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ArcticFox
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Friend has been annoying me with her LO stories
ArcticFox
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I just had my second baby, the same week as my friend had her first baby. Every time I go on Facebook, she IM's me (so I try to stay offline or block her a lot).
When she first had her baby, she was telling me tons of info, all the time, like telling me what to do. She even went off on me saying how there is no need to be sleep deprived, that babies should be STTN at like 6 weeks. And how basically BFing is bad for a lot of moms because it makes them miserable. Etc.
Needless to say, we didn't agree on a lot, and we don't - which is fine -
But EVERY time I go online, a message pops up.. "My LO had his shots.. My LO is teething.. My LO rolled over.. My LO ate peas today.. My LO skipped a nap today.." I know she is excited about having her first baby, but I don't always want to talk about babies, and I don't want to be judged on everything (I don't criticize her parenting or go grab books on babies and start quoting stuff). She has never asked how my LO's checkups go, but she goes on and on about how her baby cried when he got his shots (....!)
I feel bad, b/c I'm guessing she doesn't have other friends with babies, but I don't want to hear her talk about her baby every single night when I'm trying to check my e-mail and go to bed. I have tried to steer the conversation other places but then she comes right back with telling me about her baby. I do want to be her friend but I wish she'd chill out a little
(Please don't think I'm trying to be mean to her... it has to be with her pushing her ideas on me and only talking about her baby nonstop).
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Re: Friend has been annoying me with her LO stories
I have a feeling it will pass. I remember those early days. It took me a while to figure out how to separate myself from my LO. It was pretty all consuming, at least for me. None of my friends have kids, so imagine how annoyed they had to be w/ me. LOL Just try to give her some time. I'm sorry she's annoying you right now, but it probably will pass.
Honestly, if you don't want to continue avoiding her but would like to attempt to stay friends, I think you just need to be honest with her. Let her know that you enjoy talking to her, but sometimes you need a break from the baby discussions. Also that you appreciate her *enthusiasm* towards motherhood, but you feel that some of her methods/beliefs don't mesh with yours and you'd appreciate if she would respect your choices the way you're respecting hers - or at least not debating them and quoting literature to prove a "point".
If it was just a problem with her talking babies (yours and hers) non-stop then I would say wait it out and see, but she honestly sounds like the type that will always be a bit too vocal about her opinions and a little too into her own kid with no concern for anyone else's. Unless you let her know that you would prefer to be more than her parenting sounding board, she's likely to continue to treat you as just that.
Mes Petit Choux
I can't go back to yesterday - because I was a different person then. ~ Alice