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Postpartum Depression
mrs.oz
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How am I supposed to get better with no help?
mrs.oz
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DH is about to deploy to Iraq. He's been out doing training. I was home alone with DS all last week and will be this week. Let me tell you, it has stressed me out ot the max. It was easy to bring DS to the OB/GYN when I got my Rx for Zoloft. I got released from my high risk OB and need to find a new one (we moved here in October and I went right to the high risk OB who doesn't see regular GYN patients). My meds aren't working anymore so I decided to see a therapist in a psych practice.
Problem is, I don't have anyone to watch DS. I have my first appointment with this person next week and a friend of mine is watching DS on her day off. Like I said, we moved here in October. I've made a few friends, but all my friends work. I don't have a single person I can trust to watch DS while I do therapy.
DH being deployed is stressing me out. Being 100% alone with DS is stressing me out. I already have PPD. How the hell am I supposed to get treated for it when I don't have a flipin babysitter?
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Re: How am I supposed to get better with no help?
Girl, I hear ya'. My DH just got home (six days ago) from a year in Iraq. We'd been apart for 14 months, all told, from when he left for pre-deployment training. It was hard.
I'm glad that you are getting help--yeah you!!! Do all that you can to keep your appointments.
Do you live near a base that has hourly child care? If so, I'd check them out. If not, get on www.sittercity.com From what I understand, as a military family, you don't have to pay the fee to join.
Now that it is getting nice out, take your little guy for walks to the park. Strike up conversations with the other moms there. As for suggestions for babysitters. You may even make some friends.
Does your husband's unit/company/fleet (I don't know what, my DH is Army, I don't know the other terms!) have a family support network? This is the time to reach out to them, let them know that you will need support and that you are willing to provide support too. Maybe there is another mom with a small child whom you can trade child care with for things like doctors appointments and going to get your hair cut. Knowing that your DH is going to deploy is stressful. But, this is the time that you need to work to build your local resources and connections.
My heart goes out to you. It is hard being a "situationally single" mom. You can do it, it'll be a lot of work, but it will be worth it!
You know what's awful about the CDC on base...you can only call for drop in care 24 hours in advance. They don't do part time care. The waiting list for full time infant care is 6 months to a year and then I could only get childcare if I was working or going to school full time. They have a new child care program on base but it's only for dual military or single active duty. There's nothing in place for the "situationally single" as you put it (I love that term).
Well, I can't say that I'm surprised about the difficulty finding care. I wish that I lived closer. I'd watch your LO!
I'm glad that you like the term! It fits!
I know that I took my son with me to a couple of my psychiatrist appointments. I would think that a counselor would at least let you try it once or twice (I'd call first though, just to be sure!).
Do you go to church? Or are affiliated with a faith or denomonation that you could call a church to see what resources they have?
It is a tough situation. I was fortunate that my family is near by (with my DH's assignment, I was able to move to be near them). Please reach out, people are often willing to help--especially if it means getting to care for a baby!
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I'm here if you need an ear or a shoulder. I know how tough it can be. And, the stress of your DH prepping to deploy is rough. You can get through it!