When your a SAHM.. People Assume...

KellyOsu23 · April 2010

You can do anything for them, Like my MIL... I mentioned I would do a diaper cake for her on Friday over the weekend if she wanted. Well she declined and today called me to do it for her, umm TODAY...

Then my BFF stated at a party last weekend she is so glad that I SAHM so I can watch her kids when she is off being a lawyer and she wont have to worry about daycare.... Dont worry, I corrected this one ASAP.

My mom will call and ask me to do her a favor at the drop of a hat ALL the time too.

You guys experience this?

tabi_ja · April 2010

Occasionally, but I just tell them about the day I have planned, and they usually back off.

JDCSKF · April 2010

No, but I don't answer my phone AND we are always out doing activities with DD.

taylormillgirl · April 2010

Nope. Sounds like you have rude friends/family.

ETA: I'd find a way to tell them that just because you're home doesn't mean you're available for everyone's beck and call.

ElizC · April 2010

Sometimes. My mom ask me to help her out with stuff a lot more than she use to. I however love helping my mom out. We just went over to her house for 4 days to help with a Garage Sale and getting her house ready to sell. It was so much fun. DS also got to spend a lot of time with his grandparents. MIL use to do it, but I always told her I was busy. I guess for me it all depends on who is asking and why.

twh2006 · April 2010

I don't. But I'm busier now than when I worked.

brightning · April 2010

This happened a lot in the first 2 years or so. Then I started to flake on the things that they asked (I used to be an editor and was asked to proof everything that my friends in grad school did), so they eventually stopped asking. I just don't have that much uninterrupted time in my day.

ali-1411 · April 2010

We don't have any family around, so that's not an issue. I'm always willing to help out friends, though. They do the same for me.

Kim&Jim · April 2010

Actually, it's the opposite for me. People assume because I have twins that I'm too busy to help with things. Smile

binabodi · April 2010

ElizC:
I guess for me it all depends on who is asking and why.

Exactly!

Daisy77 · April 2010

If people were to assume I could do favors for them at the drop of a hat, I'd assume they were taking my children so that I could do said favor:)

Stacyc625 · April 2010

Most people know better with me. lol-

I do get a ton of phone calls/emails/IMs for free tax or law advice which is very annoying.

My gripe with my mom- who is a SAHW (mom for many years)- is that she will call multiple times a day- have nothing to say- and just want to chat. I don't do idle chit chat very well- and plus I am up to my eyeballs in a mess and a very active toddler. My mom needs a hobby.

lys84 · April 2010

this has not happened to me yet, but i feel like i am still adjusting to mommyhood anyway. so if anyone asked me to something for them id probobly say no.

nictel · April 2010

Holy Christmas Yes.....however, it's more one person that anyone else. My DH has a few family members who don't pay for childcare (get help from friends and family) and when their regularly scheduled family sitter is unavailable, I always get called. When I worked, I paid for childcare. Maybe I sound bitchy, but it's not my job to always pick up the slack. I think my sister-in-law is starting to get the hint. DH's cousin, not so much, but her mom is very sick, so I really do try to help her out when I can.

amm826 · April 2010

No, I don't really get this, except from DH! We don't live near family and the friends we have where we live are just far enough away that a favor would be a big hassle. It would really annoy me if a friend of mine assumed I'd want to watch her future child if I had never said I would be interested in watching other kids! Not to mention I wouldn't want to watch the kids of a lawyer, my DH is one and he doesn't even work at a firm but still ends up working 12 hour days sometimes.

mandymack · April 2010

taylormillgirl:
Nope. Sounds like you have rude friends/family.

ETA: I'd find a way to tell them that just because you're home doesn't mean you're available for everyone's beck and call.

I agree, my friends & family would never assume anything and most, because of my blog and Facebook, know how busy we are!

*KC*luvs*RJ* · April 2010

I deal with this all the time, especially with my mom. Just today she was bombarding me with all this bathroom renovation planning stuff that SHE should be doing...not me. Not my bathroom, remember??? lol.

alex04 · April 2010

yes, when i first became a SAHM, 2 of our friends were pregnant and one said "if you get certified you could watch all our kids"...um, no. i want to be home with my baby, not yours.

Pinkgirly · April 2010

I have had a few people mention watching their babies. I stay home to be with DD, I'm not ready to have her and a friends newborn.

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