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Would this make me "that mom"?

DaiLyghtDaiLyght
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We've always been really big with both of the boys about using good manners. We stay on them to use please and thank you, and we don't say "move" or "look out", we say excuse me. So lately, DS2 has been saying "beep-beep" when someone is in his way. I know he's getting it from school. So the thing is, it's not really that horrible of a thing to say to 2 year olds, but personally I just prefer to him to say excuse me (which he used to, and still will if you remind him after saying beep beep). So would you say something to the director to ask that the teachers say excuse me instead of beep-beep, or is that being totally overbearing??

I'm half way expecting a flame for this.....

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Re: Would this make me "that mom"?

  • xbrooklyngrlxbrooklyngrl

    LOL i'm all about manners but this isn't discussion worthy.

    He's two, its not a big deal and when you hear him say it you can just say "beep beep PLEASE" lol

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  • DandRDandR

    no flames,

    but Yeah that would make you "that mom".

    I sort of believe "school rules" and "house rules" don't always have to mesh, and at 2 its still hard to figure out which is which, but keep enforcing it at home and it will click.

    I just think if every parent came in with "you know, at home we___________, can you do that here too" it would be a nightmare for teachers.

     

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  • KoriBrettKoriBrett
    imagexbrooklyngrl:

    LOL i'm all about manners but this isn't discussion worthy.

    He's two, its not a big deal and when you hear him say it you can just say "beep beep PLEASE" lol

    what she said

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  • breezee_beanbreezee_bean
    imageDandR:

    no flames,

    but Yeah that would make you "that mom".

    I sort of believe "school rules" and "house rules" don't always have to mesh, and at 2 its still hard to figure out which is which, but keep enforcing it at home and it will click.

    I just think if every parent came in with "you know, at home we___________, can you do that here too" it would be a nightmare for teachers.

     

    no flames either, but ditto  DandR. 

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  • DaiLyghtDaiLyght
    imageDandR:

    no flames,

    but Yeah that would make you "that mom".

    I sort of believe "school rules" and "house rules" don't always have to mesh, and at 2 its still hard to figure out which is which, but keep enforcing it at home and it will click.

    I just think if every parent came in with "you know, at home we___________, can you do that here too" it would be a nightmare for teachers.

    Very good point. Rationally, that's the kind of stuff I keep telling myself, but then I hear him say beep-beep and I cringe. I need to just learn to let it go.

    Note to self: I have enough things to worry about, this isn't one of them!

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  • breezee_beanbreezee_bean
    imageDaiLyght:
    imageDandR:

    no flames,

    but Yeah that would make you "that mom".

    I sort of believe "school rules" and "house rules" don't always have to mesh, and at 2 its still hard to figure out which is which, but keep enforcing it at home and it will click.

    I just think if every parent came in with "you know, at home we___________, can you do that here too" it would be a nightmare for teachers.

    Very good point. Rationally, that's the kind of stuff I keep telling myself, but then I hear him say beep-beep and I cringe. I need to just learn to let it go.

    Note to self: I have enough things to worry about, this isn't one of them!

    totally!  They always say, "don't sweat the small stuff!"

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  • babyhina1babyhina1
    I think I would talk to him instead of the director. Tell him "beep, beep" is ok at school but at home we use excuse me. I'm sure it will take a few reminders but he will get it.
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  • WendyKWendyK
    I would, but I think I am that Mom. Manners is my biggest pet peeve about kids. I would just talk with the teacher and ask about it. The most important thing to do is remind him at home that you say excuse me..Good luck!
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  • DaiLyghtDaiLyght

    imagebabyhina1:
    I think I would talk to him instead of the director. Tell him "beep, beep" is ok at school but at home we use excuse me. I'm sure it will take a few reminders but he will get it.

    Yeah, that I can see that conversation going really well with my 27 month old! LOL sorry

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  • ak1234ak1234

    It's overbearing, sorry.  Just remind him to say excuse me.  At some point, he will start saying beep-beep at school, and excuse me at home.

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  • npeacocknpeacock
    I totally see what you mean, dai. At daycare they say butt, and I have tried to get DS to say bottom. Now, I think that butt can be considered inappropriate for kids to say at a preschool age, but I haven't brought it up with his teachers. He is switching programs in next month, so it's not worth it.
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  • penguingrrlpenguingrrl member
    I'm torn on this.  While I agree with "house rules" versus "school rules" I feel like manners are something that shouldn't change no matter where you are.  If you used poor manners at work people would definitely think far less of you.  I would probably see if it continues for a while and if it does then say something.  Growing up I remember school being very strict about manners, so it seems odd to me that a school would accept "beep beep" instead of "excuse me."
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  • skyblondeskyblonde
    imageDaiLyght:

    imagebabyhina1:
    I think I would talk to him instead of the director. Tell him "beep, beep" is ok at school but at home we use excuse me. I'm sure it will take a few reminders but he will get it.

    Yeah, that I can see that conversation going really well with my 27 month old! LOL sorry

    I don't know.  I moved in with my DH and skids when the youngest was two.  We have different rules at our house than they do at their mom's (as in, we have rules...) and even when he was that young, we just said, "We don't do/say that at our house."  It did usually take a few tries, but eventually we got the results he wanted.  Also, is this something the school encourages or did he pick it up from some other kid?  (I am always amazed/disgusted by what our kids learn on the school bus...)

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