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Shower question...

jturnjturn
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My family doesn't do showers for 2nd babies...I assumed that was true for most people. Over the weekend one of my friends asked if anyone was having a shower for me and when I told her my fam doesn't do that she thought it was really strange and really wants to plan one for me. She said we can make it like a diaper shower or something because we have everything we need including more clothes than this child will be able to wear! I just don't know how I feel about.

Should I tell her no? How would I go about doing that without hurting her feelings? Its really sweet that she wants to throw one and it would be cool to celebrate Caroline with a little party, I just feel weird having a shower for a 2nd baby (please tell me if I'm being stupid about this)

If I do let her throw it who should I tell her to invite? Just close friends or should I include family? Or just immediate family not like my aunts and grandmas?

I don't have to register right?  Thanks...I know I'm probably completely overthinking this!

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  • jac*n*abejac*n*abe
    Abe's family does second showers but mine doesn't. Personally, I don't think I'd want a second shower.

    I would suggest to your friend a luncheon with your closest friends to celebrate your new addition as opposed to a shower. I'd invite your closest friends and your mom, MIL and maybe your aunts if you're very close to them. I, personally, wouldn't register though I'm sure those invited will ask the hostess what you might want/need for the new baby.
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  • HollyAnn1HollyAnn1

    My family doesn't do second baby showers either.  When my sister had her third (several years after her second), her in-laws had a diaper party for her.  They invited my family, and every attended.

    Last year I offered to have a baby shower for a friend who was pregnant with her second (also several years after her first).  She declined, and it didn't hurt my feelings at all.

    I would do whatever you feel the most comfortable with.  I like the luncheon idea though!

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  • SusieDMBSusieDMB
    We had a dipes & wipes shower at work for a friend's 2nd baby.  No need to register, but maybe let them know your favorite brand.  It was more a cookout--co-ed .
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  • mrs.melluvsloganmrs.melluvslogan

    imageSusieDMB:
    We had a dipes & wipes shower at work for a friend's 2nd baby.  No need to register, but maybe let them know your favorite brand.  It was more a cookout--co-ed .

    I like this idea, especially since you are having another girl!

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  • jturnjturn
    imagemrs.melluvslogan:

    imageSusieDMB:
    We had a dipes & wipes shower at work for a friend's 2nd baby.  No need to register, but maybe let them know your favorite brand.  It was more a cookout--co-ed .

    I like this idea, especially since you are having another girl!

    Great idea!! I would be much more comfortable with this. Thanks ladies!

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  • lemen99lemen99 member
    It would probably make me uncomfortable so I'd probably suggest not having a shower. Maybe you could do a girls lunch out or something to "celebrate" the baby but without gifts?
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