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Tough Love - Vent

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I just got an email from a friend saying I needed to practice tough love with DS and let him cry.  We are going out during the day and I said I might have to leave early if DS has a melt down.  DS is starting to have seperation anxiety and sometimes will freak with DH.  I mean DS is only 5 months old!  If her daughter was an angel I might understand why she feels her parenting style is better, but she's not.  She's 2 and very wild!  I just ignored her email.  I'm afraid I will say something mean!  
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Re: Tough Love - Vent

  • ctabctab

    I don't understand people thinking they should giving advice when you haven't asked for it.  I never give parenting advice unless the person specifically asks. 

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  • BabyMama1979BabyMama1979
    Maybe you should respond to your friend with "tough love".
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  • Luv4MinnesotaLuv4Minnesota member

    Seriously, what is wrong with people?  I understand if you asked for her advice or told her you were having a hard time and didn't know what to do.  But why in the world does she think that you taking good care of your son and giving him what he needs warrents her telling you you're doing it wrong and telling you a "better" way to do it. 

    What is loving about making a child cry, even if its so called tough love?  I don't get it? 

    Now, if they are older and throwing a tantrum or something, that's different.  But 5 months old?!  Give that baby what it needs. 

     You're doing a great job, Momma.  Give me your friends email, I'm not afraid to say something mean!  :) 

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  • Mini-ebethMini-ebeth

    That stuff is so maddening.  Where does she get off?  It isn't like you solicited any advice and it is insane that people feel like they can comment.

    What would they do if all AP parents started telling them how their approach to raising children was insensitive? 

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  • jshfjshf member
    Yeah, I was surprised she said something because we aren't super close.  And I never complain about how hard things are with DS.  I do here on this board, but I don't want people blaming everything on being AP.  Being a parent is hard period!  I guess it is good in a way, because when people say something negative, it only strengthens my resolve to do things the way I am!
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  • blueyez09blueyez09

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    Maybe you should respond to your friend with "tough love".

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  • DandelionMomDandelionMom

    What a douchey thing to say to you!  You're doing great -- just ignore her lapse in manners. 

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  • KellyD01KellyD01 member
    PUH-LEASE! DS is 22 months, smack in the middle of his first major seperation anxiety phase and I don't let him cry  now... let alone 17 months ago! Go with your gut mama!
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  • KittyKatBratKittyKatBrat

    I get being upset with a crappy response from her, but why wouldn't you trust your DH to console your baby?

    Both parents are part of the kids life and I'm sure your DH, who you trusted enough to make a baby with, would be ok with consoling your DC.

    Mine did the same thing but DD had to learn that both of us were there to take care of her.  And DH did wonderful.

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