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scoutkate
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Weddings and due date
scoutkate
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We've been invited to two June weddings we'd really like to attend and I'm not sure how realistic that is, given my due date (June 13th).
The first wedding is on June 5th, one week before my due date. It is being held about 2 hours from our home, in the town where my IL's live, so we would stay with them. Absolute worst case scenario, if I were to go into labor that weekend, my MIL is a doctor and my IL's neighbor is actually an OB--and I've met him more times than any of the doctors at my OB office here at home. The local hospital is not quite as nice as the hospital here at home, but it is good (and I was born there, which is cool).
The second wedding is June 26th, two weeks after my due date. Again, the wedding will be about 2 hours from our home, in the town where my parents live, so we would stay with them. If LO cooks longer than 40 weeks I certainly won't go to that one, but if she does come on time or a little early, is it out of the question to travel with a newborn so soon after birth?
Both weddings are for close childhood friends, so we really want to attend them if at all possible. Are we insane to even consider it?
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It's a little tricky. If you haven't given birth by June 5th, I don't think going is an issue, but it's also possible you could go into labor June 4th. Same with the one June 26th...you might have a 2 week old, you might have a 1 day old. I personally would not travel to a large gathering with lots of people with an infant younger than 6 weeks, at the strong recommendation of my pediatrician (concerns about the baby being exposed to too many people). Other big question, are children/babies even invited to the wedding? Usually you tell by the invite, but since LO isn't here yet, you'd have to do some checking around.
If it was something else, I'd say play it be ear, but that's the horror answer for an RSVP to someone planning a wedding. We ended up declining a wedding a couple weeks after my due date with DD because the odds seemed more likely we couldn't go, and I didn't think it was fair to the bride/groom to leave them hanging (as it turned out, I was still pregnant, but wouldn't have wanted to travel). If these are really close friends and you *genuinely* think they wouldn't mind a "we'll have to play it by ear answer" (not that they'd say yes because they felt guilty but it was really a big inconvenience), I'd do that.
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I think I would go the the june 5th wedding, especially since you have a good back up plan just in case you went into labor.
I personally would not attend the later wedding. By then you will have a NB. 1) If you are bf'ing that will be a big issue. 2) I personally wasn't ready to leave my DS for hours at that young of an age 3) I wouldn't have had anything appropriate to wear to a wedding without shopping last min. My breasts were extremely huge and my belly was shrinking daily. No mat dress or reg dress would have fit me!
good luck!
I say plan on going to both and enjoy yourself! If your plans get a little "screwed up" because you have a baby, then no sweat...you are having a baby!!!!
As far as traveling with a baby and bringing LO to the later wedding, I would totally do it, but I was never afraid to take DD out of the house after she was born. It was summer (she was born June 24), it wasn't cold/flu season, she was healthy and I had no reason not to. You don't have to let everyone in the place touch the baby. People have differing opinions on this but I personally do not see why you should keep the baby from public places unless it's medically warranted. If anything I think it lent to my DD's laid-back personality, we used to take her EVERYWHERE and she was always totally chill with it.