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How do I get 3.5yo to stop playing with himself???

Goldie_lvGoldie_lv
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It's constant...he always has his hand down his pants or even just holding himself outside of his pants.  I don't know what to do...I don't want him to be the kid in JK that no-one wants to play with :(  The last thing I want to do is scare/scar him and tell him that it's wrong and he's dirty though :(  It's been a pretty consistant fascination with him ever since he discovered it, but I find my 1yo could take it or leave, will touch it during a diaper change, kind of like "oh yeah,that's there" and move on...Friends and family are always asking him if he has to go to the washroom (he's been potty trained for a year now), which he doesn't.  Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!
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Re: How do I get 3.5yo to stop playing with himself???

  • femmegemfemmegem member
    I'd just tell him that's for private time and he needs to be in his bedroom or in the bathroom if he wants to do it.
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  • W&J'sMommyW&J'sMommy
    I would explain that it's ok to touch your penis in the bathroom and bedroom by yourself, it's something you can do in private.  Every time he does it I would remind him of that and tell him he can go to his room if he'd like.  If we were out I'd remind him of the "rule".  He's old enough that he should understand that.
    DS - June 2006 DD1 - November 2007 DD2 - August 2010
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  • Goldie_lvGoldie_lv

    Oh, we've tried that..but most of the time he doesn't even know he's doing it!  DH & I just say 'hand!' and he looks at me..then down..and goes "oops!"...

     I should mention that he's not circumsized, and I'm worried about him hurting himself...he's managed to pull the skin back partway and it got very red and angry :(

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  • ak071401ak071401
    I tell mine, "Your penis is for peeing, not playing." He thinks that is funny and stops.
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  • ToledoDeuxToledoDeux member

    imageak071401:
    I tell mine, "Your penis is for peeing, not playing." He thinks that is funny and stops.

    Well, it's for both, isn't it?  Just not in public!

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  • suzymariesuzymarie

    You don't.

    It is a phase and he will get tired of it (well not completely...  ) soon enough.  Just direct him to do it in private.

    ETA:  with the nocirc thing, he WILL stop if it starts to hurt.  Playing with it is how they slowly work to detach foreskin adhesions so that they can retract it all the way.  Totally normal at his age.

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