Slow Night Clicky: Do you consider yourself a feminist?

amandopolis · April 2010

...and do you have a paying job?

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amandopolis · April 2010

I'm interested because I have a friend who is a staunch feminist who insists women should never stay at home because they are setting other women back.

hriesen4 · April 2010

amandopolis:
I'm interested because I have a friend who is a staunch feminist who insists women should never stay at home because they are setting other women back.

Ha. I'm often pissed at those women for making it so damn hard for some of us to SAH.

A REAL feminist would see that women should be able to choose what they want to do and not have to feel guilty either way.

pintpo · April 2010

hriesen4:
A REAL feminist would see that women should be able to choose what they want to do and not have to feel guilty either way.

Yes

catycombs · April 2010

hriesen4:
amandopolis:
I'm interested because I have a friend who is a staunch feminist who insists women should never stay at home because they are setting other women back.

Ha. I'm often pissed at those woman for making it so damn hard for some of us to SAH.

A REAL feminist would see that women should be able to choose what they want to do and not have to feel guilty either way.

Brilliant! Well said. I would love to stay at home, that is my dream job.

AggieGrl · April 2010

hriesen4:
amandopolis:
I'm interested because I have a friend who is a staunch feminist who insists women should never stay at home because they are setting other women back.
Ha. I'm often pissed at those woman for making it so damn hard for some of us to SAH.
A REAL feminist would see that women should be able to choose what they want to do and not have to feel guilty either way.

AMEN! I graduated at the top of my class in both high school and college. I also just gave up a high responsibility job with a national non-profit. I was miserable there.

I've always been domestic, and I enjoy it. I started cooking and sewing when I was very young, thanks to my mother and 4-H. I love being home, both as a housewife and a SAHM. Before I quit my job, I actually felt guilty because of the responses I got from self-proclaimed "feminists." I have been told I am wasting myself and my potential staying home.

I don't understand why its not okay for me to stay home, but it is okay for me to work and pay ANOTHER woman to clean my house and watch my child. Is it okay because they make a "real" salary and I don't? The work is the same, and I'd actually be making a negative salary if I still worked with childcare and other expenses.

KimberlyJean · April 2010

hriesen4:

A REAL feminist would see that women should be able to choose what they want to do and not have to feel guilty either way.

THIS. I believe that being a Feminist requires the belief that we have a choice, and not determined by a specific choice itself.

I would love to stay home and raise my children and take care of my home and family. I would work from home too (writing children's books or crafting) to help bring in supplementary income, but the reality is we can't afford it. I wish.

Caroline422 · April 2010

hriesen4:

amandopolis:
I'm interested because I have a friend who is a staunch feminist who insists women should never stay at home because they are setting other women back.

Ha. I'm often pissed at those women for making it so damn hard for some of us to SAH.

A REAL feminist would see that women should be able to choose what they want to do and not have to feel guilty either way.

This!!!!!

amandopolis · April 2010

Glad to see I'm not alone in thinking that it's possible to be a feminist and want to stay at home!

Tonya_G · April 2010

I don't know what I am. I'm not a staunch feminist, but I'm not a doormat either. I'm in the middle of the road, like I am with most things. I think pretty much everything should be a woman's choice, even if it's not the choice I agree with. I'm a working mother, but my DH is practically a SAHD, and if he weren't, we probably would have figured out a way for me to SAH. That has nothing to do with feminism, but just my belief that the best scenario for children is to be able to spend much of their formative years at home with a parent. I believe in a woman's right to choose abortion, but would never dream of getting one myself except for in an extreme case, like rape. I choose to BF, which could be seen as "tying me down", but I view it as a great gift that I can give my child- that said, I don't knock anyone who opts to FF. To each his own.

SilentC · April 2010

I voted for SS - I'm a feminist who normally works, but I'm taking a full year of mat leave and will do the same when I have DC#2.

pink.dutch.tulips · April 2010

hriesen4:

amandopolis:
I'm interested because I have a friend who is a staunch feminist who insists women should never stay at home because they are setting other women back.

Ha. I'm often pissed at those women for making it so damn hard for some of us to SAH.

A REAL feminist would see that women should be able to choose what they want to do and not have to feel guilty either way.

ditto

my mom and grandmas fought hard for me to have the CHOICE to be a sahm OR a working mom ...my mom had the luxury of being a sahm ... both grandmas worked (teacher and hair stylist)

eta: yes i do have a paying job

redhotchili83 · April 2010

I voted SS cuz I consider myself an egalitarian, not really putting either gender above the other. I am a working mom who was raised by a strong, single mom (and DH was raised by just his mama, too) so I believe that women are just as capable as men, but I dont think that being a SAHM is necessarily "setting women back".

KateLouise · April 2010

To me feminism is about a) the choice to follow whatever path is right for you, whether that be a career, SAHM or some kind of combo.

and b) not being penalised in terms of salary, work conditions or opportunities because you're a woman.

c) Feeling free to try all things in life that pass your way. Whether that's boxing, embroidery, ballet or rugby.

And lastly the most important thing is that the door swings both ways, so if my son wants to be a ballet dancer or a SAHD then all power to him.

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