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A reason to be thankful...(long)

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Granted with all that has been going on with me and DH and this loss, my heart has been heavy.  Don't get me wrong.  DH and I are stronger than ever.  All this drama with my body has brought us closer together.  DH has been absolutely amazing.  After the surgery he made me French Toast, when he had no clue on how to make it- all b/c I had a craving.  He has been attentive and just there when I need him.  If I seem "strong" it is b/c he has been holding me up. 

DH and I have been together for 5 years now, and still in the "lovie dovie" stage that I hope never dies, I think it is b/c we found each other later in life and had time to figure out what we wanted and when we found it we latched on.  

But, I would be remiss to say that my heart is heavy.  We both REALLY want to be parents and had so much hope in the pregnancy. 

 I had to go into the RE clinic this AM so they can make sure my Beta's continue to fall.  This trip, of course was not easy.  I get there and everyone is so nice, caring and understanding.  The nurse who always takes my blood and who, incidentally, went through a loss at 20 weeks when her babies heart stopped, complimented me on my DH.  At first I was taken aback, b/c I guess I never really noticed just HOW supportive he is of me.  She told me she has been with her husband for 5 years and they don't act like us.  The more I thought about it, the more I realized that she is right.  I am lucky, very lucky, despite the hell my body is giving us, I have DH.  He truly is my rock and my reason to be thankful. 

Forever buddy to Angelica; Natural Miscarriage Jan. 2008 @ 11 weeks; 2 years of BFFN's; DX: Unexplained IF (RE thinks IF is due to tubal issues); IUI #1 & 2= BFFN; IUI#3 = BFP, resulted in Cornual ectopic pregnancy; IUI #4 - 6 =BFFN; Our next endeavor... IVF. 1 grade AA embryo transferred on 4-23-2011 and 5 frosties. BFP Abby born 1/5/2012

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  • JuJuBe3JuJuBe3
    Awww.  I'm all teary-eyed.  Your DH sounds incredible.  All of these struggles are so hard, but it's good when it brings a couple closer, rather than divides them.  I'm sorry for what you're going through.  It's great that your DH has been such a great help.
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  • rjl07rjl07

    Your DH sounds amazing!  I'm so glad that you have him to get through everything.

    And now I want French Toast...

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  • jillybean800jillybean800 member
    Ok, now I am going to cry.  That is so wonderful that you have each other.
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  • michroccmichrocc member

    Your DH sounds like a wonderful person.  Since I've observed how wonderful you are, too, it makes sense for the two of you to be such a great fit.

    I'm so sorry for all you've been through and continue to go through. 

    {{{{hugs}}}}

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  • kmountkmount member
    I was just saying to my DH that I felt closer to him through all of this.  I think it can be a true test of a relationship, how you come through tragedy together (especially this kind of tragedy, which most people seem unable to understand-- we need them more in these cases).  Glad you have such a wonderful DH Big Smile
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  • csquared425csquared425
    Wow, that is so sweet. I'm tearing up. Your DH sounds great.
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  • writergirl5786writergirl5786 member
    aww what an amazing hubby! ((hugs)) to you both!
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  • johannaknipjohannaknip
    As much as I hate everything you are going through, I am so glad that you have such an amazing husband.
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  • BeachColeBeachCole
    Laura, your DH sounds like a wonderful man. I'm so glad he's been so sweet and supportive for you. It's great y'all have each other and that you've become even closer. T&P for both of you.
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  • CamicatCamicat
    I'm so sorry for everything you have gone through and are going through but I am so glad you have your DH. I call my DH my rock too. There are so many things I don't know how I would have gotten through without him. Kudos to your DH for being so supportive! Smile
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  • uklawgirluklawgirl member
    I am so glad that you are blessed with such an awesome DH.
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  • jen629jen629 member
    awww Laura that made me cry you are very lucky to have you DH as I am sure he feels so lucky to have you:){{{{{{HUGS}}}}
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  • mkoelkermkoelker member

    Your post made me tear up.  It sounds like you two are very lucky to have each other.  If only that kind of love existed throughout the world, it would be a very happy place. 

    I am so sorry you have to go through this, it just isn't fair.  My thoughts and prayers are still with you and your husband. 

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  • AppleRidgeAppleRidge member
    That's wonderful to hear.  You guys will make it through just fine.
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  • DoingItRightDoingItRight member
    That is so sweet.  I am glad that your husband takes such good care of you!!!
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  • babygirlpriestbabygirlpriest

    I totally understand feeling closer than ever to your DH. It sounds like he's just been a rock for you! I hate, hate, hate that this is happening to you two.

    Huge hugs to you and Mr. Sun.

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  • Mocha GirlMocha Girl
    That is truly awesome! Your DH sounds like a wonderful person and it sounds like the two of you make a fabulous team!
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  • MrsAMMMrsAMM
    Your DH sounds like an incredible man.  I'm terribly sorry that you guys have had to go through such a horrible thing.  Yet it's great that you two have grown closer in the midst of tragedy. 
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  • MarriedandlovingitMarriedandlovingit member
    I have tears in my eyes...I am so glad you and DH can lean on each other. Whenever I get really down, I try to list my blessings....and DH is always at the top. I'm so sorry for everything you have been through. Big huge hugs to you today.
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  • erinb1025erinb1025

    I'm so happy that you have such a supportive DH. It makes it much easier when DH wants to take care of you and shows you how much he loves you everyday.

    After my surgery, my DH wouldn't leave my side... for anything... not even for me to go to the bathroom! it was so cute. We had only been married 2 weeks when we found out about my ectopic, so we were thrown into he!! 2 weeks after the best day of our lives.

    How are you feeling otherwise??? physically from surgery?

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  • surfergirlkonasurfergirlkona
    Laura, you are truly an amazing woman.  This post has brought an abundance of tears.  I am so happy to hear that you have a rock and a love that is there for you and your relationship. (this makes me take a peek at my own and realize how lucky I am too, despite our differences).  Thank you for sharing these thoughts.  ((hugs))
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  • dondraandluisdondraandluis member
    Aww, that is so sweet. I'm so glad you have each other. (((hugs)))
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  • jdeats71jdeats71
    I'm so glad you DH is supportive.  I feel the same about mine and I haven't been through the half of what you have.  It is something to be thankful for and makes all this effing BS manageable....
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  • Olive44Olive44 member
    Awww that's very sweet.  It's also a nice reminder that although we get so consumed with the pain of our losses, we do still have a lot to be thankful for.  I'm glad you have such an amazing DH!
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  • boulderbabeboulderbabe
    Oh that is so sweet. You are truly lucky to have such a supportive and loving DH. Thank you for posting this. It is a good reminder to me to be thankful for my husband.
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  • celestej619celestej619
    Oh sweetie. I am so glad that you have such a loving and caring dh. You deserve nothing less. (((hugs))) I'm so glad you guys have each other.
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  • mdm2137mdm2137
    He sounds sweet and wonderful. I'm glad you have someone you can lean on.

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