Absentee Baby Shower

Re: Absentee Baby Shower

• hopefulmom member

  March 2010

  I think I would print out the page in the etiquette book that deals with this and send it to her (along with a gift once the baby is born).  Extremely tacky for a variety of reasons...first and foremost SHE is the one sending out invites for gifts to be given.

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• mysticporter

  March 2010

  LolaLoCascio:

  So I have to get some opinions on this... My friend knows this girl who recently sent out invitations for an absentee baby shower. They live out of state and decided not to come home for a baby shower so sent invites basically asking for people to send gifts. She is not on bed rest, they WERE given a shower by friends, and they also make very good money and can afford to buy their own stuff. I would have thought that sending out birth announcements after the arrival of their LO would suffice, and honestly most people would send them a congratulatory gift at that point. Personally I found this to be extremely tacky but I am interested to see what others think.

  I completely agree with you, that's horrid in invite someone to give you a gift.
  

  
  

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• ctana member

  March 2010

  There are NO WORDS that describe the level of tackiness.  Somewhere Emily Post is rolling over.

  

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• BarbieNCSU

  March 2010

  I'm not a fan of these either. My MIL had mentioned to my mother that she was thinking about doing one for us since we live 14 hours away from DH's family. MIL wanted to have everyone over and video tape it or take pictures for me - which IMO is completely ridiculous when she could have tried to throw an actual shower during a time when we went to visit prior to the baby - if throwing us a shower was something she really wanted to do.

   I definitely think its wrong for the mommy to be to send out invites to an absentee shower. That imo is ridiculous and seems very gift grabby - like the op said some people will send gifts once the baby is born anyway.

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• EastCoastBride member

  March 2010

  Incredibly tacky.  Especially as she sent out the "invites" herself.  this is just a blatant gift grab and if I had gotten such an "invitation", the person could be guarenteed to NOT get a gift from me.  No way am I supporting this crap.

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• avbliss member

  March 2010

  Super Super tacky!!!
  

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• mlkwmu

  April 2010

  that's pretty bad. Anyone that wanted to get her a gift baby shower or no baby shower would have anyways. 

  

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• mrsmegs06

  April 2010

  hopefulmom:

  I think I would print out the page in the etiquette book that deals with this and send it to her (along with a gift once the baby is born).  Extremely tacky for a variety of reasons...first and foremost SHE is the one sending out invites for gifts to be given.

   

  I couldn't agree more.
  

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• Disneygeek77 member

  April 2010

  I agree pretty tacky but this is something my mom would do. 

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• BeckyTheEngineer

  April 2010

  Wait, so there was no actual shower (without the guest of honor) at all?  She just "invited" people to shop off her registry and mail stuff to her house?  Yeah, that's out of control gift-grabby.

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