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Pregnant After Preemie (&TTC) Check in
Welcome to the check in group for Pregnant After Preemie! This group is also for those who are actively trying to conceive, planning on it, or just thinking about it...
So, list your 1st name, due date if you're pregnant or ttcing timeline, preemie's name and gestational age at birth as well as the reason for their prematurity.
Each Tuesday I'll post the check in with status updates and questions of the week. If you have any suggestions for questions of the week or anything else, please let me know!
Pregnant:
mhop, Martha, DD Campbell 27 weeks, pre-e, due May 29
everlove, Jana, DS Andrew 34 weeks, PROM, due September 15
Kaytee1206, Katie, DD
Kendall, 34 weeks PROM, due April 27
ShanaNChris, Shana, DD Lily 31 weeks pre-e/HELLP, due September 26
jennigator3, Jennifer, DS Nathan 33 weeks due to pre-e, due July 2
msalinardi, Margot, DD Angelina, 26 weeks pre-e, due May 15
Denesdia, Diane, DD Zoey 25 weeks PTL, due August 13
purplepuggles, Joan, DS Jack, 27 weeks placental abruption, due June 30
FaithRocks, Kelly, DS Trig 32 weeks, pre-e, ptl, placental abruption, due September 7
tothemoon2, Kristina, DD 32 weeks, low amniotic fluid, due June 28th
Aidge- get me your info so I
can add you 
cherylgray87, Cheryl, DS ?, due October 31
Sweets2005, Katie, DD and DS 32 weeks, placenta previa/bleeding due November 1
sabloja, DS Hayden 30 weeks, pPROM, due July 20
sleepyocean, Jamie, DS Jake, 29 weeks pre-e, Due Sept 8
FutureMrsCuoghi, Maria, DD Katie & angel baby Jack 27w due to Jack's severe IUGR, very low fluid, & pre-e, due Nov 12
Mama2MyBabies, Tatiana,DD Kiley 31 weeks car accident started labor, DS Caleb 35w, placental abruption after major pregnancy complications, due with twins 10/10, but having a c-section late September
ChristineS0820, Christine, DS Tristen, 35 weeks, PTL, Due 10/17
TTCing:
MrsDeLaVara, Emily, DD Chelsea 27 weeks pPROM
heer4u, Sharon, DD Sophie 27
weeks PTL
njkaren, Karen, DS Brandon 26 weeks fetal distress due to twin's loss
kcswifey, Sara, DS Logan 28 weeks, unexplained PTL
SkypeWithoutAC, Shannon, DD Ellie, 33 weeks PPROM
Beccaboo0713, Becca, DS Jacob, 35 weeks fetal distress
mrsfriend, Dawn Marie, DS Parker 34 weeks PPROM
kamcfarlane, Kate, DS Ryan 32 weeks, placenta previa
PDXGal7868, Haley, DS Cole, 34 weeks, unexplained PTL
FiremansWife2009baby, Leila, DS Logan, 35 weeks due to pre-e
Thinking about/Planning on TTCing:
ijack, Ivory, DD Emma 29 weeks placental abruption,
ttc June 2010
lemen99, Kathy, DS Andrew 26 weeks IC, ttc in
May
TriciaJoy, Trish, DS Robbie 26 weeks pre-e/HELLP, seeing RE in May
BartsGirl, Alison, DS Benjamin 34 weeks PROM, ttc in the fall
erikaja6, Erika, DS Jordan 33 weeks IC, ttc in August
*Sweet Pea*, Jamie, DD Skylar, 29 weeks pre-e/HELLP, ttcing end of year?
Clotho!,
Janet, DS Robbie 34 weeks pre-e & DS Simon 34 weeks pih and ptl,
debating between adoption and ttcing in Spring 2011
mek10976, Megan, DS Simon, 32 weeks pre-e/PROM, ttcing June-ish
goblue, Kristin, DS Jake, 27 weeks pPROM, maybe ttcing late 2010
sweetpea18, Sara, dd Reese, born at 34 weeks due to pre-e, ttcing in a couple of months
SWMcFarland, DD Lily, born at 34 weeks due to HELPP, ttcing at end of year...or the summer:)
magdalina.h, Maggie, angel baby Aidan 28 1/2 weeks, cord failed and stroke in utero, TTC in JulyMommies (again)!
LUCKY41010, Heather, DS Cooper, 33 weeks, IUGR, Baby #2 Carter
RRHsMom, DS Ryan 35-36 weeks, Baby #2 Meghan Madonna
MWiley0225, DS Caleb 34 weeks, DS 27 weeks due to unknown except for multiple high risk complications, DD Hailey
BrainySmurfette,
Melissa, DD
Katie 34 weeks, pre-e/HELLP, DD #2 Elizabeth
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News:
Congrats to BrainySmurfette on her full term delivery!.
QOTW:
Do you have any fears/concerns of having a full-term baby?
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Re: Pregnant After Preemie (&TTC) Check in
Sorry the check in is a day late again...sometimes Tuesdays are crazy!
QOTW: I don't do well with the unknown or with change so I'm actually nervous about several things. It sure does look uncomfortable to be full term pregnant...I hope it doesn't hurt. Also, having a "take-home baby" will be so different...how will I cope with no monitors, no nurses helping me figure things out, etc. Plus, we saw the pediatrician twice a week when we came home. I don't even know how often a full term newborn sees the pediatrician! How will I know if she's gaining weight?!
Update: I'm doing very well. My bp was great last week and Maggie weighed 5 lbs, 2 oz according to the ultrasound! I hope my appointment tomorrow is as good!
QOTW: Everything past 25 weeks is new to me, so I feel like a first-time mom in a lot of ways. I seem to be scared of everything about the third trimester to the delivery, and even my fantasy of taking home a baby after delivery. I agree about all the extra monitoring DD has had being a comfort. What will I do with poor DS if left to my own judgement? (wink, wink)
Update: I am having a down day, feeling frustrated with bed rest, complications, and another lost opportunity for a blissful pregnancy. I hate when my mood gets stuck here. I was released from the hospital on Monday to modified bed rest at home. Check up with my OB today was good. One day at a time...my first goal is to get to DD's gestation (25 weeks), and then set little steps to reach for from there. Little Ben is still cooking, so really, it is a good day.
QOTW: Uh yeah, all the time! I obviously know what to do with a preemie, how in the world do you recover while having a newborn at home?? I'm also worried that I'm putting a f/t pregnancy and birth on a pedestal and if it does happen and isn't everything I want it to be I'll be disappointed. Like you said, it's just a fear of the unknown.
Update: I had my pre-op appt today and my surgery is scheduled for Wednesday. I'm excited because it's finally happening and it might be answers to what happened with Emma. But at the same time it freaks me out that it could be related to Emma and have an impact on #2. And I'm freaked out about being back at the hospital I was on bedrest in and Emma was in, in a hospital setting. Ick.
Need help with high fat food ideas? Chunky Monkey
QPTW: All the time. I am worried about having a baby that is not on a monitor. I am also worried about how much to feed a full term baby. Brandon never took more than 5 ounces at a time and that is when he was 1!
Update: Last Wednesday I had my appointment with my fertility doctor. I have to get blood work done to check my hormone levels and he wants me to have the dye test done to make sure there are no blockages in my fallopian tubes or uturus. We will have a FET in July most likely as long as I am not pregnant. He is fine with putting one embryo in at time after what happened to me with the last pregnancy.
Yesterday I had my appointment with my MFM. He said that he believes the twin pregnancy was the only reason for my complications with the last pregnancy and said he doesn't even know that it would happen again if I do wind up with twins (although he agrees that we should only put 1 back in if they will). He said I had no cervical issues so he doesn't think I will need a cerclage but they will monitor my cervix more closely. I did have a cerclage placed after I delivered Brandon's twin sister but that was to help me hold onto Brandon longer. He also said I will start the 17P shots at 16 weeks which should help since my membranes ruptured early although he said he thinks the only reason for that was the twin pregnancy. So he was very positive about me making it full term with the next pregnancy.
QOTW: um, lots! i am more pregnant than i ever was before so everything is new again. i feel like i never know what pains/aches are normal and what could be a sign of something more. i know the 3rd tri is supposed to be uncomfortable, but HOW uncomfortable? how on earth do you heal while taking care of a baby (*gulp* and a toddler too!?!?)? how will breastfeeding work? WILL it work? how will i know if she is eating enough? it hurt bad enough to deliver a baby under 3 lbs - how bad will it hurt this time? so many concerns....but also some good things :-)
like...when she comes home i will have to get up to feed her and soothe her, yes...but i won't have to pump for 20-30 minutes AFTER i have her settled again so perhaps the sleep deprivation won't be quite so horrid? and yes she will be tiny and new and vulnerable, but much stronger than DS was. and it will be summer so RSV won't be a big threat when she is tiny.
Update: 29.5 weeks and holding strong! finally off of modified bedrest and on restricted activity instead. the doctor is maintaining that my due date is july 5th, but baby girl is measuring at least 2 weeks ahead on the ultrasounds so i feel in my gut that the due date i determined (june 30) is indeed more accurate. i was spot on with DS so i have confidence in myself :-) my first goal was to make it to 28 weeks and i did that. my next was 30 weeks and lo and behold i am almost there! i think my next mini-goal will be 33 weeks. if i hold on to the smaller goals, the full term pregnancy seems more attainable. i am in nesting mode already, but not allowed to do anything physical so it is kind of driving me nuts that i can't clean/paint/move furniture to get the nursery ready. i think i am going to have to light a fire under DH soon :-)
sorry that was so long - i keep forgetting to participate each week. i read the whole thread and then forget to post!
QOTW: I hate to say it, but I would almost feel more comfortable with a preemie baby because that's what I know, that's what I got good at last time. It's odd that having a big, full-term baby would be out of my comfort zone. I am concerned about having to take care of her right after the c-section, take her home when she is only 3-4 days old, and not be working with highly trained nurses on a daily basis. I know that everything would be fine, but not being prepared for anything with Nate made me not question myself, hopefully I can be just as confident with this baby.
Updates: I had a great doc appointment yesterday! NST went great, baby is measuring perfect, BP and protein good, so I am a happy girl. The doc is pretty sure things will go fine, I am keeping my fingers, toes, and everything else crossed until I am holding my full-term baby.I will definitely ditto the comment about having a full term pregnancy/L&D on a pedestal. Between the shock of everything and the drugs I was put on when DD was born, the whole day just kind of passed before I had a chance to process it all. I'm also worried about recovery while caring for a toddler plus a newborn, especially with family all living so far away. But I'm happy to tackle those fears if it means a take-home baby with no health issues!!!
Updates: We went on vacation to FL last week and DH and I had a loooooong talk while walking the beach. I've been going back and forth with when we will call the RE, knowing that I really have to lose some weight before we call (I'm doing it, it just takes time). My first goal was to get to m pre-pregnancy weight then call, then I wanted to get within 15lbs of my ultimate goal before calling, and after discussing with DH, we've decided to call when I hit the goal of being out of an "obese" BMI. So that's only 6lbs away (and is under my pre-pg weight). It really makes me nervous....I would love to be pg again, but the whole process of going back to the RE is kind of overwhelming.
QOTW: having a FT baby definitely scares me! but it sounds like all of you feel the same way, which makes me feel a little bit better.
update: my prolactin levels are elevated, which i thought i had moved past (i have a pituitary tumor that increases my prolactin). we have our "what's next" appt with the RE on may 5th and i have my annual OB appt on april 29th. if i'm going to ovulate on my own, it should be any day now...
Me too! I just scheduled my HSG for next Wednesday. I am REALLY not looking forward to it! My doctor did prescribe a valium so I am hoping that helps! So, my update is that I we are onto cycle 8. When AF showed up yesterday I was pretty upset, even though I knew that I wasn't pregnant. I just have to have faith that when the time is right it will happen.
The only thing, at this point, that I am fearful of is what others have said...putting a f/t pregnancy on a pedestal and then failing to make it to 37ish weeks.
IVF 1=BFP, beta #1 8dp5dt 24, beta #2 12dp5dt 50, beta #3 14dp5dt 88.9
Weishaars' World
QOTW: Do you have any fears/concerns of having a full-term baby?
The only real fear I have is how I am going to feel (guilt) when this baby reaches milestones before Lily was even close to reaching them. I think it will bring back feelings of guilt, of what she had to go thru, and although I will be thrilled for this baby, I will feel guilty that Lily had to be "behind" because she was full-term.
Updates: Please let us know how you're doing!
I am doing good. I had an u/s on Tuesday to find a reason for the bleeding and I am still a mystery. There is no subchorionic hematoma, so that is not the reason, my placenta is anterior so that is not it, my cervix is nice and long, so that's not it. The only other thing that was talked about is that my placenta could be tearing away somewhere but then "flapping back" so they can't see it on an u/s - this would be bad, but we are all just going to hope my bleeding is done. Baby is measuring well over the 50th percentile (music to my ears) and has a huge head (so did Lily, must run in the family), and I'm sure no hair
We kind of found out the sex of the baby, but the tech didn't sound to sure and the baby was moving so much she couldn't get another look, then she said she would have someone confirm it (not sure what that meant?) and it was not indicated on our OB's report from her? So, we were not sure if we were going to wait to tell or what...but I can't wait! and who cares if it changes in 3 weeks - not us! So, Chris ordered cakes this morning and we are telling my mom and sis tomorrow night and then I will probably announce on the blog next week...stay tuned
QOTW: other than the fear of whether or not I'll make it to term, no, not really!
Updates: We have a saline infusion sonogram in a week to look for any abnormalities that could have caused my incompetent cervix
QOTW: I'm definitely worried about a full-termer. I feel like I don't know what to do with one. How do I take care of the belly button? How do I take care of a circumcision? I kind of feel like they are a completely different species.
Updates: I thought we could get things started with the baby makin', but I found out I have to have a colonoscopy at the end of May, so I will have to wait until after that. Sigh...
hahaha DD was in the NICU for 16 days and not having to deal with the belly button thing was the one upside I could find...they're just so gross! Of course, the joke was on me when it was still on when she came home and fell off the next day. It wasn't that bad, just really ugly!
QOTW: I'm more concerned about bring a baby home and having a toddler home, too! I'm nervous, actually! (and I'm not even pregnant yet!) I also don't think I'll know what to do with a 'normal' newborn. DD pretty much slept until her due date and then all hell broke loose, so I'm not sure what I'm going to do if all hell breaks loose from the get-go! lol!
Update: I had my iud removed last month, so I guess I'm moving to the ttc club. We aren't trying, but aren't preventing right now. We're waiting to see what my cycle is going to do (I have pcos, so its anyone's guess!) If I'm not with child by July or August, I'll start charting (I despise charting, so lets all pray I'm knocked up by then! lol!)
And lastly, mhop when the heck did you get to 34 weeks!?!?!?! (I obviously haven't been around much lately!)