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MayDayGirl
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and just like that it's over.
MayDayGirl
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I just got a call from our agency, the birth mother got mad at the agency (bc they put a limit on what they would give her financially) and she left and found a new attorney and a new family.
I am so sad. I know in the end the baby that comes to our family will be the right one, but right now some other family is getting excited about OUR baby.... at least that's how it feels.
Ugh.
The good news is they have 2 moms to show our profile to next week who they think would be a good match, one due the same time and the other a month later.
But it's hard to get excited about anything when this is the second failed match we've had (plus the agency that lost its license).
I have a meeting today and a photo shoot and all I want to do is cry 
The worst part is I can't even call DH and tell him bc he is at work and I don't think it would be fair to tell him at work...
Sorry ladies I just needed to be sad with someone who would understand.
Married on 3.20.2004. It took 30 month, 2 failed adoptions and IVF for our first miracle. We have had 9 foster kids since he was born and started the domestic adoption process when he was 10 month old, we had 4 failed matches in that time. After our daughter was born we brought her home and spent 2 weeks fearing we might lose her because of complications that came up. But Praise God all went through and she is ours forever! Expecting again after IVF
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Oh girlie I am so sorry! I cannot imagine what you are feeling right now. I hope that everything pans out with you guys and one of the Moms next week.
HUGS
That totally stinks!
I'm so sorry - hopefully your baby will find you soon.
TTC since May 2006. After 3 failed Clomid cycles, 2 failed Injectibles/IUIs, 2 failed IVFs and 1 failed FET, we moved on to adoption!
Last ditch FET resulted in BFP, and identical twin girls!
I am so, so, sorry
(((Big Hugs)))
oh, no - I am so sorry to hear this. I know it sounds Cliche - but your baby is out there.
{{hugs}} to you
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I'm so sorry, what an awful position to be in:(
Thoughts and prayers to make it through the rest of your day until your DH comes home...that's got to be the hardest not to call him crying!
I'm so sorry! I do know how you feel because almost the same thing happened to us. Our BM had our 1-800 number and started calling us telling us she needed more money and if she didn't get it she was going to drop us and go find someone else. DH and I discussed it and called the agency and ended the match. We had a contract and she got so much money a month and she wanted more. Apparently, the agency knew she had done this before and kept it from us or we would never have agreed to the match.
We found out later, she did the same thing to 3 other families until she gave birth and the last family she talked to got the baby. I know that baby wasn't meant for us and I know we got our happy ending, but it still hurt knowing there are people like this who are just plain scum. A baby is not a bargaining chip and adoptive parents shouldn't be played like that. Sorry you're going through this. Your baby is out there though and it'll happen in God's time.
Hi MayDay. I'm so sorry. What a rough day for you guys. You're right - your baby will find you and that will be the right baby - but it's not easy to deal with right now. I'm glad that your profile is being shown again so quickly and to two different mothers - that's wonderful.
Hope you are doing okay...huge hugs.
Sucky. I'm sorry Rachel. Sending postive thoughts and prayers your way.
Can I ask which agency/facilitator you are using in Chicago? I know you are from MN and moved, but are you going though IL or MN?
OH no!!!!!!! I'm so sorry, how horrible!!
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