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HATE it when DH is right!

DMD1029DMD1029 member
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So, I'm WAY out of shape.  I know it.  My pants know it.  I haven't really worked out consistently since I hit the 2ww...that was about 8 weeks/6 lbs ago.  Plus, the only thing that seems to help the morning sickness is constant eating of not-so-good-for-me food. 

DH gave me a hard time all weekend about being out of shape.  He was being a butt-head and even made a comment that my arms look like his grandmother's (to be honest, they do).  We went for a walk yesterday.  I felt fine, but something "popped" in the back of my knee and now I seem to have a torn meniscus.  Grrrr.  Haven't told DH yet, but I'm limping, so it's going to be hard to hide.  I'd be pissed at him, but he's right. 

Crap, crap, crap!

TTC #1,
IUI #1: December 2008 - BFN
IVF #1: Microdose Lupron - July 2009; only got 1 egg; BFN
IVF #2: Natural IVF - Sept 2009; BFP!; D&C Nov. 2009
IVF #3: Natural IVF - ER: Feb 4, 2010 - 1 "M2" egg retrieved; ET: Feb 9; Beta#1 (19dpo): 2567; Beta #2: 6933; BFP w/ singleton w/strong hrtbt! DS born October 2010
TTC#2
IVF #4: Natural IVF - ER: Nov. 20, 2011; ET: Nov. 25, 2011; BFP! Beta#1 (19dpo): 1918; Saw hrtbt on 12/28/11!
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Re: HATE it when DH is right!

  • joyfulnaturejoyfulnature

    Hi, DMD.

    Not to be a devil's advocate or anything, but that whole "I'm going to motivate you by being a jerky butt-head" thing does not work for me AT ALL.

    It's the first trimester. You're tired, for goodness sake. And queasy. 

    Of course gentle exercise is great for you. And you already know that. And it's great for your DH to ENCOURAGE you. Nicely.

      

     

     

     

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  • DMD1029DMD1029 member
    Yeah, I know and agree. He's being a jerk.  I pushed back when he first said it and am now just pissed that he's actually right - I am horribly out of shape, regardless of the reason. 
    TTC #1,
    IUI #1: December 2008 - BFN
    IVF #1: Microdose Lupron - July 2009; only got 1 egg; BFN
    IVF #2: Natural IVF - Sept 2009; BFP!; D&C Nov. 2009
    IVF #3: Natural IVF - ER: Feb 4, 2010 - 1 "M2" egg retrieved; ET: Feb 9; Beta#1 (19dpo): 2567; Beta #2: 6933; BFP w/ singleton w/strong hrtbt! DS born October 2010
    TTC#2
    IVF #4: Natural IVF - ER: Nov. 20, 2011; ET: Nov. 25, 2011; BFP! Beta#1 (19dpo): 1918; Saw hrtbt on 12/28/11!
    BabyFruit Ticker
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  • MAH123MAH123
    I did not exercise the entire first tri with DD. I had exercised with my first 3 pgs and I lost all of them early on. I KNOW it wasn't related, but I was petrified to do anything more than walk. Also, my RE doesn't like high impact exercise after an IVF or Fet for the first tri. 
    1 ectopic 3 m/c's prior to 5/05 Un-freaking-explained IF 5/05 IVF, BFN 9/05 FET 3d5e, BFP = Beautiful Baby Girl (lucky pg #5) 8/08 Fet 3d5e, cp 12/08 IVF with PGD, transfer 3, BFN 5/09 FET transfer 4, BFN Hail Mary IUI with Follistim 9/11 BFP; 9/22 confirmed tubal/MTX 4/10 FET 3d5e, BFP!!!! m/c 5/26/10 1 year break and yet another m/c 5/11 FET #5 initial beat 121, second beta 7 Lap and removal of L tube and very mild endo 7/11 Suprise BFP 12/11 & m/c @ 8 wks. After 11 losses and one beautiful miracle our journey is over, we are thankful and at peace.
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  • NowDNAtooNowDNAtoo

    Your husband would really be after me then because I haven't exercised since TTC DS and that was since June '06.  The only 'exercise' I've gotten is taking leisurely walks around the neighborhood, lifting and then more recently chasing after DS.

    I hope you really didn't tear anything and it was just your softening ligaments giving a bit more.

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker TTC #1 Cycle #18 m/c Jan. 9, 2007, chemical pg May 4, 2007, methotrexate shot Oct. 5, 2007--m/c Oct. 9, 2007, IUI Nov. 17, 2007 It worked! beta 11/30 & 12/6 TTC #2 Cycle #5 IUI July 20, 2009 -BFN 8-3-09 Cycle #6 IUI August 17, 2009-BFP! 8-31-09, beta 9-1-09, 9-8-09, saw the H/B 9-22-09 EDD 5-10-10
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  • joyfulnaturejoyfulnature

    imageDMD1029:
    Yeah, I know and agree. He's being a jerk.  I pushed back when he first said it and am now just pissed that he's actually right - I am horribly out of shape, regardless of the reason. 

    Just don't get down on yourself, ok? I mean, sheesh, you've been dealing with a lot - just trying to get pregnant!

    Sometimes men have the craziest ways of showing they care....

     

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  • izzourclueizzourclue member
    imagejoyfulnature:

    Hi, DMD.

    Not to be a devil's advocate or anything, but that whole "I'm going to motivate you by being a jerky butt-head" thing does not work for me AT ALL.

    It's the first trimester. You're tired, for goodness sake. And queasy. 

    Of course gentle exercise is great for you. And you already know that. And it's great for your DH to ENCOURAGE you. Nicely.

    This.  If my DH ever made fun of my arms or said anything negative about how I looked or that I needed to exercise, I would cry and ignore him for days.  It doesn't matter if he is "right", you know when you are in shape and "look your best" and when you are not. You don't need the one person that is supposed to accept and love you no matter how you look pointing it out.  Not make you feel bad, but you deserve better.  Sorry about your injury.  I hope you feel better soon.

     

     

     

    I give up trying to get a ticker.  I have a DD that is 2.5 years old and is awesome.  Maybe I'll add a quote to distinguish myself.  Hmmm.  How about...

    "It is more fun to talk with someone who doesn't use long, difficult words but rather short, easy words like "What about lunch?" - A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh
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  • cbeneycbeney
    If you have gone thru so much to get preg, then i understand not wanting to risk it by over-exercising! He's crazy! LOL ?I think just walking and yoga would be all the doc would recommend??
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  • lisa&lairdlisa&laird

    Just throwing my 'two cents' in.  You need to exercise when YOU feel like it.  No good ever comes from someone (especially your partner), nagging you and drawing comparisons to grandmother's etc.  This is an extremely 'trying' time in your life when you have to look after your mind, body and spirit first.  You are growing a human being in there!  That in and of itself is a hurculean task!  Think......... GENTLE!  Everything that you should do, should be gentle and nurturing to your spirit.  Your dh's negative energy is not good for you!  Tell him to hop on this board and we will 'talk' to him!  heehee  Exercise schmexercise!  You do whatever you want to do when you feel up to it!  *hugs*  :)

    Lisa

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  • MrsKarioMrsKario

    Im a little pissed at your H.  There was NO reason for him to compare your arms to your grandmothers.  That is NOT motivating. 

     

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