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NBR: Is it just me, or should someone who needs my help maybe ask a little nicer?

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A few years ago I put together a website about autism and communication, as part of a class project. It's still up, and from time to time people email me about it, usually asking about some of my sources. Most of the time people are very nice and even a little grovel-y, which I'm not going to lie, is definitely nice lol.

Well one or two times, I've gotten these emails - from perfect strangers - basically demanding information from me. I just got one today that is like "I found this article: **name of site.** I need the reference. Where did it come from."

I'm just like, ok: a) It's not an article, it's a website, b) ALL of the sources are listed on the reference page, and c) this is not my job, I'm not getting paid to help you, so a "please" and "thank you" would really be appreciated! If these people ever emailed an actual professor or researcher, I guarantee they wouldn't even get a reply. Lucky for them I'm nice enough to respond, but it still ticks me off. Hmph!

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Re: NBR: Is it just me, or should someone who needs my help maybe ask a little nicer?

  • DeltadeeDeltadee
    You are very nice!  It would probably tick me off so much that I would just delete their email but rude people are a big pet peeve of mine!
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  • mcurbanmcurban member
    lol- you should email them back and tell them you're waiting for the magic word.
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  • userdeleteduserdeleted member

    imagemcurban:
    lol- you should email them back and tell them you're waiting for the magic word.

    LOL, I really wish I had done that!

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  • TayteeTaytee

    Clearly they don't know the P&R rule of putting a smiley after such a request!

    Give me your references. Big SmileYes

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  • heybabeheybabe
    I can relate. People call and demand I give them info/do their research all.the.time.  Just because I am a state employee does not mean my job is to do what any member of the public asks me to do at any given time. The parents of students writing papers are the worst. People launch into this "My taxes pay your salary" bs and it drives me crazy.  Whew! I feel better now. Thank you for letting me vent in your vent. ;)
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  • userdeleteduserdeleted member

    imageheybabe:
    I can relate. People call and demand I give them info/do their research all.the.time.  Just because I am a state employee does not mean my job is to do what any member of the public asks me to do at any given time. The parents of students writing papers are the worst. People launch into this "My taxes pay your salary" bs and it drives me crazy.  Whew! I feel better now. Thank you for letting me vent in your vent. ;)

    Yes, it's ridiculous. I would never have written an email like that when I was researching my thesis. My advisor explicitly told me to lay on the compliments thick if I ever needed to write someone asking for their help. I'm glad I only get these kinds of emails every now and then - if I got it all the time I would probably have started getting pretty snarky with them by now :)

    And taytee, yes, the smiley fixes all! Why don't people know this!?

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