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LucyPevensie
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I hope your Easter was better than mine....
LucyPevensie
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I really didn't think we could top Christmas (DH's brother threatening to punch him in the face) - but - we did! I am not sure how the family that travels 6 - 8 hours with a toddler is somehow always in the wrong - but - we are!
This trip got exciting when MIL lectured us about co-sleeping with Jack, how "it's wrong!" (said several times) and we "can do whatever we want with our child" (ya don't say) but she "says what she THINKS!"
I took deep breaths .. and blew it off. Oh, and this was after she threw a mini-tantrum because we went and got a pizza Saturday night because THERE WAS NO FOOD AND WE WERE STARVING ... a pizza that we brought back for everybody (along with a meatball hoagie that I cut up for Jack who, um, also needed to eat because he's a TODDLER.) We found out she was mad because she had wanted to cook a roast. Or so she told DH's brother. Except ... there was no roast. Hmmmm....
We had Easter brunch Sunday (instead of Easter dinner) and DH's brother texted him that we were totally selfish and "that's EFFED!" that we changed the plans to brunch from dinner and he wasn't coming!
Except we didn't change the plans. We were informed of the change by MIL Friday night when we arrived in town. We could have cared LESS when or where we ate on Easter. But ... we're the villains, so it musta been our evil doing.
Earlier Easter morning she stormed out of the kitchen with a bowl of Kashi and locked herself in her bedroom for 3 hours because of something DH said, I can't even remember what.
Monday morning (MIL's birthday .... oops) she started on Jack. First she said it was FINE for him to play with the table pad "go ahead" in sugary fake voice and then "OK .. no. NO. NO!!" and then "OK ... go ahead." When I (nicely) said, "if you tell him no, don't then tell him yes, it will confuse him," I got:
"You have to tell him no sometimes!"
"Yes, that's fine, but if you tell him no, then yes, you'll confuse him and make him cry."
"Well sometimes he's gonna cry!"
"Right, but we don't need to MAKE him cry by confusing him."
"Well, OK, that's right, that's a good way to get back at me (huh?) but I only told him to go ahead because of that LOOK on your face!"
Funny ... she hadn't even looked up at me so I'm not sure how she saw my face.
Well ... that was it. I was shaking mad ... went in the bedroom and packed ... took Jack outside and then told FIL I didn't feel well (true) and wasn't going to eat breakfast (that she was making) and we were going to take a walk.
When I got back - she was gone, and never came back to say goodbye.
And the kicker!!!!! DH ..... is mad ..... at ME!
Ta DAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!
(Qualifiers: MIL is old. And batty. I could've been the bigger person and ignored her. And sat and ate breakfast. Especially given that it was her birthday. But I had a human reaction and got angry. This is not new behavior on her part but I have ignored it in the past. But when it got personal with my baby... I got really ticked. I did not say anything rude. I just took a walk to cool off and blew off the scrambled eggs because I could not sit at the table with her at that point. But in acknowledging her nastiness AT ALL (you're not allowed to do that) I am very, very evil.)
Ugh. I don't ever want to go back. I really don't.
Wheee!
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
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Re: I hope your Easter was better than mine....
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Sounds like you have a bunch of crazies on your hands. I'm sorry your Easter weekend was such a bust.
me too. very sad.
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
funny, I was going to stop by there and sell you some crazy, but it LOOKS LIKE YOU WERE ALL STOCKED UP THERE!
Hon, I think "D"H is just pissy cuz now his family is certifiably more nuts than yours. Insight is hard.
huggers. (or shall I pour?)
Happy Easter! Ha ha.
sounds like a hell of a weekend. Sorry you had to deal with all of that.
If it makes you feel any better, I had to deal with some crazy of my own. My mom got drunk and repeatedly called my 12 year old nephew an a$$hole because he said he'd never before had a family recipe. He's the sweetest kid in the world, but because he didn't remember spinach souffle, he's an a$$hole. He must've loved hearing that from his grandma. I figured she'd sober up and feel bad about it the next day, but nope - she defended it. And she said that my brother (nephew's dad) thanked her for saying it because he needed to hear it. Yeah, a 12 year old (who is seriously the kindest kid I've ever met) needed to hear his grandma call him an a$$hole. Quality parenting there.
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Sitting here laughing in horror and solidarity!!
Please tell your 12 year old nephew that I would like to spend Easter with HIM next year, and I will never, ever refer to him as an assshole. He, Jack and I will have a lovely time.
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
I think "D"H is just pissy cuz now his family is certifiably more nuts than yours.
Was trying to respond:
And THAT is QUITE AN IMPRESSIVE FEAT on their part!
But the bump sensed my ire and got frightened and went koo koo or something.
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
Hi Alicia. I just wanted to send you some {{{HUGS}}} from the "other side"
I am so sorry your easter sucked. Your MIL sounds a bit crazy and I am PO'd at your DH for taking her side. I hate when husbands do that. MAN UP for goodness sake. So disrespectful to you, on both their parts.
'{{{HUGS}}}
it's these crazy MIL stories that make me stay as far away as possible from my MIL. geez, lucyp. what a suckaSS weekend. next time say "screw 'em all" and pack your bags and sweet little jack and come and visit the ginster and me.
(this time you have to show up. the door's unlocked remember?")
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"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
Sounds like any trip and time spent with DH's family. Err, I mean mother. Except she's non-confrontational. She'll just storm out of the room saying "whatever is whatever" any time there is something she doesn't agree with. That phrase rubs me wrong every time I hear someone using it because I think of my evil MIL.
We are also about 8 hours from them so luckily we don't have to see them very often.
Megan Hope 2yrs 3months
Wow. I would be upset/pissed too. I would never want to go back either and I would probably only go back in a very special rare case. Does your DH see a problem with how she treats you (and Jack) at all? Does she treat your DH the same way?
Anyways, I am sorry that you had to spend your Easter weekend with some nutty people and I hope that your DH gets it and supports you.
Well..look at it this way.. every day is a new opportunity for more material for our road show!
My Easter was... well.. full of material too! We drove 2 hours one way to the middle of nowhere MI farm country to DH's grandma's house. Met Dh's dad there. Arrived at 11:30. Grandma was in the kitchen preparing a big salad, fruit platter, meat and cheese tray.. Dh asked her what time we were eating. Grandma said that dinner was at 5:30 cause her other son's family.. (who live down the street from her and she sees everyday) were already attending an Easter brunch and couldn't make it till then.
Yeah.. with our boys schedule, we can't stay that late and then make the drive back. We told her that. DH told his dad that before we came.
We left at 3:30 without even being offered so much as a piece of cheese and a cracker or a glass of water.
I ate my left over Chipotle burrito when I got home. Happy freakin Easter!
Can't put it any better than this!
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LOL Awful!! Chipotle! Mmmmmm
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
Ugh!! Don't go back there...ever!
At least you don't see your FIL naked... that's all I got!
Wow, and I thought my MIL was annoying because she asked us to show her how to work the remote for her new TV 175 times.
That totally sucks. I'm sorry. I think I would have blown up much earlier and much worse than you did.