Will you have help post-birth?

Alexandra*sMom · April 2010

I was visiting a friend the other day and her DH took the week off, as well as her in-laws were in town. In-laws leave and her Mom was coming to help for a week.

I never thought about it, but I haven't been concerned that DH plans to take 4 days off (works 4 on, 4 off) and I won't have any other help. I guess I never thought much since I never had help after either of my girls were born.

What are your plans?

ToBeMrsT · April 2010

dh will be off for two weeks. no family is coming to help.

Vaughnswife2007 · April 2010

My parents are here from out of town...dad has to go back on the 19th but mom will stay behind for a few weeks....DH is only taking a week off

mrsjenni · April 2010

If DH gets this job that he's up for, then he won't have ANY time off. Boo. But if he doesn't get it, then he'll be off with me until he does find something.

He was off for 2 weeks when I had DS and it was perfect.

AshleyM07 · April 2010

Alexandra*sMom:
I was visiting a friend the other day and her DH took the week off, as well as her in-laws were in town. In-laws leave and her Mom was coming to help for a week.

I never thought about it, but I haven't been concerned that DH plans to take 4 days off (works 4 on, 4 off) and I won't have any other help. I guess I never thought much since I never had help after either of my girls were born.

What are your plans?

Hubby is taking 4 days off. when he goes back to work my mom is coming for a couple of days then mom in law is coming for a week

i just wanted extra help because they are talking about maybe having to do a c-section

Alexandra*sMom · April 2010

mrs.jenni:

If DH gets this job that he's up for, then he won't have ANY time off. Boo. But if he doesn't get it, then he'll be off with me until he does find something.

He was off for 2 weeks when I had DS and it was perfect.

Will Carter still go to daycare while you are on maternity leave? (Sometimes I wish I had that option!) Alex doesn't even start pre-k until fall!

rachelbeth85 · April 2010

DH is taking 2 weeks off, my mom is scheduled off work for the 2 weeks after my due date and then my inlaws will be here for several weeks after DH goes back to work to be here to help. It might be over kill, but my in laws live several states away and they want to spend some time with us. I know I'm going to be brand new at this and welcome any help,

Tina562 · April 2010

ToBeMrsT:
dh will be off for two weeks. no family is coming to help.

this.

LovingMyHubby · April 2010

DH will have a week off. MIL will probably take a couple of days off from work, so will my mom, and my dad is retired so he can be around if needed (everyone is in town).

ETA: We won't have any of the parents stay with us though, just come over during the day.

AllieJean · April 2010

My mom just told me that she is planning on taking 2 weeks off after LO is born. Im sure my grandma will come over and do laundry/dishes/bring meals a couple of times the first week or so. But other than that DH will only be able to take 3 days off of work so it will mostly be just me.

jess0726 · April 2010

Depending on when she arrives, he will stay home through that week and the following week. My mom is planning on taking off the following week to help if needed, but all our family is within 30-45 min away should we need any help.

Mrs.Hagen2 · April 2010

Dh is taking 2 weeks off and my mom will be coming for a week or two. We did this with DD and it worked out great. I am not shy to ask for help, I know I will need it with a 2 year old and a newborn.

mama_duck · April 2010

DH will be taking 2 weeks off. Then maybe my parents will be coming up. I hope to God my inlaws won't come up. My MIL is just awful, so I hope she stays away. I doubt she will though.

mellieg8582 · April 2010

DH will be off for a week after LO is born. My mom wants to help as well. I'm sure MIL will come to NJ for a while.

Sam Buttons · April 2010

DH just got promoted and part of his 'deal' was two weeks off after LO is born (more than we had previously thought) - but other than that no family. We have asked everyone to respect our wishes and let us have that time to adjust to our new little family.

katie9136 · April 2010

My mom is coming down and staying two weeks to help. Then my DH will take a week off when she leaves.

MeanMommyLady · April 2010

My dad will be coming into town to take care of DS while I am in the hospital.

DH is taking the day we have the baby off (I'm having a repeat c-section), then he is going back to work until I go home.

When I go home my DH will have 10 days of baby leave...he might take a few extra days, we'll see how things are going at work. My dad will probably stay a week or so after the baby is born as well and my mom will come up for a couple of days before here and dad drive back home.

We haven't discussed it all the way through, but MIL lives just a few hours from us and she will probably come down for a weekend after my parents leave.

I'll have help pretty consistently for the first three weeks or so after baby is born, which is important to me only because I need someone around who can pick up my DS (who will be 23.5 months old) and help him until I can pick him up a couple of weeks after delivery.

Pocky873 · April 2010

Not sure how much time DH is taking off - he works for his dad, and will probably be able to take off about a week or two. My parents are coming in two weeks after my EDD and staying for 10 days. My dad will stay the 10 days and if need be my mom will stay longer. My ILs live right next door, too, so they'll be around to help out whenever.

CarolinaKatie · April 2010

With the c-section, it was nice having help for a couple of weeks! My DH took a week off, then my ILs came for a few days, then my mom, then DH worked from home for a couple of days. I think DS was 3 1/2 weeks old by the time I was alone with him. I'm hoping to avoid a c-section with this one, but if I have to have one, I know with the addition of an almost 3-yr-old, I'll need even more help than before!

paxilchyk · April 2010

DH will maybe take a full week off, but it really depends on what day of the week baby decides to arrive on. He makes the most money on weekends so if LO comes on a Sunday or Monday, DH will more then likely go back to work on Friday even if its for a shorter shift. If I can stay working until my planned last day we may be able to afford to have him off longer.

rissa06 · April 2010

my aunt and uncle will be staying with us for a little while after jelly bean comes. . additionally, my ils will be taking care of DD while im in the hospital . .and we have a nanny who will be here for the summer taking care of DD and helping out with DC#2.

AnotherChance · April 2010

DH will take a week off at least, possibly two weeks, to help me out and to bond with our son. Other than that, we're not getting any help.

Lexi169 · April 2010

For me it really depends on when I go into labour. If I make it to my enduction date (June 1st - can't wait!!!) then DH will be home till the end of the week because the enduction is a Tuesday and my MIL will come and stay the next week regardless of when I have the babies. If I deliver in May my husband will stay for a couple days then has to go back to work and I'll be on my own Tongue Tied

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jenirvt · April 2010

DH is taking a week off. Otherwise, that's all...but I don't feel like I need "help". DD is in school all day and I'm pretty sure I can handle things on my own

winterOT · April 2010

I did not have any help when DS was born, but I do have family coming into town with this DC (mainly because its summer, easy on vacation planning!) The only person that I am counting on 'helping' is my Mom, we live over 1000 miles from all of our family so she is keeping DS while I am in the hospital and hoping she can give him some extra special attention when he needs it most! We have at least 3-4 weeks of family tentatively scheduled to visit this summer, to see the new baby and as a vacation....all know that I will not be entertaining this summer! And as far as DH...well this is his off-season and he will have a lot of flexibility, along with the options to do stuff from home.

brennatay · April 2010

My husband will most likely be off for about a week or so. All of my family and DH's family are based within a half an hour of us. His mom is making us freezer meals as well as a couple that I've made for us. My mom will be all too eager to help, but I am going to see what I can do on my own when my husband has to go back to work.

InLovewSB · April 2010

H will be off for a week, and then my MIL is coming down for at least a week primarily to help with G. When G was brand new, he'd be up all night and sleep all morning. Well, if baby girl is the same then I'll be up all night and then G will wake up at 7am, eliminating my morning nap time. So I'll need some help. I'm so glad that my MIL is willing to come down to help.

jenn4 · April 2010

When I had DS#1 MIL stayed w/ us for 7 weeks. She was living in AZ @ the time & we live in Dallas.

This time my ILs live here, so neither will be staying, although my mom may be staying @ our house while I'm in the hospital. MIL will be around, especially since her mother (DH's grandma) just passed away yesterday.

thomas&lynn · April 2010

Alexandra*sMom:

I was visiting a friend the other day and her DH took the week off, as well as her in-laws were in town. In-laws leave and her Mom was coming to help for a week.

I never thought about it, but I haven't been concerned that DH plans to take 4 days off (works 4 on, 4 off) and I won't have any other help. I guess I never thought much since I never had help after either of my girls were born.

What are your plans?

DD was born in the afternoon on a Thursday, we came home Sunday afternoon, and DH went back to work Tuesday morning. I was super stressed/anxious/scared when he left that Tues but we ended up doing just fine. By Thursday I had no anxieties of being alone. We didn't have any family come out to help.

This time we actually have SIL coming to stay with us for 2 wks around my edd so that someone is here to take care of DD when we need to leave (on the double, I have fast labors) for the hospital so depending on when he decides to come, I could have help for a bit this time! I can't say I'm unhappy about it at all....I'm looking forward to at the very least just having someone around to help entertain DD

wihakayda · April 2010

DH is taking the 10 days of paternity leave he is given plus a month, my mom is coming down on the 30th (38w) and staying until the 1st of June (roughly 2 1/2w past EDD) then FIL and SMIL will bring down a whole host of them a week after, thankful only to stay for a week and will be staying at a hotel.

So basically the 1st month I will have DH and mom, then a week of just me, then me and 7 others, then peace at last. I know a lot of you ladies think Im nuts for it, but Im happy to have DH here to bond with his child and get into a routine for a month, I may be singing a different tune come mid June though Stick out tongue

AbbyNoel · April 2010

Thankfully DH is a teacher, so he'll be off with me for almost 2 months before returning for the next school year! I'm so thankful!

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