Thoughts, please, and help with invitation wording

GuitaristsGirl · April 2010

Before D was born, I declined when people offered to throw a shower, and would put them off by saying, "oh, we can do something after he's born!"

Well, now he's born , and while I super appreciate everyone offering and being happy for us, I'm still uncomfortable with the idea! Many people have met him already, and most everyone who's visited has come bearing gifts.

I just don't want it to seem like we're overdoing it, asking for more gifts, etc. Others, are ganging up against me and insisting that D "deserves" to be celebrated

Sister proposed something co-ed, open-house style at a local park that's special to us. It wouldn't technically be a meet-and-greet since approx 1/2 would have met him already. . .

Do you think there's a way to word an invitation that conveys "just stop by, hang out, and be happy for us," while making it clear that this is not a gift giving opportunity? (I would really be uncomfortable if those who have already been so generous brought something else.)

(Or, do you think that such an event would still be inappropriate and I should contine to decline?)

Oh, and she asked for my thoughts re invite language, so I'm not being a *total* control freak

BoxTer · April 2010

It's tough because no matter what you write, people will probably want to bring gifts anyway. And that's OK - I think people really do love to buy things for babies (especially clothes).

emiannie · April 2010

What about calling it a "meet and greet" or a "debut". You could put a little asterisk at the bottom that say "Your generosity has been overwhelming. Please come to enjoy food and fun as a thank you for your kindness." That way you're acknowledging that they've done a ton for you so far and it sounds more like you're inviting them to a party rather than a shower.