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Vent: DH doesn't want to tell anyone
We really haven't told many people except immediate family that baby #2 is on the way, and I was okay with it for awhile. I'm definitely feeling more comfortable as we reach the end of the first tri and I keep bugging my DH to decide when we're going to "out" ourselves. DH wants people to just see me and find out and not really tell anyone. For some reason this really bothers me. We are going to a wedding at the end of May and he thinks we should just show up and have people realize then that there's another baby coming (we live about 8 hours from the people that will be at the wedding). I'm dying to tell people and don't understand why he wants to keep it a secret. My closest friends live 8-10 hours away and they'll never see me pregnant, so with DH's theory they'll never know baby #2 is coming! When I go in to his work (we typically get together for lunch once every other week with DS) DH reminds me to wear something that doesn't look "pregnant-ish" since I'm really bloated and it looks like I'm preg). He's driving me crazy and making me want to pull my hair out!
If you made it this far, thanks for listening. Vent over.
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Re: Vent: DH doesn't want to tell anyone
I be frustrated too, especially if I have to change the way I dress or disguise myself in front of other people to go along with an idea that I do not supporting.
Is there any way you can talk to your DH and say clearly that you do not want to go along with his idea and start telling everyone? You have just as much right to your feelings as well and you are the one who is going through the body changes. And you have a right to cellabrate your baby news.
We haven't announced the pg either - only my parents and BFF know. This time around DH wanted to be sure that everything was going to be okay - and I completely agreed. We had 2 u/s and heard h/b and I have a small bump already so I told him I was ready. I knew he'd want his parents to be one of the first to know so I asked him when he was going to tell them and he said later. I continued probing and he has finally agreed to tell them for Mother's day -- which was still a month away but he said I could tell work if I wanted to (which I haven't).
I would continue bugging DH and try to find out his reason/concern for not announcing #2. If he still refuses then I'd go ahead and tell everyone.
I totally understand. My DH wants to do the exact same thing. We haven't even told his parents yet!
It has been in the 70's here lately and I'm getting awefully tired of having to wear baggy sweaters and jackets all the time.
Lucky for me, I happened to run into his friend's wife at the Midwife's office yesterday, I told him that it wouldn't take long for her to spread the word and he better tell his parents before they hear it from somebody else. I think my sweater-wearing days are coming to an end.