much better wife than I could ever be that you even went on the camping trip in the first place.

    I'm here for you if you wanna vent. We can also grab coffee anytime and do it in person...

     love, suzie

     

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  • joanne511joanne511
    I'm sorry.  I know I would feel the same way.
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