Thinking of giving up....vent

khove · September 2008

So, I'm thinking of giving this whole TTC thing up and opting out. We started TTC last year resulting in a m/c, then I went back on BCP for 6 mos & started again. We're only on our 3rd cycle now, but I am just feeling like I can't do it. I'm going to be 37 very soon, meaning I'll be a 38 year old with a newborn *if* we are successful soon. I think I'm just down because my chart looked so awesome this month and we hit everything right on and now my temps are dropping at 13DPO. I'll know soon enough I suppose.

Maybe I should just buy a Harley instead.

Pesky · September 2008

Big hugs!!! Yeah, I really understand why younger people have kids! But despite exhaustion, it's been great. And I'm almost 37 too, TTC#2 and while daunting, I wouldn't trade it. But it's a personal decision to make and I had those days too (although after cycle 4, we didn't have a choice as that was the lucky one with DD). So hugs again and hope all goes as you wish!!!

khove · September 2008

Thank you Pesky...I've got a decision to make and either way, things will work out as they are supposed to for us.

Serendipitie · September 2008

Can I ask why you went back on bcp? I am on my sixth cycle since bcp and my cycles are still a bit wonky! I know how frustrating it can be, and sometimes I ask myself why I wasn't irresponsible and get knocked up sooner. No matter what, it's your decision, but don't give up after three cycles out of frustration if you truly want to have kids. GL!

caribou · September 2008

UGH! I had this whole thing written out and I lost it.

As I was saying, I have been TTC since Sept 07. In April I found out I was pregnant only to miscarry a few days later. Finally after things kept popping up we were able to start TTC again.

If I'm not pregnant this cycle I will start Clomid again -I got pregnant in April on Clomid- and hopefully I will be pregnant by the end of the year with a H&H pregnancy and baby.

It sucks but don't give up.

iluvtom · September 2008

We all often feel like throwing in the twoel. Age is just a number and if you feel great then you can be a great parent and an active parent at any age. I have an 18 yo DD and now remarried and my DH and I are TTC for 18 cycles and I do not care that I am 38 and will be 39 when and if we are lucky TC. Good luck and talk to your H and see what you both want. I know a baby outweighs a Harley for me and we are at least having fun TTC. I know there are very low moments too. Feel better

khove · September 2008

Thank you all for your kind words..I am just being a baby about it and know that so many have struggled much longer than we have.

Serendipitie- I went back on BCP because I freaked after my m/c and thought again, "I'm not cut out for this, I don't want to do this..." then low and behold, 6 mos. later those yearnings came back and here we are.

sachi · September 2008

if you are interested we are doing a 9 day prayer novena over on tttc starting tomorrow-under St. Therese...

Serendipitie · September 2008

I can understand that

You'll figure it out, and you will make the best decision for you and YH. GL!

Skatcat · September 2008

I felt like that many times in the year and a half it took us to get pregnant. We also had a m/c, although despite devastating me and making me a bitter wreck for months, it only made me more determined.

And honey, you are YOUNG. I just turned 40. :-)

I remember though all to well how hard and disappointing those first few cycles were. All those years I had kept my body in control, and when it didn't do what I wanted I got really down on myself and frustrated.

Ultimately, how hard to pursue having a child is a personal decision. Just remember, although you really haven't been trying very long yet, there is LOTS of help out there if you want or need it.

indianasunshine · September 2008

Good luck with whatever decision you make. I know it can be very frustrating! We are on cycle 12, and I pretty much have to get pg this month if I am going to have a baby before I am 40. I only feel 30 though!! Keep your chin up!

jhudyCH · September 2008

There is nothing wrong with being 38 with a newborn. In fact that is exactly what I am. Keep trying if that is what you really want.

khove · October 2008

I had a total breakdown yesterday when DH got home...he understood how disappointed I was. He is also, but doesn't understand as much the frustration I have. I haven't decided what to do yet - but again, I thank all of you wonderful ladies for sharing your words of wisdom with me.

Mango2 · October 2008

I think you should go buy the Harley regardless!

When DH and I start trying for #1, I wanted to throw in the towel after 3 months as well. I was charting and it was making me crazy. I finally stopped it all, and just decided to have fun and see what happened. Plus, I started traveling a ton for work, and we were buidling a house. I did get frustrated a few times because our sex life was lacking - hard to "see what happens" if it ain't happening, ykwim. Anyway, I had a friend from another board that was in the same situation and so we could talk about things to stay sane.

So, maybe it's not time to give up, but time to scale back and focus your energies elsewhere.

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