Did you bond immediately with your DC?

bumble42 · April 2010

I don't think I've bonded with my DD yet. She is 6 days old and I do love her, but I don't feel that feeling that everyone talks about like the love at first sight thing. I look at her and think she's precious, but I really don't feel that crazy love people talk about. If you didn't bond right away, when did it happen for you? I actually got diagnosed with depression at the beginning of this pregnancy, I've never had issues before, so I'm wondering if this is a part of my lack of bonding. I feel horrible about this, but I've also read that it's normal to not bond immediately. Please make me feel better.

murfygirl · April 2010

Nope. Don't feel bad for some moms it takes time. It took me a while and I would say I am still bonding with DS

anabell0920 · April 2010

I have heard it's quite normal and honestly during my labor I was so afraid I wouldn't love him (crazy) and that he wouldn't love me. Then after I held him for the first time it all went out the window. I am crazy about him, not sure other than time what will help.

KadenKennethsMommy · April 2010

dont worry!!! I had a c/s and didnt bond with him at all at the hospital and to be perfectly honest it was a few weeks at home...until i had that "feeling" you are talking about...its okay...it takes time...everyone is different....i promise you your time will come and you will feel mad krazy love for your lilttle one!! xoxoxoxo

sleepingbeauty825 · April 2010

I don't feel as though I bonded immediately. I'm still forming that bond with DS now. It doesn't come as quickly to some of us, and it's sad and it makes you feel like a bad mom, especially when your hear about all the other mommies who fell into it right away, BUT it is normal. It's hard to admit, but it is normal. It will come. Just by being there for him, feeding him at all hours of the day, changing his diaper- that IS loving him. You will grow into your crazy mommy adoration soon!

lindsaynjason · April 2010

I think it's pretty common to not have that immediate "love at first sight" feeling. I did... but I know not everyone does and it's nothing to feel badly about

92405bride · April 2010

It was almost a month before I felt a true overwhelming love - I loved her right away, but at first it was more of a protective love. Definitely normal for it to take awhile - you're still getting to know each other!

BrittKav · April 2010

:butting in from 3-6:

I didn't bond with DD right away. It was probably a good 2 months before I fell head over heels for her. Now my heart does flips in my chest every time I see her. Don't feel bad if it takes you awhile. It will happen.

trish051003 · April 2010

I have two kids and it took me about 4-8 weeks to feel that crazy love for them. For me - the beginning w/ my first was hard - I gave up my life of doing what I wanted when I wanted and I kind of resented him (even though it was my decision) and he was a colicy baby. And he was a bad sleeper. For my 2nd it was sooner. Oh and once they start smiling back at you . . . you will melt!

Kim B. · April 2010

Definitely didn't bond right away...

kwbride1 · April 2010

Do not feel bad; seriously, everyone is different and adjusts differently to change. Lots of people warned me that it might take a while to hit me and I'm glad they did. Most people talk about an "overwhelming" love or love at first sight, but that wasn't me. Even when I held her the first time it was strange because I wasn't used to that feeling and it didn't feel like she was mine yet. It was just weird. But now I'm starting to feel like we know each other; like we could recognize each other anywhere, but it took time to feel comfortable and have that bond. I would say that it took me the whole 6 weeks pp to feel like we got to a point where we were comfortable with each other, so don't stress. Take your time to look at your baby in every way possible, feel the baby, touch the baby, and just let things be without too much stress Smile

PhillyFishie · April 2010

When our LO was born, she had to go to the NICU for the first 30 hours and I didn't feel I got to bond with her. When I first went down to see her, I had to look at the name tags to find her because I didn't know which one was ours...I felt awful. It took me a few days to bond...everyone is different so give it a chance and don't stress out about it.

sbevmc09 · April 2010

I didn't feel an immediate bond at all. I had a C/S so I'm not sure if that makes a difference, but it definitely took some time for me to feel like we really bonded and we're still working on it. I must say though that now, I completely love and adore DS. Give it some time!

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