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MrsLeanna
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Ready to give up on the toddler bed - help!!!!
MrsLeanna
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DH and I are like zombies, I feel like I have a newborn again, I'm totally at my wits end. Help.
Alexis had not been sleeping well in her crib for about a week, not falling asleep and waking up once in the middle of the night. She would toss everything out of the crib and she is so tall that she would hang over the side and jump like a trampoline so I was afraid to just let her cry because I was afraid she was going to fall out. Her back molars were coming in, I was able to feel 2 of them breaking through. This was a week and a half ago.
We decided this was a good time to get the toddler bed since she wasn't sleeping well anyway and because that way I could leave her and not be afraid of her falling.
We put her in the toddler bed tuesday night. She loves the bed, plays in there and climbs in and out and shows everyone. So she likes the bed. We babyproofed her room - took some things out that she could play with and put locks on her closet doors and dresser drawers. We have had to lie on the floor next to her bed every night for her to fall asleep. Some nights it's half an hour others its been an hour or even a little more. And she wakes up in the middle of the night 3-4 times. If it's before 5am or so, she falls back to sleep right away, 10 minutes, but if its later 5am or after, it can take her 30 -45 minutes, again with us lying there with her. I'm exhausted. I've tried leaving her to cry but she is so hysterical that I don't think she'll calm down. She bangs on the door and the walls and then screams "owie", she turns the light on. I just don't know what to do, but this can't go on. If you've let your toddler cry after they are in a bed, what do you do - how do you handle it? Do you go in and put them down or do you just leave them no matter how bad it gets?
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Re: Ready to give up on the toddler bed - help!!!!
Oh no, I'm so sorry! Perhaps her bad sleeping habits is due to her teething, and not necessarily the toddler bed. Have you tried having her sleep w/ you in your bed for an evening? Does she still wake up? If so, then hopefully it will pass.
Nephew is 2.5 yrs old and he's been in his bed a few months now. SIL tells me that sometimes he just cries and they have to hold the door shut so he won't come out! Sounds crazy, but eventually he calms down and falls asleep, even on the floor. Eventually they will adjust to their new bed, hopefully sooner rather than later.
GL!
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((((((((hugs))))))))))) this can be so frustrating...I really can't speak from experience b/c tonight is actually Chelsea's first night in her big girl bed and so far so good (2hours). But when her molars were coming in - she was in sooo much pain. I would rub orajel on the area or give her tylenol. Some nights she wakes up at 12am or 5am in hysterics. I go in , tuck her in, kiss her, but she continues to scream - I just let her CIO (in crib). With my first born - I was against CIO - but I have found that it works with Chelsea. It breaks my heart to hear her calling for me - but its much worse if I cave in.
Don't give up though. It could be much worse if she were to fall out of the crib and get hurt. As tired as you are, you are doing great! It has been how many nights? four nights? Don't give up just yet. It sounds like she's just in pain...poor baby ;0(
Sam - I've tried the Motrin it doesn't make a difference
I agree with you that the molars are probably making it worse but I don't know when she goes from being in pain to then making it a habit - ya know?
From what you've told me it sounds like its pure pain. Do not worry about her making it a habit. Now once those molars are in and if she pulls this on you then you just need to get firm at that time, but for now do whatever you have to to keep her safe and comfortable. Worry about habit later.
This. It really does sound like she's acting up because of the pain and not the bed. Once the molars are in, you can get a better picture of how she feels about her big girl bed.
I'm poking in a little late! I'm sorry you're going through this!
It sucks! I agree with Sam. I will tell you that we don't close the door to L's room. He gets scared, so we leave his door and ours open.If it's closed, he cries because he's scared.
When we were doing the sleep training, I slept in his room for almost a week, and then I took the mattress out and sleep in the hallway for a couple days; I kept moving farther each night until I was back in my own room. Before 2 weeks, he was sleeping fine. Now we're having the night terrors issue, but thankfully lately it hasn't been every night. I know exactly what you mean when you say you feel like you have a newborn again!
I hope she sleeps soon!
Thanks
I think I'll take her to the pedi tomorrow just to make sure nothing else is going on with her. And I'll ask them to look at her teeth to see what the progress is there.
We have to keep her door closed because her room is on the same side of the house as the kitchen and family room and opposite the house from our room, so she would hear all the noise from the kitchen / family room. Also we have a cat and i don't really want him snuggling with her in the middle of the night. She's always slept with her door closed so I don't think it bothers her.
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My thought is that if the Motrin does not make her stop screaming and waking up....then its not the pain that is keeping her up and making her act out. And since she was doing this before the toddler bed, I would say that its not that either. Stick to your guns. Don't go backwards.
I know you are not a fan of CIO and never have been - and at this age its so much harder than when they were smaller because its not as easy for them to tire themselves out. I would recommend switching up your nightttime routine. Making her bedtime later when she is more tired, maybe adding a soundmachine or some classical music to her room at bedtime at a low sound to keep the quiet away. Don't sit in the room until she is asleep...sit in there until she is almost asleep. And if she cries when you leave, don't go right back in. She is VERY used to that, I am sure. You need to time it. Let her cry for about 10 minutes, then go in. What also works with Sophie when she decides to act up is for me to not go in and to talk to her from outside the door. I loudly tell her that I can hear her, but its bedtime and she needs to go to sleep. We can play and have fun tomorrow.
There are lots of things you can try - but responding to the crying the way you have been will (probably is) just make it worse. She needs to learn that she can sooth herself to sleep without you. Call me if you want. Sophie was not quite two when we switched her because of climbing. It was a tough transition. She spent a few weeks falling asleep on the floor inside the door....and that was my last resort.
These kids are tough cookies!
I'm late on this but I wanted to chime in. We recently transitioned Quinn to his "big boy" bed and a few days after we started, his 2-years molars began to bother him. He was up 3-4 times a night screaming, crying, and carrying on. Motrin did nothing. DH and I were zombies. At first, we weren't sure what it was, but he started telling us that his teeth hurt. It took 8 days of sleepless nights, but his molars finally broke through and know he LOVES his toddler bed. We made a rule with him that he couldn't get out of bed but if he needed anything, he could call our names and we'd here him through the monitor. He tested it a few times, but once he knew we would come if he needed anything, he's been just fine.
Hopefull it is just her molars and once they break through, the bed transition will go much smoother. Be strong - hugs!