BM is BSC and is keeping SD
SO and I are so p!ssed right now, why can she do this? He has been there for his daughter since the day she was born and they have had a verbal agreement since she was born that SO would have her at his house 50% of the time and she would have her 50% of the time. (they were young-er and not really in a committed relationship when she got PG, but he knew his responsibilities and has ALWAYS thought of his DD before himself, unlike her BM). Even tho she told him he'd never have to pay CS he has been for the past 2 1/2 years.
Why is it okay for the mom to do this, but if he ever tried to do something like this (which he would NEVER because he knows he'd be in the wrong) he would probably get arrested in a heart-beat? We are meeting with his lawyer tomorrow at 4! I can't wait and am SO happy that he is finally going to take this to court so she can't ever do this again.
Re: BM is BSC and is keeping SD
Were the police called over this matter, or are you just guessing that nothing would happen to her?
Exactly this. Get a CO stat and follow it. Also am I missing something??? What has she done that is so BSC? I'm not having much sympathy here. B/C your DH did not get a CO in the first place you are now dealing with this BS. So if anything be pissed at him b/c he didn't handle his business and get a legally binding CO and documented CS calculated. If you want us to understand then you need to give more information instead of a line that BM is BSC and keeping SD. You never know from her perspective you may be the BSC one. Just a thought.
This! and You'll be lucky if when they do put a CO in place and Calculate CS you won't be hit w/ a whopping arrears payment b/c it can go all the way back to when the child was born. And they don't have to accept what you say you paid as CS payments especially if it's no where near what was supposed to be paid.
It was handled wrong your H was misinformed and misguided. He didn't protect his rights and she's not BSC because possession is 9/10 of the law and that includes children. She has her and she doesn't HAVE to let him have visitation without a CO making her. Is he even on the birth certificate? Because if they weren't married when the child was born he will have to prove paternity.
The only thing working in your favor is you have had consistant visits and an established relationship.
this.
I know not all courts are biased, but there are a lot that give mothers the advantage. Sad, but true.
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