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Took another pregnancy test...

Jocelyn0415Jocelyn0415 member
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BFN! Thank God!

I can't figure out why my period isn't coming though. I guess stress must be playing a big role.

 

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Re: Took another pregnancy test...

  • mrgnmrgn member
    That's not uncommon. How are things going?
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  • Jocelyn0415Jocelyn0415 member

    Fine, I suppose. We have our first counseling session on Tuesday, but he doesn't want me to bring up the physical abuse because he thinks that could be grounds to involve the state and take her from us. He says he doesn't want to do anything that could potentially get her taken from us.

    I told him I didn't think that would happen and I really think we should talk about it because it's a big problem. I think part of him doesn't want to admit that he DID physically abuse me. He may not have hit me, but he pretty much did everything else, and he really needs help.

    ::sigh::

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  • ladyaylenaladyaylena
    They wouldn't take the baby away from YOU... not unless he continued the abuse and your LO was in potential danger.  You do need to talk about it especially if you want him to not do it again...
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  • Jocelyn0415Jocelyn0415 member

    imageladyaylena:
    They wouldn't take the baby away from YOU... not unless he continued the abuse and your LO was in potential danger.  You do need to talk about it especially if you want him to not do it again...

    That's what I told him, but he's so afraid the counselor will report him or something. I don't see why they would if he's there to get help for it.

    That's why part of me thinks he just doesn't want to be told he's an abuser. He's tried to justify everything he's done and a counselor will tell him there is no excuse for his behavior.

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  • fauxshelleyfauxshelley member
    Thank God it was negative!  Good luck!
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  • achase123achase123
    imageJocelyn0415:

    imageladyaylena:
    They wouldn't take the baby away from YOU... not unless he continued the abuse and your LO was in potential danger.  You do need to talk about it especially if you want him to not do it again...

    That's what I told him, but he's so afraid the counselor will report him or something. I don't see why they would if he's there to get help for it.

    That's why part of me thinks he just doesn't want to be told he's an abuser. He's tried to justify everything he's done and a counselor will tell him there is no excuse for his behavior.

    This.  And until he is ready to really examine his role in this and fix what he has done wrong, the counselor won't be of much help.  I think that you should disclose everything, otherwise she can't be of help to you.  I remember my counselor telling me that she can't work with people who aren't going to tell her the whole truth-it is counterproductive and unless you are ready to lay everything out there, what is the point in seeking counseling?

     Glad to hear it was a BFN. 

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  • xcjen06xcjen06

    Please tell the counseler about the abuse. If he wants things to get better then he should be able to admit his actions and seek help. If he doesn't get help abuse is very likely to continue and get worse.

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