preschool day care situation

soxfan · April 2010

Would you let your child wear a super hero cape to day care?

My son was a disaster last night because a parent let his child wear a superhero cape to school -- no one else obviously had one and they all wanted one. And yes he wore it all day .... My son wanted one and is determined to get one this weekend -- cried all evening-- just the melt down-- which was so not necessary.

Would you give in and let your child wear it to school? I would not -- even if it resulted in a tantrum I would not give in.

Zenya · April 2010

I don't think it's a big deal.

KrisBriMcBunny · April 2010

its one of those things where I chose my battles. I would let her wear a cape as long as it was ok with the teachers. Its a matter which battles YOU are willing to fight.

Yodajo · April 2010

Unless it was prohibited by the school, I see absolutely no harm in that at all. Why make a big deal about something so trivial?

Mrs Manners · April 2010

No. I would consider that a "toy" and they don't allow outside toys at school unless it's show and tell day for the exact reasons you just stated.

pincushions · April 2010

Mrs Manners:
No. I would consider that a "toy" and they don't allow outside toys at school unless it's show and tell day for the exact reasons you just stated.

This. I would get him one and tell him he can wear it until he gets to school and then when he gets home.

When my kids want to bring something to school I tell them no, it will wait for them. Otherwise it might get dirty (this works with my 4 yr old) or it might get lost (works with my 3 yr old).

When I go to pick them up I make sure the toy is there for them and a fun treat like a fruit snack.

xbrooklyngrl · April 2010

I see a cape as the same as them picking out their own mis-matched outfit so I don't see the big deal.

I say this never having to deal with it though, I'm pretty anal about what B wears.

cbidt*sgirl · April 2010

Mrs Manners:
No. I would consider that a "toy" and they don't allow outside toys at school unless it's show and tell day for the exact reasons you just stated.

this. It isn't about wearing a piece if clothing I'm not thrilled with - like my child's love of sweatpants - it's about not creating jealousy and problems with other kids at school. Our teachers would have taken that cape and put it away in a cubby.

Angela814 · April 2010

I would. But I let DD bring a CD or book to school to share if she wants. I let her bring a toy too (usually a doll). It gets put right in her cubby, and I think it probably stays there the whole day, but at least it gets us out the door without a fight. If she brings a toy, I just explain to her that she needs to share it if she's going to play with it there.

JCS2007 · April 2010

I probably would not, unless it was encouraged by the day care provider. I would see it as a toy. Our rule for taking toys into daycare, which happens infrequently, is that it must be something you can share with the group (like a book) and we explain to DS that if something happens to it, like getting ripped, that is the risk he is taking.

Rebekah1021 · April 2010

Audrey wears capes all.the.time. I don't like how it looks, but I pick my battles.

At her school, thy have dress up clothes and capes for the kids to wear during free play time. They have capes for all the kids and they all wear them.

marchbaby · April 2010

Mrs Manners:
No. I would consider that a "toy" and they don't allow outside toys at school unless it's show and tell day for the exact reasons you just stated.

This...

Also I consider it a safety hazard in a way. My sons line leader tag got wrapped around his neck so tight once they had to cut it off. The kids were all playing, they aren't sure how it happened. But since then I don't send him to school with shirts with ties that could get tangled etc.

buffalo_buckeye · April 2010

I also see it as a toy and don't want to cause jealousy issues with other kids at school (or have my kid get upset when someone takes it). I could see sending a book that the teachers could read but not something that is "played" with. I don't see anything wrong with letting him pick out miss matched clothes though, but I don't really see this as the same. It might depend on if the daycare is 3 kids (where the provider could easily monitor sharing the toy that was brought), vs preschool or a large daycare where it would be harder to control.

InvBK · April 2010

I wouldn't. I also consider it a toy because it is a piece of dress up clothing. And it's really not fair to make all of the other kids jealous and to put the other parents in this position where their kids come home crying because they want to bring dress up clothes to school too. We do the same thing as PP and toys can be brought in the car, but they are left in the car when it is time to go in because the daycare has a no-toys-from-home rule.

JOEBunny · April 2010

Yes. I would. I let DD take one thing to school each day. Her teachers don't mind and she knows that she has to share it and that it might get ruined. She doesn't take her favorite toys for this reason, which would rule out her princes costume, but she did wear her princess cape not long ago.

stacynikki · April 2010

What Pin said.

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