registering for 2nd baby?

MelH926 · April 2010

What are your thoughts on registering for a 2nd baby? Absolute no no or ok for a few things?

LCB34 · April 2010

Big time no-no in my book.

MrsSR · April 2010

it's a no-no out here as well.....

I think it depends on your family/customs

ashopaholicmom · April 2010

You will get varied responses from bumpies depending on the area they live in and what is normal in their circle.

Do woman in your area get showers for 2nd (or 3rd etc...) babies? I would think if there will be a full blown shower a registry will help some guests.

Good Luck :-)

Shayna0182 · April 2010

I don't really see a problem with a small registry. Our kids will barely be a year apart, so we don't need a lot of stuff. I'd probably use the registry more for the completion discount.

RitaT22 · April 2010

I think it depends on your regional location. Here, people have second, and even third showers (ridiculous to me). I know of parents that opted out of having a second shower when their LO was the same gender as baby #1. However, from seeing posts around this board, I'll bet many will say it is not appropriate.

MrsMommyQ · April 2010

In my area/circle of friends no one would even think to look for a registry for a 2nd or 3rd baby bc no one does them. I personally think it's a no-no.

Butterbean52 · April 2010

No way. (If ppl ask/offer -- if you need anything, that's different.)

BlessedMommy723 · April 2010

DH and I are debating on registering for a few things for this baby, especially if it's a boy. We aren't planning on having a shower or a sprinkle, but were thinking about registering for the coupons they send just before you give birth.

I really think it depends on where you live and how your friends and family do things. Our families and friends are all about showers for everything, including second babies. It's just what they do. Everyone looked at me like I was nuts when I said we weren't planning on having a shower. I'm willing to bet that someone will still throw a small sprinkle for necessities like diapers, clothes (if it's a boy), etc for me.

SuperCuteBenz · April 2010

I am registering but only because I want the completion coupon from Target and BRU. We were told that we are having a boy (at 12 weeks), and if that turns out to be the case then I have boy stuff to buy. The more money I save the better.

I am definitely not having a shower.

MelH926 · April 2010

Well it's not standard in my family, yet I know at the very least my co workers will throw me a shower (they told me), and I know friends/family will buy things as well... I was also thinking about the completion discount! Still up in the air about it though...

Soon_2B_MrsM · April 2010

MelH926:
What are your thoughts on registering for a 2nd baby? Absolute no no or ok for a few things?

My family believes that if the sex is different you register again or if your first was like 7 or so years ago you can register again. but otherwise no.

km52408 · April 2010

My sister made a wish list for her second at BRU. It was helpful because people would ask me what they could get her and I could just refer them to that. It was just a few little things. I don't see anything wrong with it as long as it is not a solicitation for presents!

stephkatande · April 2010

We had a girl first and now we are having a boy, so we are registering for some boy stuff. My sister, who is throwing a shower for us, insisted on it. Everyone has a different opinion about it, but I don't think it's a big deal. It's not like I expect people to get us something. But if they do, a registry makes it easier, I think.

wife1014 · April 2010

I don't see registering for a second child to be that horrific, but in no way would I tell anyone that I registered. I figure if someone wanted to buy me something, they may just take a peek to see if there was a registry. At least, that is what I do...

I also would refuse a second shower or sprinkle. I think it is totally tacky no matter what gender your second child is.

ougrad1 · April 2010

I think I'm getting a surprise second shower because my friends know I would object to it. I'm not registering. No way.

brideatbeach · April 2010

We are getting a second shower for this baby and we will be registering for a few small things and or necessities. In our area there is nothing wrong with it. I am surprised at how many people think it is tacky. You celebrated the first one so why not the second? It does not mean you necessarily need or have to take that person a gift.

The Housewife · April 2010

I always thought big time no-no.

However, my MIL asked me to put one together. I am not having a shower and expect absolutly no gifts from anyone. But Dh's family would send a gift if I told them I went to the bathroom. They send gifts for EVERYTHING - his Aunt sent us some mustard from the Indians Stadium last year just cause. So MIL wanted me to put together a small registry of what we needed/ were going to buy for the baby so that if anyone asked what they should get us, it's there. There are 5 or 6 things on it and I think the most expensive is $25. It's sheets that match the bedding, the brand of baby wash we use, ect.

Do I still feel totally tacky doing it? Absolutly.

Emattsmom · April 2010

I am registering just like I did with my first. I have people begging to give me a shower so I am letting them. I have nothing from my first due to certain circumstances. I do not see a problem with registering for 2nd+ children and I have not ever heard of anyone in this area having issues with it either.

Gummybear · April 2010

No way. I have never been to a shower for a 2nd, or seen anyone register for a second baby. It's just not the norm around here.

wife1014 · April 2010

brideatbeach:
We are getting a second shower for this baby and we will be registering for a few small things and or necessities. In our area there is nothing wrong with it. I am surprised at how many people think it is tacky. You celebrated the first one so why not the second? It does not mean you necessarily need or have to take that person a gift.

I do not mean this to be snarky, but would you register and have a second shower if you got divorced and remarried...it is a celebration.

in0the0middle · April 2010

my SIL just threw herself a shower (!!!) for her second baby because MIL refused to. her first is only two years old and they are both boys, but she still registered for EVERYTHING you could possibly need for a baby...swing, bouncy seat, bottles, the whole nine yards. i was kind of like...what in the world? did they throw away ALL their baby stuff in the last 2 years?...but we bought them some clothes because their first was born in the winter and this one will be born in may. i know a lot of the family didn't show up for the shower because they were kind of miffed about it. then MIL and SIL were offended because certain people didn't show up and threatened to not show up for easter dinner because they were mad... i think you can see where this is going.?

personally, it wouldn't bother me if someone registered for a second baby or having a "sprinkle" if the baby was a different gender than the first, but i would stick to small, inexpensive, gender-specific items, like bedding, sippy cups, clothes, toys, blankets, etc. i'm picking gender neutral designs for the larger items in our registry to avoid this problem next time around. you probably know better than us how your family and friends would take it, but just my two cents!

Is it June yet? · April 2010

I'm going to do it for the completion coupons. I wasn't planning on actually telling anyone about it. haha I am going to need a few new things... double stroller, another crib (or toddler bed), etc.

sopranole · April 2010

I actually registered today for baby number 2. I was shocked at how much stuff I actually need for my second. So many things have worn out or broken (bottles, pacis, our play mat, umbrella stroller, baby monitor, etc...). And this time I am having a girl, so I want new bedding and some stuff for the nursery, which is being redecorated. I know that our families will buy stuff from the registry, which is the main reason I registered. I also have some friends and coworkers that will want to do something, so I think it is nice to let them know what we actually need. Regardless of who will actually buy off the registry, I also wanted the 10% off completion coupons.

Pumpkin&Roo · April 2010

Absolutely not. I would feel uncomfortable getting baby gifts from anyone other than immediate family for baby #2, I am guessing my sister, SILs, parents and in-laws will probably get a cute outfit or a book for the new baby but that's it.

618mom22boys · April 2010

Seeing how close your children are in age and that they are the same sex, I would not. I did with DS2, but my 1st 2 boy are 8 years apart. I am not registering nor am I having a shower this time around.

Mrsalt027 · April 2010

Depends on how long since last baby. I think it's general considered ok if it's been 5 or more years since your last child, but even then I know a lot of people frown on it.

allyandpat2010 · April 2010

Due to circumstances (and a best friend and SIL just dying to throw me one) I am having a full blown shower. (this is DH ans I's 4th but our first together). Its been 7 years since I had my DD and my DH hardly has any baby items. Now we bought the big items ourselves, but I am not gonna lie, it was fun registering for all the cool stuff thats come out in the last 7 years!

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