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Keeping a clean home w/ new baby?

I don't have experience with this so I'm asking.

When you had a 2 week old, could you still pick up your house or did it go to hell? My dh's coworker just had a baby. He was complaining to dh that his wife is such a slob now. she doesn't do anything since she's had the baby. Just lays around. The house is disgusting and she won't clean it. She is sahm now so he thinks since she is not working it's sort of her job to keep up with the home. 

I keep up with my house and love that I can do that now that I am home for now. However I was never home with a 2 week old since he was in nicu and I had family here until the baby was 5 weeks. Just wondering if it was impossible to pick up with such a new baby?

I sort of felt like he should cut her some slack, but if it's actually filthy dirty, that is another thing. No excuse for pure dirt. 

Re: Keeping a clean home w/ new baby?

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  • If my DH hadn't cleaned my house for me, it would have never been clean.  There were too many other things that were more important for me to do (feed the baby, SLEEP, recovery, etc.)
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  • Umm...DS is 4 months old and I still have trouble keeping up with the housework. When DS was two weeks old, it was a great day if I got out of my pj's and washed some bottles. Your DH's coworker sounds like a jerk! Even if she is "just laying around", she just gave birth to a baby two weeks ago. She's probably exhausted and still healing.

    BTW, are you really 43 weeks pregnant?! If so, you're a trooper!

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  • I was recovering from a C/s so I couldn't really do a lot. I picked up but my dh would complain that I wasn't suppose to do anything and that he would do it. I am sure she is still adjusting to SAHM life it's very different and not to mention all the changes that just occurred in her life. I would tell the dh to give her a break she just carried a baby for 9 months and had a baby.
  • Ah, I just re-read your post - never mind! And congrats on your baby!
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  • I just got my house somewhat how I like it(well last week), It went to crap when I was on bed rest and c/s recovery was not fun. I have now got into the swing of things and can keep up with it.
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    BTW, are you really 43 weeks pregnant?! If so, you're a trooper!

    oh no..lol I logged in under my old screen name! that's my old pg ticker!

     

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  • Also her DH sounds like a jerk, the house is the least of her concerns right now.  The baby is 2 WEEKS old.  If he wants the house clean so bad he needs to do it.  I agree with Icky, my DS is almost 4 months old and keeping the house clean is still a challenge.  Granted, I'm back to work now, but her DH needs to get a clue.
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  • He's crazy, I had an easy vaginal delivery and my hospital discharge instructions said to avoid housework for a few weeks.

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  • It was actually a lot easier to keep up with the mess with a two week old than it is now, but I let things go a lot easier now than I used to. I was the vacuum once a day, dishes done immediately, laundry every couple of days kind of person before DS - now I'm a little bit more lax about things. I need to time to relax and when DS sleeps, chores are no longer my priority

    I'd be furious if my DH acted that way. Keeping up with an infant is harder than a lot of people think and he deserves a day alone with their child to figure that out for himself. I think if it's getting that bad he needs to pitch in himself. Being a SAHM means no getting off of work, no lunch break, no time off whatsoever - he should remember that before acting like life is so easy for her now

  • Her Dh should stay home with the baby by himself for a day or two and then he will see just how "lazy" she is. ?I still cannot get on top of mine.
  • I have a hard enough time keeping my house up with a 3 month old. At 2 weeks we were just home from the NICU so it is all a bit of a fog for me.
  • I have a bit of OCD ok a lot and when my DS first came home the house was clean from top to bottom because DH and I went on a rampage to get the house in order.

     Now the house drives me bonkers. DH is so used to me cleaning all the time now I'm constantly picking up after DH and looking after DS that it's hard to keep on top of things. Yes I have let things go but by any mean my house is not a "mess". Every time my Mother comes over I complain to her that I am unable to clean the house from top to bottom and have to clean it in chunks and that drives me nuts to. I also keep telling DH that we need a maid to come in at lease twice a month to do a good clean from top to bottom. I can stick to laundry, bottles and bathrooms anything else forget it .. I'm tired he's tired 

     

  • 2 weeks? Please.  I would have a nervous breakdown if I were trying to keep my house clean on top of recovering from childbirth, adjusting to a new baby, trying to get some rest, etc. 

     Her husband needs to be a little more understanding.

     I definitely have a hard time keeping my house clean and with a c/s, I'm somewhat limited in what I can do anyway.  In fact, my OB specifically said, don't clean your floors LOL.
     

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  • I have been able to keep it straight, but there are some days that I just wanna torch the place and start over. Especially when there is laundry everywhere.?

    ?I also haven't been able to scrub my floors like I like to, but at least they're vacuumed/swept and the house is pretty neat & tidy.??

  • ROFL @ 'keeping a home clean'
  • At 2 weeks my episiodomy and hemmorhoids were still killing me...plus having a baby attached to your boob for hours on end made it hard to do any kind of housework.  Her husband is a jerk and should be talking about how his wife did the most of amazing thing by giving birth to his child. 
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  • I'm just starting to be able to actually keep our somewhat clean.  And on a bad day there's not hope of getting any of it done. 

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  • Ditto, her husband sounds like an ass. I was still in a ton of pain and sleep deprived at two weeks. My house is still a wreck.
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  • Chores were the last thing on my and DHs mind when we first got home. DS is 3 weeks old and tonight is the first night that dinner was cooked AND the kitchen got cleaned.
  • Agree with pp... I have a six week old and it's bad enough. ?At two weeks our house was a disaster area.
  • If my husband had said that to me when DD was two weeks old I would kick him in the balls. 

    If he wants the house cleaned then he can get off his own @ss and do it or put his walllet where his mouth is and hire a cleaning lady.

    We hired a cleaning lady to come twice a month.  She is now coming once a month since I am JUST NOW starting to feel I can keep the house as clean as I want it to be.  

    I can keep it straightened up but have a hard time with the deep cleaning.

  • At two weeks, I would much rather sleep when the baby sleeps than clean my house! If it bothers him so much, let him do it!!
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