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Sports related again
After the whole BM#2 scheduling the girls for a gymnastics class while she's at work we went to gymnastics. It was a busy day for DH and I. We got home from work at 4:00, let the dog out, and left for SS's 1st baseball practice at 4:30. We left his practice 20 minutes early to watch some of the girls gymnastics. At 8:00 we were both hungry and ready to get home. Gymnastics ends at 8:15. So we left early. BM#2 had to nerve to call and say it wasn't fair that we left early and the girl noticed. Okay?!?!?! If we could talk to the girls before we left we would have said "Hey we are heading out a little early, love you!" But they can't talk so we didn't. It just made me mad for her now to act like we aren't at 95% of there events.
For SD#3's basketball BM#2 came to 3 practices/games combine for the whole season. The coach didn't even know who she was. For SD#2 and SD#3's softball we took them to every game and she would show up (on the phone) for the last 10 minutes and act like she was there the whole time. WTF!
Just had to vent. The short term memory p!sses me off. Like she is there for them b/c she was at gymnastics two weeks in a row. You want a metal? It's hard to vent to DH b/c it gets on his nerves too. I don't like dealing with most of my friends b/c they don't understand a BF (b/c they aren't one).
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Re: Sports related again
That's annoying! I think the next time you see the girls, you should let them know why you had to leave early and let them know that it might happen sometimes in the future as well. That way they know and won't be upset. Although I doubt they were upset. I think it was just BM starting stuff, IMO.
I hear you on venting to DH and friends...that's why I love this board!!!
THIS! I don't vent away or post that much on here, but I do start typing a vent and then canceling it... esp when it sounds stupid... but it helps-nice to know I'm not alone, too!
I hear ya, though... it's hard. AND def that DH is tired of hearing of vents.... I told him last week he didn't marry me cause I was docile and quiet, so he needs to deal.
I'm agreeing w/ this. 15 minutes you were so hungry you couldn't wait 15 minutes to say goodbye and encourge her on how well she did. You're the adult. I'm sure it hurt her to look up and see you there and then look up again and you're not there and no reason or explaination.
Stop keeping the scorecard you're not going to win any MEDALS either.
I guess I felt like DH and I were being kept score against and she was trying to win a metal. Maybe I had it all wrong.
DH and I had been working and out with the kids from 5:30am to 8:00pm and had not ate since lunch. Might be lame to you but we were getting a little ran down and had a 1/2 hour drive home.
Still lame. Who cares what BM thinks of you? Sometimes being hungry and tired is part of being parents. Plan ahead.
Do you know what vent means?
On the boards a vent usually means I'm going to emotionally vomit but not take responibility of what I said or learn from it in anyway.
Yes that is exactly what I wanted to do, emotionally vomit. I couldn't have said it better. I did learn something! It didn't make me feel any better like I thought it would. Lesson learned!
Ignore her, seriously. Not worth getting worked up over. Shes just trying to be a beeotch.
FWIW my DDs gymnastics only allows you to watch the first week of every month. and even then I usually only get there in time to watch the last 1/2 hour or so.
I don't see the big deal in leaving gymnastics practice 15 min early.. its not like it was a competition or a game or something.
I agree with everything flippy said. It really sounds like our BM's could be sisters. We get a sh!tty phone call after almost every visitation or really any interaction with the kids telling DH what a crappy parent he is. At first it really bothered DH (which was the whole point) but when he really broke it down, it was pretty obvious she is just attacking him to make herself feel better. Take it for what it really is...and let it go.
Thank you
We have a lot of issues about sports with our BM also. Not exactly the same issues - but after years of dealing with the same sh!t over and over again, it really gets annoying.
As far as leaving practice early - who cares - I think it is great that you went. My opinion might not be too popular, but I think that multiple parents going to every practice and the coddling of our youth in general has gotten ridiculous. Unless I am the parent transporting to practice, I likely do not go (unless it is a new sport). Now a game or competition I think is different, but come on people, we are talking about practice.
There were soccer practices for my SS that were attended by 4 parents - ridiculous! And my DH and I wonder why he has some many "I need attention" issues?
I think it is great to support the kids and go to a practice or 2, and I think you should go to all games and competitions within your abilities - but leaving practice early when there is another parent there - no big deal. And if SD was upset for real, I think that is a little crazy, but just explain to her you had to leave, and that might happen again inthe future, but you had a great time watching for the time that you could.
Not being biotchy at all. It's just lame to leave a childs event because you are hungry. Sure I understand a vent but it doesn't make you immune to hearing what people think.
I thought so too...or at least that is what I was agreeing with when I said I agreed with her!
Things must have changed since I was growing up. Parents were hardly ever at practices. I was in volley ball, softball, ballet, tap, jazz, piano lessons, ect...and parents never stayed for practices. Not just my parents but any of the kids'. Of course when it comes to games and recitals you want your parents there cheering you on.
My neice is in gymnastics currently. I went with my brother on Tuesday to pick her up. We went about 15 min early to watch a little bit. There was a couple other moms there and then more came after we got there. But I really see no scense in every parent being at every practice every time.
I thought she was talking about BM too!
Just so we are clear I welcome all comments (not that it matters b/c I would get them anyway) and sometimes I am wrong but on this one I think BM shouldn't have said a word.
In my PP I told how she moved the girls gymnastics day from Tuesday to Thursday without letting DH know first. This is a problem b/c she works Thursday night. We will take them but a phone call first should take place. Why did she move it? No answer from BM b/c the same classes are offered on Tuesday and Thursday. My problem is she will not go again till at least July so if DH and I want leave early at the last one we have the option to then we will. I don't care if it's b/c I want to do my nails or DH has to poop. She will not be there and to me it takes a ton of nerve to say something over 15 minutes!!!! Should DH call her with smart comments every Thursday when she isn't there?
What will this accomplish?
If I were saying that last sentance, I would be having my tone full of sarcasm... I don't think she was seriously asking that question Karma...
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Really? Are so many parents getting their knickers in a twist about missing a child's practice?
I didn't realize this was an "event."