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Advice about visitors after/during L&D

firsttogofirsttogo
in 3rd Trimester

I know I am not here yet, but I thought I would give some advice!

I was  super stressed about my meddling inlaws/family, ect. Here are some rules we went by.

1. Make your DH your bouncer. He can tell people to leave, you and baby need rest, ect. This works both at the hospital and at home. 

2. Make use of the nurses. They have no problem limiting visitors, or turning them away all together. Ours was a locked unit, and people had to sign/be buzzed in. After DS2 was born, I had some low BP issues, and anemia, so we blocked visitors for an entire afternoon. 

3. Make sure you and DH are on the same page... it is easier for you both. 

4. There is nothing wrong with just having you and DH in the delivery room. Mom, or MIL, ect will get over it. 

5. When home, make a code word, sign of some sort that is his cue to tell you and the baby to go to the bedroom because it "is time to work on BFing" even if all you do is go hog your baby on your bed!

6. It usually is not as bad as you fear when it comes to visitors. I have a HUGE family, and was literally losing sleep over this with DS1. We just set firm but polite rules, and really had no issues that I can remember.

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Re: Advice about visitors after/during L&D

  • crittermamacrittermama

    Great advice! DH and I don't live near family...which means week long visits from our parents. I have no problem excusing myself. 

    Decide before you go into labor if you want visitors while you're laboring! That way you can not only let your DH know...but the nurses too. They can say that you're resting (as you probably will be).  

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  • TiffbowTiffbow
    Yes
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  • Ms.lucky13Ms.lucky13
    been trying to drill number 4 in my head all day!
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  • samakasrcsamakasrc member
    Wow thanks for the great advice! Will definitely be using some of these ideas!
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  • LovePink2850LovePink2850
    Great advice! I'm don't get #5. I'm a little slow today. Can you break it down for me please?
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  • asnedasned

    I want to ditto your advice!!

     

    I was sooo worried last time but it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. The nurses also asked before letting anyone back and when we didn't want anyone back with us they told people "she's with the doctor, it'll be a little bit".

    Also, the nurses had a codeword with me so before I started labor they could get everyone out when I was ready for them to leave. They were truly a Godsend.

     For once we got home, THIS time I got a hotel "do not disturb" sign and will hang it on the door when we are not taking visitors. And I totally used the "time to BF" line just to go upstairs with the baby to get away.

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  • firsttogofirsttogo

    imageLovePink2850:
    Great advice! I'm don't get #5. I'm a little slow today. Can you break it down for me please?

    Just that we sometimes had lingering guests, and I wanted some alone time with my baby. 

    I get pp anxiety/depression and did not always do well in crowds. This code word was an easy way for me to get away and snuggle with baby. 

    Often guests will want to hold him so much that I would realize it had been over two hours since I had held him... New moms are territorial. 

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