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Y do people have nasty reply's to post...
if you don't like what people write, then close the post and move on. there is no need to be nasty about things. I hate people that have to add their rude little comments in people's post. ANd i hate when people call you honey and don't even know you.
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Re: Y do people have nasty reply's to post...
One of the things about our board, is that we are very open with our terms of endearments. Yes, they can be snotty at times, but 90% they are based on support and concern.
Second, Sparky was not nasty. She was, in fact stating the very obvious. We CAN only go so far in giving you information because divorces, custody and child support vary from State to State.
By asking such very finite questions, we can only give you generalities.
Fourth and more to the point, no where did any of your posts say that you HAD put a lawyer on retainer. This was a question that should be asked of your lawyer - based on your state's laws and precedents.
Fifth, while we are a wonderfully supportive group of women, we ARE NOT sugar coaters. We do not have the time to give flowery responses just so posters won't get their panties in a bunch over "perceived" slights.
We will give you the best advice that we can, from our experiences. And we will be as supportive as we can. HOWEVER, if that support means giving you a swift kick in the tuccus, then by god we will do that too (though Sparky was quite nice). Why - because our greater concern is doing what is best for the FAMILY, not soothing feelings.
Finally, try not to call someone out and then DD. It is rude. And really, if you are going to call someone else out for their rudeness, it is best not to be rude too. Black is not a pretty color on anyone.
Again, please do not feel that this response is meant to be mean, dismissive or a push out. We value our differences as well as our communal struggles.
Sweet heart, welcome to the world wide web. Put some big girl panties on. :-)
Take what you read with a grain of salt or you'll sprout gray hairs everywhere.
Sweetie,
Weren't you the poster asking everything under the sun about child support because "there was no money for an attorney?" This board is not your substitute legal counsel. Grow up.
Some ppl are really helpful and gentle, I always thought of myself as very thick skinned, but after all ive gone through....when it comes to my situation or my kids...Im really sensitive.
You just need to take it as it comes, sometimes I read something and Im like oh ok whatever. Other times Im so grateful I asked because you cant buy the advice you get from some women.
Pick and choose your battles, thats a must here and anywhere in your life. Im learning very quickly some women want to help some just want to take their crap out on someone. Let it go whatever it was.