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3rd Trimester
Anyone else a SAHM-to-be?
Third day off and I'm seriously scratching at the walls. Used to working at least 8 hours a day. DH is also trying to fill my day with chores which is sooo not fun.
Anyone else in the situation of being home until they have the baby? If yes, how do you fill your days? I'm hoping to make a long lovely list of things for baby Caitlin and I to do together.
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Re: Anyone else a SAHM-to-be?
Me, me, me!!!
I'm soooo nervous about this. I always went back to work with my previous children, so this is going to be an interesting change for me. I've been working since the age of 16 always having my own little money in my pocket, so relying on someone else for stuff like that is a little nerve racking.
This is my second week of not working. Last week was filled with appointments and last minute getting ready for baby things. This week=nothing. On Monday I was bored to death and even complained to my DH.
I find that I have to have a plan for each day, even if its stupid. Like tomorrow I am going to put away all my winter maternity clothes.
As for after baby is here, not sure yet. Taking walks in the neighborhood is not going to fill my day. I think I will join some new mom groups.
After working full time for 14 years, my biggest concern about being home is the lack of socialization and me feeling isolated. So I need to come up with a plan!
YES! I totally hear you about having to rely on someone else. Even if it's DH.
I have been at home now for nearly 2 years - without any LO's. DH and I ended up in a really ideal situation after me working for a large corporation for several years and him having an extremely good job that keeps us more than financially sound. So I understand it can be boring. I slack on things around the house occasionally - especially if he is on a business trip that I didn't want to go on. I would definitely try to get some sort of hobby or make a list of project you would like to get done eventually. For me I honestly try to stay social and go with girlfriends for lunch - a few of them have become SAHM's so its nice to have other people that don't have much of a schedule sometimes. Outside of that I keep a sort of schedule as far as when I clean what part of the house, when I grocery shop, which days I go out to go shopping, etc.
I would say though that you may want to think of changing the whole "list of chores thing" a bit - I found this to be a huge issue with DH and I - and it definitely started arguments. So I would recommened sitting down with him and figuring out things you need to do while you are at home - then setting a schedule for yourself so that you feel more in control of what you need to accomplish. Just my opinion though.
I'm going to SAH, but I also quit my job way back in June. For awhile I worked very part-time (8 hours a week), but stopped doing that a month ago. A lot of the time I'm surprised at how easy it is to fill my days. It's nice being able to do stuff during the day that one of us used to have to squeeze in after work or on weekends. DH especially enjoys never having to go to the grocery store! I love working out during the day instead of having to head to the gym after work and then rush home to have dinner on the table. Now dinner is ready when DH comes home.
Admittedly, there's not always a lot to do. Those are the days when I get stuck bumping too much. Now that I'm so far along and getting more and more uncomfortable, I don't feel so bad about having slower days sometimes.
Every day I think about how much my time will change once LO gets here. Now I can do whatever I want, but very soon, I won't be able to!
I left my job of 3 years back in August, and haven't really worked since. DH loves for me to be at home, and its SO nice to basically do and go wherever we feel like. Since DH owns his own business and makes his own hours, I'm lucky enough to spend a lot of time with him.
To stay busy (before LO) I spend a lot of time at my parents house hanging out with my mom and getting ready for baby and finishing decorating our townhome, I read a lot, clean and cook a lot. Also my golden retriever keeps me company all day
And would go crazy without lunches and mani/pedi's with my girlfriends!
I became a SAHM at the end of February which worked out perfectly given all the medical issues and doctor appts I have with my pregnancy. I plan on continuing to stay home to save on potential day care costs as well.
To fill my days, I have a culinary business that keeps me busy... along with social networks of other SAHM.
I took a buyout at the end of October from my job, so I've been a stay at home wife until this baby is born. I LOVE staying at home. I'm rarely if ever bored, and I know I'll just get busier when LO gets here. I love to cook and bake, I don't love to clean so much but I do that too, I'm really good at organizing and being at home has given me the opportunity to organize our cluttered closets and drawers. I also enjoy reading and writing, having lunch with girlfriends, shopping, and preparing for LO to get here. Even though I've been off since October, there are still some projects I haven't gotten to - like organizing all our wedding and honeymoon pictures and putting them in albums. We're also moving, so packing is taking up the majority of my time now.
Anyway, my point is, it might feel weird at first to be at home (I've worked since I was 14 and I've been very independent so not working is odd), but once you get used to it you can find tons of stuff to do.
I'm been home since April 1, and I won't go back until October.
I rest, work out, see friends, host visitors, go to museums, see movies, go to brunch, be active in my Sorority alumni group. Once baby is here, I'll also add my philanthropy work back into the mix.