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Kate Gosselin as a working mother
I am not a huge fan of hers by any means, but I really hate the way the media portrays her as an "absentee parent" because she works so much. Now her ex-husband is apparently trying to sue for custody since she is out of town three nights/week for the show. It is temporary, and how is it any different than any other mom who travels for work???
She is a single mom trying to support her EIGHT kids. If she has an opportunity to make good money making a fool of herself on DWTS, then she should take it! I'm so tired of hearing people say that she just wants fame. I really think she wants nothing to do with fame, but she is used to having a certain income level, and now that she is single and struggling, she'll take what she can get. I have to say that I would probably do the same thing. She does NOT look like she is enjoying herself on that show at all, and she is absolutely horrible, but she knows they need the money. What's wrong with that???
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Re: Kate Gosselin as a working mother
There's a double standard - men with kids can work as much as they want, but women cannot. Similarly, men looked down on being sahds while the moms work. You just can't win em all. IMO, you can't blame her for taking advantage of ways to make money. I mean, it's not like she's doing porn - it's dancing with the stars! lol
I know! I don't believe anyone who says they would just go back to being a nurse to support their 8 kids if they were in her shoes. She's not going to have these opportunities forever, so she should take advantage now while she is able to. I read that she is in LA from Sun-Tues. That's 3 days!!! LOTS of parents travel three days/week. It may not be ideal, but sometimes you have to do it. Also, it's temporary. She's only going to be doing it for two months tops.
I agree she is free to do whatever she wants to earn money to support her family. ?Executive women at my old employer were working more than her!?
IMO she loves being famous. ?She made enough money to live a modest life and fade into the sunset with her kids but she chooses to stay in the spotlight. ?
I used to love that show, those kids were precious! ?She and her ex are both messed up, I really hope we don't have to hear all about them much longer!?
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I agree. I'm not bashing her for making some money, but if she honestly hated the limelight she could quit and probably have no problems leading a perfectly moderate lifestyle.
I'm pretty sure she's enjoying the $$$, salon visits, surgeries, magazine covers, etc. The fact that she's said she wants her own talk show, and pretty much asked for the DWTS job tells me it's not about staying afloat, it's about staying in the public eye.
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agree with this whole thing! For someone who talked til she was blue in the face about "doing everything for her kids" she seems to be doing things more for herself. They made such crazy loads of money that as this poster stated, they could have lived a modest life. During any divorce, the kids need the parents more, but during this messy, public, and not civil divorce, these kids need their parents even more! I also think she loved the media attention when it was all positive and wanted to have absolute control - as soon as the tide turned negative, she wanted things to be spun in her favor.
I don't think there is anything wrong with traveling for work or being away from you kids, but this whole thing has been an example of "careful what you wish for". That show used to be a fun little insight into what we all deal with but to a greater level since there were more people in the family - then started all the freebies & it became about where they could go & what they could do & get instead of the little moments & little things.
I haven't watched DWTS because she is on it, nor have any of my friends or family - which is too bad because Evan is from the town we lived in. To each their own, but if you put yourself in the public limelight & take all the good it brings, you must be prepared for the negative that comes with it - every "job" has advantages & disadvantages and that is one of them for people on TV or in public's eye.
But the same could be said for actors, actresses, sports stars, or high paid executives. I mean, who am I to judge how much is enough? I think the key point here is that it's a total double standard. No one would be going "WHAT ABOUT THE CHILDREN!?!?!" if we were talking about a man here.
I hear you and I agree to an extent. I don't mind actors who act and do their job. It's the people who I feel like just do things to get into US Weekly just to be in there that bother me. I feel Kate is in that category. And that is why she bugs me. Actors and actresses are making money off of their talent, not by explioting themselves and their families for gossip fodder (not to say some actors don't do that, but I don't like them either;-) That is where I draw my line.
But I do agree there is a double standard. I mean, people trashed Jon for what he did, but that was not the norm. Though I don't see people doing that to acresses so much, do you? At least not that I noticed. I guess I try to stay away from the gossip stuff.
I think this is definitely a case of "need" verses "want." She doesn't NEED her lifestyle; she wants it.
Yes, she is taking advantage of the perks offered to her while the iron is hot, but, IMO, at the end of the day, the kids would rather have time with her instead of more things and a bigger house.
I realize it's only 3 days, but that's 3 days for DWTS. Is she not doing any other book/DVD publicity right now so she's home the rest of the time? Yes, working moms sometimes have to travel and such, but I think this is a different case entirely. They have typically spent YEARS working on their career trying to get up the corporate ladder. She didn't.
That being said, I used to love her and the show....at least until it started being all about product placement. Of course, I'm not sure I wouldn't do the same thing. Free trip to Hawaii?? Sign me up!
I think her desires go far beyond wanting to provide for her children. She's probably got a lot of money tucked away, and if she really needed to supplement that she could always go back to working as a nurse.
Nothing against her for wanting fortune and fame. It's her right to seek out what makes her happy. Happy mom=happy kids. But, I don't believe for a second that being on DWTS is her way of being a "typical" working mom, trying to provide for her family.
I don't think she has nearly as much money as some people seem to think she has. They didn't make $100 million or any large quantity of money. They did a cable show and while they lived comfortably off of their income, it wasn't an outrageous amount that would allow them to live comfortably for life.
And I agree that she enjoys the perks of being where she is (tanning, nails, hair, clothes, etc), but that isn't necessarily about being famous, it's about being wealthy, and the two are not the same thing. She just happened to get wealthy from being famous.
I don't know, I just think it's silly that so much emphasis is being put on her "abandoning" her children to work, when so many other people do the same thing and don't hear anything about it. She's not doing anything wrong (although I do find her highly annoying, lol).
I agree with you. I know plenty of professional moms who travel for their work (in fact, one of my mom friends often travels to the UK for a few days-week every few weeks).
I mean, I'm sure Kate would love to sit on her ass and live in a big fancy condo and party yadda yadda but the reality is if she doesn't the initiative to make sure that they can maintain their life style (security guards, special provisions for their safety and privacy to name a few pricey items) than no one will at this point.
And last I knew - they don't have a set bank account. So to say that they have enough to fade into the sunset is a bit naive. If they don't play for high priced security and special travel/accommodations the kids will be left out in the open without any type of protection from crazy people and paparazzi.
I agree that Kate loves the spot light but she is kind of embarrassing on this show and I think she knows it but is doing it for the continued paycheck. They laid their bed with this type of lifestyle and unfortunately I think they/she has to maintain it to maintain their life. It isn't like she could go back to being a nurse. Sorry.
Jon is just bitter he's been dumped again and no one wants anything from him because everyone knows he is a loser. Sorry, Kate isn't perfect and did plenty too but this just irritates me.
This!!!!
I think what she's doing is fine also. Jon is seriously ridiculous, trying to regain some of the limelight. As far as Kate and wanting to maintain what has become her work, well, I don't know of very many people who would backtrack and downsize their lives by choice. I am not sure of how much money she has made, in her position, I think most people would do exactly the same thing. She has become used to living at a certain pace and income, and it's perfectly natural to want to keep that up. I say wring it dry Kate!