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Questions re: kids bathing together

LizC78LizC78
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Ok my kids are 3 (boy) and 5 (girl).  I have been bathing them together since little man was 7-8 month-ish or so..

And lately we will all get in the shower together. I have a bench in my shower where they have their own shower head that is hand held and then I have a shower on the other side.  So it is just easy at night for me and them to shower together.. 

Soo.... here is where the question comes in? When should I stop?  How old is too old for them? 

Thanks in advance..

Liz

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  • FutureHernandezFutureHernandez member

    I think when they can remember as an adult what they did when they were a kid!

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  • MrsJOSEnADRIMrsJOSEnADRI
    Ditto!  Plus, when they're school-aged you have to be a little more careful in what they do at home because they will share EVERYTHING with their friends and teachers at school. 
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  • melly&jimmymelly&jimmy

    imageMrsJOSEnADRI:
    Ditto!  Plus, when they're school-aged you have to be a little more careful in what they do at home because they will share EVERYTHING with their friends and teachers at school. 

    I agree with this school aged comment.  Kids repeat everything. 

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  • karenlisa714karenlisa714

    I see no problem with kids bathing together til age 5 or so, then I think it needs to stop because they are old enough to repeat things.

    As for parent bathing with a child, I personally would never do it.

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  • MellyMelBMellyMelB

    Sophie is only 2 and is noticing Abel's parts and making lots of comments so we are stopping him bathing with her slowly. Its hard for him because this has been his time with her since before she could walk. He still does but its mostly me now. I think its okay longterm when the kid and parent share are the same sex. But once they start commenting and saying things then its probably time to stop.

    I read somewhere (today actually) about kids and nudity that when the child shows any sign of embarassment or discomfort its time to respect that. If you daughter or son have expressed any kind of dislike, discomfort or even a desire to bathe alone I think they are old enough for you to respect that.

    I think you should just follow their lead.

    I remember being about 5 or 6 years old and an older female family member saying to me, after a bath, that "pretty soon you are not going to want your daddy to see you naked." It had never occurred to me that there was anything wrong with it before that and I remember my dad getting really upset with this family member (he was the one helping me get dressed at the time) and telling her to mind her own, that I was his little girl or something to that effect. It was not long after that when my need of personal privacy set in.

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  • TayLynnTayLynn member
    imageMellyMelB:

    Sophie is only 2 and is noticing Abel's parts and making lots of comments so we are stopping him bathing with her slowly. Its hard for him because this has been his time with her since before she could walk. He still does but its mostly me now. I think its okay longterm when the kid and parent share are the same sex. But once they start commenting and saying things then its probably time to stop.

    I read somewhere (today actually) about kids and nudity that when the child shows any sign of embarassment or discomfort its time to respect that. If you daughter or son have expressed any kind of dislike, discomfort or even a desire to bathe alone I think they are old enough for you to respect that.

    I think you should just follow their lead.

     I agree with this. 

    Real young children don't see any difference between an elbow and genitalia.  We're the ones that put body parts into sexual context. 

    But once they start commenting on it, then it's probably best to stop.

    I still shower with Andrew.  It's a lot easier for us both to get done at one time in the morning.  He plays with his boats and the water spray while I shower.  He doesn't even pay any attention to me.

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  • mrsjessnjorgemrsjessnjorge
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    I see no problem with kids bathing together til age 5 or so, then I think it needs to stop because they are old enough to repeat things.

    As for parent bathing with a child, I personally would never do it.

    this is exactly how I feel personally
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  • ANJ410ANJ410

    I stopped letting my son see me undressed a long time ago.  When he was about 16-20 months old I had to take him in the shower with me everyday because he had such bad separation anxiety he would stand in the bathroom with the shower curtain wide open screaming hysterically for me to hold him and get the whole bathroom soaked.  That lasted a few months until he started pointing at my private parts and kept trying to touch them. I know he iwas just a baby, but I was very uncomfortable and found it extremely inappropriate.

    I don't know if I will bathe my two kids together, but I don't think I will.  By the time Adrianna can sit up in the tub to take a regular bath, Nicky will be over 3.  I think that's old enough to notice the difference between his sex organs and hers.

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  • karukarukarukaru
    I remember showering with my brother until we were 5 (I think) and I really don't see a problem with it. It felt natural, I don't think either of us thought it was weird or anything at the time.
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