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3rd Trimester
Can we do a MIL Vent thread??
I'm so annoyed with mine and I know I LOVE reading these because I can usually relate!
Anyhow, I had my 1 hour glucose test early this week and just got my results back. First let me give you a little background, with my son I failed my 1 hour test (140s) and had to take the 3 hour and passed with flying colors. I was always measuring ahead 2-4+ weeks with DS and he ended up weighing in at 10 lbs 15 oz at 38.5 weeks. He had no sugar problems when he was born so the dr. ruled out potentially missing GD with me. If DS had sugar issues then the dr. would have thought that he may have missed the GD for me.
Anyhow, back to the resuts for this pregnanacy - I got a 132 and the doctor said that was fine, on the border but didn't warrant a 3 hour test. Plus I'm measuring spot on with this baby and have been measuring spot on or a week behind the whole time. My dr. is overly cautious and I trust him so I do believe him when he says I'm fine.
My MIL, who is a diabetec and has only gotten better b/c of bariatric surgery she had a few years ago, says that my dr. should really watch it and that being on the cutoff should concern him. Because you know when she had my SIL 20+ years ago, her 1 hour test was in the 150s and they made her follow the GD diet and so therefore she knows everything about GD. Then she proceeds to tell me that GD leads to stillborn babies and that I should really watch my sugars from here on out.
I don't know about you ladies but that is the last thing I want to think about while pregnant - having a stillborn baby. I worry about everything, she knows that, however she still mentions that.
Then she says that I'm playing with fire and that I'm probably pre-diabetec since my 2 sugar tests with my 2 pregnancies have been higher. I told her that I have to take a sugar test each year for my health insurance and they've always been very good - in the 90s or lower. Even this year, I took one that I had to fast for and it was a 97 and I was pregnant too.
UGH - I'm sure that most of this is hormones and I'm sure she cares, but really does she have to know everything about everything?
Thanks for letting me vent!!
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Re: Can we do a MIL Vent thread??
Just ignore her. My sister and cousin both had very healthy babies while GD. I'm borderline and baby Caitlin is doing great.
My MIL vent is that she simply can't follow the registry (which actually has what we need on it) and instead is wanting to buy a super expensive swing.
On top of that she thinks getting a Doula is useless as she wants to be my birthing coach. Um...no. Private time. Very kind offer but private time!
This. In addition the cut offs are going to be changed in the next year or so. Most Dr.s want to see fasting sugar (non pregnant) in the 70's. Anything higher is considered pre diabetic.
My MIL has no interest in this pregnancy outside of teh attention she gets from being able to say she's going to be a grandma. She has no asked about it once. FIL is super excited just like my parents. And to be honest I couldn't care less if she was excited because this is my baby and I'm excited. But DH is really upset. His dad emails him all the time, my dad im's, my mom calls...and his mom just doesn't make any effort. And everyone is still married, no divorces. He hasn't talked to him mom in weeks (probably about 5), yet she calls his sister every day to talk.
I just wish she'd stop being so selfish for his sake.
Yikes! My MIL is a retired nurse, so she always asks super personal questions. I just had my 34w apt, but bc of unusual discharge, I'mgoing back in today. I mentioned that I'd be at the Drs this morning and she drilled me for 5 mins about why. "Mom, I've got some pretty awesome discharge, let's talk about it."
Also, yesterday FIL was giving her a hard time for carrying around their GS instead of letting him walk. DH said, "Get it in now bc you won't be doing that with my son!" Her response: "Oh, I will do whatever I want with him." Umm, what are you not getting about this? If DH says no, then no you won't!
Geez...did she go to medical school? *lol* That's what I ask people when they want to give me their advice on GD. I've got it under control people.
My vent is that my MIL asked me if I was going to keep pumped milk on hand at all times just in case she drops by on her lunch hour and wants to feed the little guy. Um, no. *lol*
MIL refers to my baby as Her baby. I know its not a big deal, but this is my first child, and she's My baby, and I don't like anyone else taking ownership of her.
And MIL insists that I don't shave or cut her hair at all till she's 5 years old. And insists that its barbaric to have the baby sleep in our room when there is a nursery in the next room.
On a good note MIL is buying us the bugaboo stroller....so I have to keep my mouth shut and grin and bear it all, and do a lot of breathing/yoga to remain calm. good luck!
Haha. I love this. I have to say, I completely loved my MIL until I got pregnant. I still do - but oh lovin she says some of the most incredible things now.
After the baby shower, she was talking to my mom, and my mom was like, "Wow, I'm so unstressed now that the shower's over. I can just enjoy it now." and my MIL said, "Are you serious!? What about when the baby gets here?!" to which my mother cooly replied, "It's not our baby. It's theirs - they can handle it." (Score one point for my ma!)
Last night, she came over and brought us dinner, which I really appreciated. At our last doc appt, the doc said due to my PIH he doesn't want me going past 39 weeks (give or take a day) so he wants to induce - and she knows this. Well, 39 weeks is May 1st for me, so MIL says, out of the blue: "You should see if he can induce you on the 29th. Nick (DH) and Heather (his sis) were both born on the 29th. (but not of May, mind you....just of the month that they were born) And, my birthday is the 19th (yet again, not of may) and so she would have the same number birthday as them, and me and her would both have 9's in our birthday numbers." I just looked at her and said, "Well I was born on the 4th." and she said, "Oh well I guess she could be born then too."
Is it just me....or is it insanely stupid to want the "number" of your birthday to be the same (unless it's actually the same day and month)? And seriously...."So we can both have a 9 in our numbers?" Give me a break. I'm not having this baby for you or your family - I'm having this baby to start our own family. You are no longer a direct, immediate part of this family unit - you have been officially dubbed "extended family."