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TTC after 35
IVF talk with RE? I hope not.
My RE has given me some options for this cycle. #1 is to take a cycle break and consult with the owner of the practice (since my wonderful RE is moving to Texas soon).. #2 is to take my regular medicine and have him do the baseline ultrasound and consult. I worry that he wants to discuss doing IVF because I am pretty sure that DH is not up for it. We discussed not doing things like that when we were dating (and I was stupidly naive that it would be easier than this). I just worry that DH is going to not want to try IVF and I will want to. I am anxious for DH to get home so that we can start talking about this. it's just so different for us since DH already has had some children. I hate IF and the stupid control it has taken over my life!
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Re: IVF talk with RE? I hope not.
Lizzy
IF SUCKS doesn't it? It does take over and no matter how hard I try to not let it it does anyway.
I totally understand where you are coming from. When we first started TTC our first I was absolutely positive that IVF was not for us. The cost, the whole playing God business, I was so "No Way" and now I just feel everyday that I am losing the opportunity to add to my family and if this IUI doesn't work will probably head the IVF route. What seals it for me is what a lot of ladies on this board say and that is I wouldn't want to look back with regret and feel like I didn't try every possible solution. Plus I couldn't imagine my daughter without a brother or sister.
I so hope that you and your hubby can talk about what is best for both of you. GL with your decision.
Yes, IF is just crappy through and through! Even though we knew we might have potential issues TTC from the start, I secretly held onto some hope that it would be quickly diagnosed and cured with a simple pill or one-time procedure. HA!! Luckily, DH and I had discussed what we were and weren't willing to do before the process began...........we were willing to try everything we could, as long as we were financially able......including IVF, and ultimately adoption. This being said, I never thought IVF would be my "next step"........I never thought it would come this far!
I can't remember, but have you tried IUI or have you discussed this option with your RE (or your DH)? If not, could this be an option before IVF (especially if DH is unwilling to do IVF)? Just a thought.
Hope you and DH have a successful conversation and wishing you lots and lots of luck on whatever your decision is!
Oh Lizzy...it does suck, it sucks really bad. None of us ever thought it would be this hard and none of us deserve to have to go through this.
I'm keeping you in my thoughts.
All of this. I never thought I'd be here planning my first cycle of IVF. It stinks.
Good luck with your DH.
Well, it can never hurt to get some information from your RE, even if you eventually decide it's not the path you want to take. When you were dating, you didn't know what your circumstances would be, so it's ok if you've changed your mind or are now open to something you thought you'd never consider.
Heck, just a few weeks ago I said we weren't going to pursue IVF, and here I am...getting ready to start BCPs next week. And it's a good thing it's getting underway soon, because 2 weeks from now, I might be saying something else! Hard to maintain any semblance of rational thinking in this process!
I hate IF too. And I hate that you are feeling anxious about it all. Looking forward to hearing what you decide to do this cycle.