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Sick :( and odd X behavior
I have been so behind with everything going on! Since leaving the hospital, (which was a disaster - they took 3 hours after discharge to get us down to the car and then they just left us off at the front door. Never checked to see if we had a car seat or put her in correctly) I've had a virus. I ended up going to the ER on Tuesday because I woke up with chills and a fever and they thought I had an infection. When I got there I had high blood pressure and they came in to do blood work. Apparently my file says I was pre-e while in labor with her but they told me I wasn't... so now we're all confused and my BP has been really high... no infection, but a virus. It sucks having all the post delivery pains and being sick, not to mention taking care of baby Mikayla.
X left last night for the first time. He has been staying with me to help out and has been worried because of my BP/virus so he has been taking care of her and letting me sleep and just waking me up to feed her. He has stuff to do for the CAP (civil air patrol) today and tomorrow morning so this is my first full day alone with her. He has also been cuddling with me every night (I go to sleep first and he climbs in bed after she falls asleep) and he has started to plan vacations for us already. One to Mexico next year with his parents and then 3 years from now he wants to go to Disney with his family (me included).
His sister, mom, and grandma were talking with me when I was visiting on Monday with them and X has talked about how he misses being with me and he has been happier this past week than he ever was. He even said in front of them that he wants more children and looked at me?! Ummmm... I'm not too sure what to think, except I love how he is acting but I don't know that I could ever trust him not to cheat on me. That is just his track record.
okay, sorry this is so long, but wanted to update everyone. Opinions on his behavior? I think this is still the novelty stage for him (but I hope it isn't and he stays like this).
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Re: Sick :( and odd X behavior
Ugh - my opinion is BE CAREFUL. Especially post-baby, you will start to feel VERY emotional. Try to keep everything in check for your own sake so you can be sure not to end up hurt or in a bad way.
He could be for real, or he could not be. There is no way to know. The only think I do know is that a relationship cannot be healthy without trust. So, you will need to figure out if you think you could ever trust him again.
But your health is 100% the most important! Get healthy before you start making any decisions. It's sweet that X has been helping so much. (I would have been freaked out if X had hopped into bed with me... but he never offered to come help out anyways.) Get better soon. And keep us updated.
He leaves for the AF next month so if the new doesn't wear off before then, he won't have to worry too much about reality setting in because he will be in training until Nov. He will just get letters and pictures and to webcam with us.
I'm just keeping things in perspective right now and not getting my hopes up over his behavior. He has been back and forth so much it wouldn't surprise me if he turned around and wanted nothing to do with us again.
I agree that it is likely the novelty stage. Please be careful. Like you said, a zebra doesn't typically change it's stripes. I am glad he is being so supportive and staying with you but is it really what is best? It could be really confusing to be in a little family situation like that. Don't make any decisions right now, you are too vulnerable and emotional.
If you need to remind yourself of all the times you posted on here about what a jerk he was being....telling you he had slept with other ppl when you were pg, that sort of thing.