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all 2 year olds are the same

magdusiamagdusia member
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i'm so sick of hearing this from my MIL.

we were in the park w/ my nephews and SIL, MIL and my hubby this weekend and her two kids.  The younger kid (almost 3) smacks his mom across the face and she does nothing. it's not the first time. she never disciplines her boys -very disturbing.

so this time i said something to my MIL and she went off at me how my child will be the same when he's two, that's why they call them the terrible twos.. and was very offended that i said she should have put him in time out or something.  I also said that i'm really afraid of my LO learning this behavior from his cousins.  I'm sure she will tell her daughter (my SIL) what i said -i dont care.. but why do people think this is the norm?

I never hit my mom as a child, neither did my brother.  i know it happens but to say that every child will do that is a bit strong. if my LO ever hits me across the face like that it will be his only time b/c he will know what he did better not happen again.

If these kids will not be told that this is wrong, they will be hitting their wives when they get married. it's just wrong on so many levels. i feel like saying something directly to her, but who am i?

 

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  • MrsPreKMrsPreK
    Agreed! DS would never smack someone in the face. Ever.
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  • shopgirl78shopgirl78 member
    My two year can be a pill but if he slapped me in the face...he'd be in big trouble!

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  • jennybeamsjennybeams member

    Not all kids at any age are the same.  I keep hearing "just you wait" from my SIL who has a 4 y/o and and 8 m/o.  She said DD's feet would swell up like balloons from being over weight when she was 4-5 months, she said I'd put my kids in front of the TV because that's all they want to do.  She also said my kid would never eat a vegetable because her's don't and "no kid likes vegetables." And my favorite, "you have to buy them a toy every time you take them in a store because you'll see how terrible they act when you don't."  Um yeah, I'm pretty sure I can be a better parent to avoid most if not all of these conflicts.  Thanks :)  

     

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  • dionnemd10dionnemd10 member

    i have to say my daughter has hit us-but she gets disciplined immediately.   it has happened more than once (really at 2 they find it to be more of a game than hurtful) but it was rare and she grew out of it.    same goes for biting, spitting, sticking the tongue out etc.   sometimes ignoring the behavior and not making a big deal out of it is a good approach-especially when all other methods or other various methods have proved not to be as effective (example being swearing--we have found if we ignore it and not give a reaction our daughter doesn't say the words anymore-and by no reaction i mean not laughing, not pointing out it is a bad word etc).

    everyone parents differently and perhaps your sister in law has tried various approaches and has learned that ignoring the behavior is indeed something that is working.??

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  • dionnemd10dionnemd10 member
    oh and you can teach your child it is wrong to copy his cousin by eventually saying "see what happened there-that is not nice-we are nice to people.  hitting is not nice"    you set the example and precidence with your child
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  • magdusiamagdusia member
    imagedionnemd10:

    i have to say my daughter has hit us-but she gets disciplined immediately.   it has happened more than once (really at 2 they find it to be more of a game than hurtful) but it was rare and she grew out of it.    same goes for biting, spitting, sticking the tongue out etc.   sometimes ignoring the behavior and not making a big deal out of it is a good approach-especially when all other methods or other various methods have proved not to be as effective (example being swearing--we have found if we ignore it and not give a reaction our daughter doesn't say the words anymore-and by no reaction i mean not laughing, not pointing out it is a bad word etc).

    everyone parents differently and perhaps your sister in law has tried various approaches and has learned that ignoring the behavior is indeed something that is working.??

    she definitely did not try anything other than ignoring it.  she soothed him last time her LO hit his grandmother.  my mouth dropped to the floor when she picked him up and pet his head after he started crying b/c he his his grandmother.

    I understand you sometimes just give in b/c you can't handle it anymore but this is just too crazy! those kids are so out of hand. they will not do anything good unless they are rewarded with a gift. 

     

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