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laura&dan05
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Clomid M/C 8 weeks 2/08 *IVF #1-DD born 3/09
*Surprise BFP-T18 baby lost at 13w 1/10 *FET #1-DS born 2/11
Healing and decisions made about moving forward (long)
laura&dan05
member
This has been such an emotionally draining week for me. As part of our healing and moving forward we decided to find out the sex of the baby we lost.
I left a message with the genetic counselor on Monday and she called back on Tuesday morning. It was a boy. Our baby boy...our son...Hannah's little brother. I couldn't tell Dh until that evening and it was the WORST thing I've ever had to tell him. I will never forget the look on his face.
The next day I had to go to Target and buy a birthday gift for a 3 year old boy. I cried my eyes out on the toy car/truck aisle. Poor Hannah probably thought her mommy was crazy. I got home to find an invitation in the mail to my cousins baby shower. She's 20, unmarried, no job, not in school, and has been dating her boyfriend for 11 months and is having a baby boy next month. I threw the invitation in the trash and cried some more. That evening is when my neighbor came over to tell me she's unexpectedly 14 weeks pg (I posted about that the other night).
I'm in the process of making a memory box for our baby boy. I'm going to print out pictures of us all together when I was pg. I have all of his u/s pictures and then the cards and letters we recieved after he was gone.
On a happier note we made some decisions about moving forward. We met with the RE about 5 weeks after my d&e and made a plan but weren't sure when we'd be ready to act on it. We had a good talk last night and decided to move forward with a FET hopefully sometime in May. I'm waiting for my period so I can start BCP. We have a really fun and busy weekend planned (including an over night date tonight) and the weather is beautiful.
I'm so thankful for this board and all of your support.
Clomid M/C 8 weeks 2/08 *IVF #1-DD born 3/09
*Surprise BFP-T18 baby lost at 13w 1/10 *FET #1-DS born 2/11
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Re: Healing and decisions made about moving forward (long)
I'm bawling reading your post.
Huge huge hugs to you.
I hope you find peace as you navigate the rocky path of grief.
I hope that trying again brings you new hope.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
World_of_Dennifer
Bloomin'_Babies
Married/Nest_Bio
I so sorry Laura! It must all be so hard to deal with.
I'm glad you made a decision on moving forward.
I hope you have a fantastic weekend.
I'm sorry for your loss. I know how you feel about knowing the gender of your baby. But it's sometimes brings closure.
I hope you have a wonderful weekend.
HUGS to you!
*hugs*
Have a great weekend away!!
i'm crying for you right now.
i'm glad you have plans for the weekend to keep you busy--and also to move forward with the FET!
((((hugs))))
I am so sorry. Your post is making me cry. I am sure that was the hardest thing you ever had to tell your DH.
From experience, I will say that moving forward provides some healing, but not complete healing.
What an incredibly hard time this must be. I'm so sorry - best of luck moving forward. I can certainly relate, after we lost the Doodles it was so important to me to try and move forward and try again, not, of course, to replace them, but to give me something positive to work towards.
((hugs)) Your post made me cry. I think the memory box is a wonderful idea. I can't imagine how terrible this last week must have been for you.
I'm also glad to hear that you have a plan for moving forward, and we will all be here for you throughout that process and throughout your next pregnancy.
I am so so sorry for the loss of your baby boy, I really am.
Moving forward, I am so excited for you and I wish you a quick BFP and a wonderful full term and healthy pregnancy!
I'm so sorry you had to make that decision and deal with it. We chose not to find out the sex when we had karyotyping done, but I can see why you would want to.
I can just hear the heartbreak in your words...I really hope this helps you get through the grieving process and move forward.
I am so sorry for your loss.
{{{hugs}}}
i'm so sorry you're going through this.
i'm glad that you have a plan for moving forward, and am so sorry for your loss. (((huge hugs)))
Oh Laura.....I am SO sorry
I can't imagine how hard it was to hear about your baby boy.
I can't even imagine. And all of the baby related things that have happened this week must have been really difficult. I am glad you have a plan set in place now and hopefully that will help your healing process somewhat.
I hope you can enjoy your weekend.
(((HUGS)))