Using a family name

decemberbridetobe · April 2010

My husband & I would like to possibly use my mother's first name & my grandmother's middle name (same name) as the middle name for our daughter. Should I worry about this offending my mother-in-law? I figure our baby will have her last name from my husband's family & it would be nice to use a name from my side. It just seems so nice to use a family name but I am torn! Has anyone else been in the same position?

ilovemygirls · April 2010

We used family names for our kids' middle names. My view is- your kid, you get to name her. No questions, no opinions taken (unless you ask, of course!). One bit of advice- if you're not sure, don't share. And ideally, don't share until after she is born- then what is someone going to say? But if you do decide & want to tell before she is born, be very confident when you tell people & don't act wishy washy or guilty about it. If anyone rude does say anything, you can always just say what you did here about baby getting your husband's last name!

sciteach104 · April 2010

its your kid, you name it what you want.

KoalaBear103 · April 2010

We worried about this at first too. But we've decided that if this baby is a girl, she will have my moms middle name, if its a boy, it will have fil's middle name. Then for the next baby, we will name the baby after the other family-that way no one can really be offended.

GatorMrs_Esq · April 2010

Jane (the middle name we chose) happens to be my mom's first name / grandmother's middle. Smile

I figure we can come up with some way to honor my mother-in-law / her family with our next girl (maybe Stick out tongue

).

luvlieK · April 2010

I say go for it!

Lesley0228 · April 2010

DDs middle name is my grandma's first name. My grandma passed away 10 years ago, I was really close to her and wanted to honor her. No one in DHs family complained and they all seemed to like the name, except we didn't tell his one grandmother that is was my grandma's name because she is crazy and would have thrown a fit. We have considered using a family name from DHs side next time as the middle name, just to even it out though.

CrazyToast · April 2010

I would say to go for it if it makes you happy...it's your child to name.

That being said, DH wanted to use family names in the very beginning and I said no, since we may only have 1 child and I'm not dealing with offended family for the rest of my days...

Tammy05-26-07 · April 2010

I've used the whole "Our last name is from DH's side...so middle name should be from my side." excuse. lol Besides Zach's middle name is DH's first name, too. DH's family was kinda mad that we didnt make him a junior like they all did...and even mentioned it again recently. They dont act mad...but you can tell that they didnt understand why I wouldnt follow in their footsteps. lol Your baby...name her what you want...and dont worry about anyone else. Good Luck.

mlf625 · April 2010

You can't worry about that. I know it's hard - I really wanted my mom's first name to be DD's middle name, and at first I was concerned about MIL's feelings. We decided it was our kid and our choice, and we went with my mom's name (Jenae). I thought there might be drama about it after DD arrived (we don't share names until the birth) but we've never heard a word. If MIL was hurt, she didn't say anything and covered very well, even complimenting how nice she thought the MN sounded with DD's first name.

And I thought the same thing - all of our children have DH and IL's family name.

Under.the.Rose · April 2010

You can't give your child everyone's name all at once, so it really shouldn't be a problem. If she's really offended, I'm sure you can talk it out and explain it that way. You just happened to like those two names together more! You can just say she's one of a kind Wink

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