does your age affect your thoughts re 2u2 or 1 & done?

racampbell1 · April 2010

Just curious if any of you ladies are feeling or did feel pressure to have number 2 fast due to your age? I'm 37 (and was when DD was born), and we're not sure if we are one and done or going to try for number 2. If we did it wouldn't be until DD's first birthday, but that's feeling too soon... at least right now. On the other hand, I'm not 25 and can't wait forever.

robynlesley · April 2010

For me, my age plays a major factor. We felt rushed to have my DS (conceived 5 months after our wedding) and plan to be "one and done" due to age, financial difficulties and aging parents.

I think you still have time to space out your children if you want a 2nd. Having a baby at 39 or 40 isn't too bad?really!

Piranha54 · April 2010

Age does play a factor in our decision to be one and done, but it's not the only thing. I was 41 when Ellie was born - she was a week early or I'd have been 42

While I never "planned" to have just one, given how long it took to get pregnant the first time, how sick I was during the pregnancy and our ages, we're done. Luckily, we have lots of friends also just having kids, as well as nieces and nephews starting families, so she's not the only baby of the bunch.

Julia-Henry · April 2010

For us, it wasn't a factor. We had #1 when I was 35, and then waited until 40 for #2. I couldn't have done it any sooner, and this has worked out well for us.

One thing that I think made a difference for us was that I conceived #1 on the first try - knowing that fertility had worked out relatively easily for us made it less stressful and thus easier to wait until we were truly ready. It might have been different if we had struggled to have #1.

NewMrs07 · April 2010

We want another baby but need to wait a few months until our jobs and relocation plans are in place. Plus, I still feel like my body needs more time to be ready for another pregnancy. Originally we had planned to start trying this past February but it's looking like we won't start until the Fall or later. I will have turned 40 by and am a little worried about genetic defects but will hope for the best. It took us a year to conceive naturally so I'm not sure what will happen this time, we'll see!

Pesky · April 2010

LOL!! Yes. I also opted to not TTC until DD's 1st bday and took a few months but ended up with them almost exactly 2 yrs apart. I wanted to get a move on to leave open the option of having a 3rd. It's hard but worth it -- I love seeing them really bond and know they will play together soon enough.

tlc7068 · April 2010

We are waiting until our first turns one to try. i just turned 40 so we do not want to wait much longer.

stever · April 2010

No pressure per se, but will be trying sooner rather than later just in case.

SFAug07 · April 2010

Yes, age is a key factor in us wanting to have another one asap. I am 39.

KD288 · April 2010

Age and fertility issues have got me ttc starting this month. I started the first time when I was 31. Now I am 36. Need to get moving just in case!

iluvtom · April 2010

I really want one more but DH is not sure,money is tight and I wish he would be a SAHD,If we had one more he may just do that--we will plan to decide in July

KKMMex · April 2010

My age definitely did affect our thoughts about having another baby. We ended up with 2 under 2 and it was certainly hellish but absolutely worth it! I was 39 and 41 when I had them. It still sends me into shock when I think about how far I pushed the envelope before having children!

busybea · April 2010

It took us 3yrs to naturally conceive LO, I had just turned 37 when I gave birth. I never in a million years thought I would get pregnant so easily, so soon. We "wanted" to wait until he was 1yr old to try to conceive again, but the man upstairs had other plans, so I will be 38 when I have the twins, yes, 3 under 2! YIKES!

ShannonLK · April 2010

Age is definitely playing a part in our decision. My doctor told me we only need to wait 6 months to try and conceive again. So, in 5 months we are going to try. I'm actually excited about it though.

peeper72 · April 2010

Totally a factor. We want another and the age difference between the babes is not at all a concern - we need to get crackin' before we can't anymore!

trixiebelden · April 2010

Yes! That is why our boy are 17 months apart. I had my first at 36 and second at 38. It worked out well for us and I am happy that we did it that way. I am pretty sure that if we were younger we would have spaced them out more, but just because we would feel there was plenty of time. Again, I Iove having them close in age.

erikaja6 · April 2010

Definitely. I had my son this past August (two months before I turned 38). We're going to try for number 2 when my son is one. If my age was not an issue, I'd probably wait two years before trying.

SS091506 · April 2010

racampbell1, What area in San Diego do you live in? We are in North County.

We really struggled with #1. I will be 39 in August. I don't feel like my body is quite ready to go through the process again. I'd like to lose some weight (like 20 lbs) and get back in shape. We are thinking of trying again this summer.

Puckchick07 · April 2010

I just turned 38 last week and will TTC later this summer. Probably sooner than if I was younger.

chiromommyMichelle · April 2010

We didn't actually INTEND to have any: I have two teens from my first marriage. But, now that Jake's here, and I'm turning 37 in June, we're shooting for 2U2.

coquina · April 2010

Completely. We both would love another child, DH would like a boy, but not sure when we will actually try. I would like to have another child before I'm 40. For that to happen we need a BFP before this October, DH deploys to Afghanistan for a year, or when he's home on a 10 day break (which would be highly unlikely due to cycle timing). I also have to think about how I would handle being pregnant with Sabrina under 2 without him here. I guess we are just going to leave it up to fate.

BarefootContess · April 2010

Definitely. I had three boys in three years -- at age 35, 36, 38. We will probably try for another one in a few months. It is hectic but also a lot of fun. The boys will always have a playmate.

YaraC · April 2010

Absolutely, more DH's age than mine though. He's 43 and would like to be able to retire at some point in the future. He feels too old to still be making babies. We'll be making a decision about whether to try for another when DD is 6 months.

If left up to me, I would definitely like to have another though I have no idea how we would swing daycare for 2u2.

superaunt · April 2010

I don't know how to answer this! At 37, I'm so ecstatic to finally be a mom and find Sabrina to be such an incredible dream that I think I'm done... But I have no idea if it's age related or what (this is actually something I've been struggling with)!

KristelRobin · April 2010

I didn't answer this at first because we will not have 2 under 2 at this point. Actually, we had originally planned to do that -- start TTC when DD turned 1. But for financial reasons, we decided to wait until later this summer. So I guess that while my age is a factor (I was almost 35 when DD was born, and I'm 36 now), it was not enough to push us to go for 2 under 2 when the rest of the circumstances were not right.

Whirlgirl01 · April 2010

Age is definitely a factor for us. DD was born early, otherwise her due date was on my 39th birthday. She'll be two in a few months, so there would be no 2U2 for us. But my husband will be 48 this year. We really think about our ages, having to keep up with children at our ages (not so much now, but later), retirement, and the economy. It's been said out loud that we're done, and I'm happy with that decision, but for some reason, I can't seem to get rid of her items that she's grown out of (swing, bouncer, clothing, etc). It's an odd feeling saying I'm done forever, even thought I never thought I'd want a child in the first place. Funny how that works.

jlw2505 · April 2010

Age played a huge part in when I had my kids. I also had been watching my sister go through many m/c before she adopted a child, had a surprise pregnancy and then adopted another one.

I was 34 when we got married and we started TTC when we got home from the honeymoon. DD#1 was conceived 7 long cycles later (long meaning some were around 40 day cycles) and born when I was 35 1/2. She had some health issues at birth and we were not sure we would TTC again or adopt but when she was around 6 months old and things were looking up (she is totally fine today), we started talking TTC again. We decided to start TTC right after her 1st b-day when I was 36 1/2 and figured it would take a while. Got a BFP on that 1st month and DD#2 was born when I was 37 and the girls are 21 months apart. We are 2 and done - had my tubes tied during my planned c-section.

racampbell1 · April 2010

I'm near downtown. Thanks for your responses ladies, I know its ultimately our decision but it helps me to see other people's thought processes

racampbell1 · April 2010

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