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avbliss
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Announcement Snub
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So when I had LO my rule of thumb for sending the Announcements was to send one to anyone and everyone who sent a gift or came to the shower. I figure if they are kind enough to get LO something they would want a picture of her.
My cousin who I'm not particularly close to (she's much older then me) sent a gift so I sent her an announcement. She had baby #4 and my mother and I went in together and got her a gift. She sends my mother an announcement and writes on it to "share" it with me! I have my own house, husband, baby and life separate from my parents. In addition she never even sent a thank you note! Am I over reacting or is she totally rude?
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Re: Announcement Snub
It's rude that she didn't send a ty note.
But an announcement snub? I'd chalk this one up to over-reacting.
You know, my in laws family does this too and it drives me insane. We get invited by people sending my MIL an invite that says tell the "kids" to come too. Umm, I am 38 years old - I am not a kid. At Christmas, my MIL gets one card addressed to everyone - I mean WTF!
If you have a seperate address, you need to start getting your own mail already!
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Also, realize that your rule of thumb is not necessarily everyone elses. Your cousin, quite honestly, might not care all that much about getting pictures of babies and in turn - doesn't think others care all that much.
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I agree that you are over-reacting. Life is not a tit for tat experience.
I didn't send formal announcements out at all
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If she didn't send any thank you note at all, that's pretty poor. As far as it goes, if I go in on a gift with someone else, I don't actually care if the person only sends one thank you note. Me and the other person figured out going in on the gift together, we can figure out "sharing" thanks, but I suppose I can see how someone might want their own.
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i guess mileage varies on this.
in my family, there are plenty of times when my sis (age 35) and myself (age 32) get invited to things and one invitation arrives addressed to my mother (who neither of us have lived with in years) and on the inside it says "and Spacebunny and Spacebunny's sister, too!" If it's co-ed, it also lists our hubby's names.
And you know what? We don't care. Invitations are expensive and the point is to invite people. We usually plan on going to the events (bridal showers, baby showers, birthdays) together anyway (gas is expensive, too!) and so who cares? We usually buy separate presents, unless we go in on something huge that costs more than $75 per person's contribution. I think I usually get my own TY but you know what? I don't care. They thank me verbally at the parties and if they don't get around to sending out a little piece of paper saying it again, I'm not going to hold it against them.
I do like getting the picture announcements and usually I get those, but again, I don't really keep track of it. Family and friends deserve a little slack on etiquette, if they're generally loving and nice folks. Life's easier when you don't sweat it.