Our coed shower

CrazyToast · April 2010

I have a question for you ladies...

DH's aunt is throwing us a coed shower. DH made his personal list of invitees, and I made mine. We also made a combined list of friends. I asked my MIL for invitees, since she lives nearby and this is her area (my family lives two states away).

Is it ok to ask MIL to add invitees?

And while we're on the subject, is there a "limit" to a list of invitees? I was told by someone that a shower should be small and intimate. I think our 30+ (remember, couples) is not that.

BarbieNCSU · April 2010

I would just check with the Aunt to make sure she is prepared for whatever number of guests. Honestly the number is going to differ based on it being coed, if it is your only shower, etc. I would say 30+ for a coed isn't bad at all. I also don't see an issue seeing if there is anyone your MIL wants to add to the guest list - especially if this is a shower for that side of the family.

Jennifer2008 · April 2010

Yep, as pp said there is no right or wrong number, but whatever the number is gets determined by the hostess. Just call your Aunt and say, "We are going to put together a list of who we'd like to invite, but we wanted to ask you how many people you think you can accommodate."

Aunt may not be concerned about money and may say, "You choose" or she may say "I planned on 25/45/100 people."

Have fun!

jennygirlmt · April 2010

Just ask your Aunt how many guests she can accommodate. We had a co-ed picnic shower a few weeks ago hosted by MIL and there were about 60 people there, if not more. It was the more the merrier per MIL. So if Aunt gives you a number that leaves spaces for your MIL then great, if not, then you should stick with the people closest to you.

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