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2nd Trimester
comments about c/s or natural
VENT:
i don't care what your choice is for delivering your baby, but GOD IN HEAVEN, i hate when every single person comments on my choice. i plan on attempting to go natural. if my pain tolerance sucks or i'm in labor for so long that i'm a walking zombie, then i'll seriously consider getting an epi.
"Don't try to be a hero. Just get the epidural. You don't need to go natural anymore, they have drugs now!"
it's not helping me try to stay strong in my decision to do it naturally when every single person i know says those exact words to me. especially when my mother, who had my sister and i naturally, laughs when i tell her i want to go natural and tells me that i was such whiny kid that DH will divorce me after the birth because he can't take it anymore.
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Re: comments about c/s or natural
I agree on all points. I am not seeing your correlation.
i was just covering all bases. it doesn't really have anything to do with it other than the fact that my family will treat me like a failure if i end up needing one -- which is so unfair.
It sounds like your family is a little fvcked up. (No offense).
none taken. it's dysfunctional to say the least.
thanks, it's nice to hear a success story.
If you do wind up with a c/s, and your family makes such comments, you will really need to ignore them. Trust me. My mother told me the day that we brought DS home from the hospital that I didn't give birth because DS was breech and I had a scheduled c/s. She repeatedly told me this over the first 9 or 10 months of DS' life and I finally just had to pretty much cut off all contact with her. I know in my head that I gave birth to my son, but hearing such a hurtful comment from your own mother, can mess with you.
Ignore all the doubters! Your body was designed to give birth, you can do it!
My personal story - I too, wanted to go natural. My water ended up breaking late at night and I was up the entire night wondering (1) did my water break? and (2) am I going to get contractions??
I never got contractions, had my MW verify that indeed my water had broken the following morning and I checked myself into L&D later that afternoon. Still no contractions. They started me on Pitocin and I lasted about 8 hours until I gave in and got the epi. By that point it was in the middle of the night, I hadn't slept a wink the previous night and the pain was insane. I felt like if I didn't get the drugs there would be no way I'd have the energy to push when the time came and I was more scared of a C-Section than an epidural, so epidural it was. I learned later that contractions after your water has broken are worse, and I already knew that pitocin contractions were worse. It was the right decision for me at the time and I think the key to all of it is just to keep an open mind.
I'm sorry your family isn't being more supportive. I know many women personally who went drug free, it's definitely doable!
i went natural, induced on pitocin for 12 hours!
my mom had all of us natural and i really looked up to her for it. then just a couple weeks ago she was asking me why i don't just go ahead and get the epidural and how they're so much more safe now than back in her child birthing days. kind of bummed me out. oh well, i did it once, i can do it again! (i think.... not gonna lie, it's no walk in the park!).
when i had my first i wanted to go as long as possible without drugs. i knew i wasnt going to make it the whole way but i wanted to see how far i could go. now the nurse on the other hand didnt agree with me and kept pushing drugs..which in the end made my sons heartrate drop into the low 30's THREE times..at which point i had an emergency section..if that woman had of been smart and stopped giving me those drugs i wouldnt have never had a section.. so i say dont listen to anyone else. you do what you want to do! its your body and your labor! GL to you!
I wasnt sure what I was going to do until I had to have a HSG done and they had to dilate my cervix from 0-4cm within seconds. It was the most pain I have been in and I realized that I do want the epi now. However, I totally respect anyone who is brave enough to try to go natural. Your friends and family should support you. I wish you the best of luck
I feel the same way. When I mention I want to avoid a c-section at all costs, I feel like I always offend someone who had one. One girl in particular gets very defensive and then mocks my desire for a med-free birth.
Just because I don't want to do it the way you did, doesn't mean I think you did it wrong!
It's nice to read your story about giving birth w/out meds or naturally, (whatever you want to call it!).
I feel the same way I think your body was made to do it, my mom went w/out meds and I know I can too. That being said I'm so sick and tired of people telling me to "not be a hero", that "you don't get a prize" for delivering w/out meds, that "you still get a baby at the end", etc. My doctor even compared having your wisdom teeth pulled without anesthesia or meds to a delivery w/out an epidural???
I don't know I think i'm just going to close my big mouth and do whatever I want (or can do) at the delivery. I'm taking classes and we will see what happens, but barring any crazy complications or not having the contractions progress or something, I don't want an epidural. I don't like the idea of being essentially paralyzed and having to have a catheter put into place. Not to mention (though I KNOW that epidurals are safe, etc) for me, I don't want to have any of the rare risks associated with having an epidural just so I can not be in pain.
Anyway the problem is this is my first pregnancy and people just look at you like you don't know what you're talking about when you try to suggest that you CAN handle the pain, etc. So I'm just going to shut up, take the classes, have my mom there with me the day of (she is gung ho about being med free and did it with us) and just get it done!
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