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DS straight-faced lied to me :o(

DcubedDcubed
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I realized I am not ready for it.  I truly had tears in my eyes that he would be able to do it so easily.  He and DD were again playing in the bathroom after numerous times of being told not to - no water is allowed to be on except if given permission ( a quick wash of the hands is different then what these kids do).  I heard the water and told them to turn it off and if their bed shirts were wet they would get in trouble.  A couple min later they come walking in with different shirts on and DS says "I just felt like putting on a different shirt".  I asked him if his shirt was wet and if they were playing in the water.  He said "No my shirt is not wet we just wanted to change." (DD put on one of his shirts also)  I said are you telling me the truth?  He said yes.  I said bring me the shirt and of course it was wet.  We had a little talk about lying and now I can't trust him etc. 

I am really sad because that was one thing my mom and I were just talking about - the fact that he doesn't lie :o( 

Mommy to DS1 ~10.11.05~ DD1 ~07.22.07~ DD2 ~09.10.10~
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Re: DS straight-faced lied to me :o(

  • KersbearKersbear
    Don't worry, all kids do it at some point or another.  They all like to push their boundries and see how much they can get away with.  As long as you stay consistent and on top of things like this, he'll realize it's not working.
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  • DaiLyghtDaiLyght

    If I'm seeing his age right, he's about the same age as my DS1. We went through the same situation with him starting a couple of months ago. The thing I had to remember was that it's not the same kind of bold-faced lie that adults think of. At this age they realize how much of an impact their words can have, and they are able to anticipate that saying one thing will make you happy and another thing will make you upset. It's not so much as lying to you, it's more about saying what he knows you want to hear. I know, it's the same thing, but in their little 4 year old heads it's a little different.

    Now don't get me wrong, we still had plenty of talks about the truth and a lie and how lies make other people feel, on and on and on. We still have them. But hes gotten much much better at it and understands better now. Just try not to get *too* upset about it and think about it from their POV.

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  • Scooter359Scooter359
    I am really not ready for that. At all.
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  • mlm1128mlm1128
    I agree that all kids try it at least once.  And at 4 they are just trying to stay out of trouble.  My dd has actually told me that the dogs did things she did, which would have been completely impossible!
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